Missing out on the best sex of your life? Not sure? Try gently running your mental fingers over these stimulating snippets from spiritual gurus who've lead millions of frustrated folk beyond genital stimulation to the orgasmic bliss of tantra.
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Orgasm brings us the closest to the divine
"Before you read on, let me define what I mean by spiritual sex: it is sexual energy that goes beyond physical sensations of pleasure and genital orgasms. It is not limited to genital stimulation and the release of tension through a quick and simple orgasm. When spiritual sex is consciously practiced, there's a quality of heightened awareness and expanded consciousness.
In the moment of orgasm, there's a bonding between the right side of our brain - the artistic and feeling side, and the left side - the centre of thinking and logic. When intuition and intelligence fuse into one zero point of total connection, the ego disappears, time dissolves and you become one with consciousness, with life."
Margo Anand, author of Sexual Ecstasy: The Art of Orgasm (£9.99, Jeremy P Tarcher)
Men behaving badly
"Woman's basic unhappiness is because man can no longer reach her physically. Her emotional excess, depressions, tearful frustrations, even premenstrual tension are due to man's sexual failure to gather or release in lovemaking her finest, fundamental, female energies.
These extraordinarily beautiful divine energies are intense and exquisite and when left untapped in woman, as they are now, degenerate into psychic or emotional disturbances, and eventually crystallise into physical abnormalities."
Barry Long, one of the world's great spiritual masters, now passed
Kinky does it
"During sex, the body's energy may become stagnant, heavy or 'stuck'. Biting, slapping, and pinching can be used to rouse a listless or sluggish body into more energetic ecstasy. Use these means freely, with real love and careful sensitivity. These techniques are simply aspects of creative sexual loving, and should be used equally by men and women."
David Deida, provocative American spiritual teacher and genius at explaining the differences between men and women and how to bridge that gap successfully