Expert Advice: What Do I Say To Comfort My Friend After Her Miscarriage?

05/04/2011 18:28 | Updated 22 May 2015

My friend had a late miscarriage recently. I want to help her as much as I can, but I'm terrified of saying something tactless or stupid. What should I say or is it better to say nothing at all?

'We are all different and our needs will be different in this situation.

Be honest with your friend: tell her you have not been through this but you would like to help. Ask her what support she would like and let her know you will come to visit, listen or give her space depending on what she feels she needs.

This is a very difficult time for her. Listen if she wants to talk (she may not), acknowledging what she says without giving your opinions.

Tell her you may make mistakes but you want to help.

Try to find out more by researching on the internet.

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