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Have You Fallen Into The Relationship Fat Trap?

10/10/2010 18:56 | Updated 22 May 2015

When you first got together you were so excited you couldn't sleep or eat and the pounds seemed to drop off. Fast forward six months and you're blissfully happy and, well, so comfortable together - it's just a shame your jeans are anything but!

Yes, you've fallen into a relationship fat trap...
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Relationship fat traps

Shopping, laughing, reading, sleeping. These days you do everything together - including eating. But are you really hungry, or just eating because he is? As much as you love doing things together, there's no reason for you to always eat at the same times - particularly if he gets home late from work or is a late night snacker. Assert some independence and only eat when you're hungry.

Relationship fat traps

"Unless you and your mate are the same height and weight and exercise the same amount, you don't require the same number of calories. So your portions probably shouldn't be the same, either," says dietitian Molly Kimball. You don't have to cook separate meals. Simply dish up half the amount he's having and fill your plate up with a green salad or extra veggies.

Relationship fat traps

You enjoy being together so much that every meal out feels like a celebration. Which is lovely, until you realise how many extra calories the 'celebration mindset' comes with. Skip the rich sauces (steal a spoonful of his if you must) and make sure to share any pudding - unless it's fresh fruit of course.

Relationship fat traps

When you've had a bad day there's nothing better than coming home to your loved one. Cooking your man a high-fat dinner after a stressful day at work may be the way to his heart, but it's also the way to a coronary. Likewise, if your man buys you chocolates as a pick-me-up, it's time to request flowers or a back rub.

Relationship fat traps

You didn't keep any treats in the house when you were single, so it was easy to avoid temptation. If your man moved the biscuit barrel in with him you'll need to get smart about snacking. "Find snacks that he likes that aren't enticing to you or buy single-serving packages of his favorite foods," suggests Kimball.

Relationship fat traps

Don't make every date about food, advises Elizabeth Josefsberg, Director of Brand Advocacy for Weight Watchers. "Avoid habitually going out to dinner, or even regularly going to the movies, where you'll end up eating a sandpail-sized portion of popcorn." Instead, think about taking up a sport together or go for a walk - hand in hand, of course.

Relationship fat traps

Obesity expert Professor Kiortsis believes married couples put on weight as they exercise less often than before. "Unmarried people often spend a lot of time keeping fit and making themselves attractive to find a partner," he says. "But once they get married they let themselves go. The need to hunt for a partner is reduced," he says. The answer? Work out together.

Relationship fat traps

There's nothing wrong with enjoying a glass of wine but if drinking a bottle (or more) of vino together has become habitual, you could be damaging your health, as well as piling on the pounds. A bottle of wine contains around 500 calories. Try mixing wine with soda water and be sure to order by the glass rather than the bottle in restaurants.

Relationship fat traps

There are few things more wonderful than sharing an indulgent breakfast in bed at the weekend – but do you know how many calories you're consuming? You might think you're being healthy by giving up the traditional fry-up in favour of cereals, but it pays to read the label clearly. One bowl of granola, for example, can contain around 500 calories.

Relationship fat traps

Weight loss guru Dr Howard Shapiro says men who sabotage your diet (whether with chocolates or 'rewarding' your weight loss with trips to restaurants) aren't necessarily selfish or thoughtless. "Your partner isn't a mind reader so tell him what he can do to help – for example going for a walk with you or keeping crisps somewhere you don't know about."

Relationship fat traps

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