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I Want Children Now: Girl, 17, Devastated Family By Marrying Biker, 50, But They Are Still Happy Five Years Later

04/01/2012 17:41 | Updated 22 May 2015
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The couple with the biggest age gap in the UK are thinking about having children together.

Phil and Kayley Nash have 32 years between them. They shocked the nation and infuriated their families when they got married in secret five years ago, when Kayley was just 17 and Phil 50.

Kayley, now 23, married twice-divorced Phil behind her parents' backs after they tried to put a stop to the relationship.

Yet six years on, they are still very much in love, but starting a family of their own is causing an issue for the loved-up pair.

While Kayley is ready to have children, Phil, now 55, is less keen as he's set to be a granddad for the first time - his only child, his 27-year-old daughter, is due this year.

Kayley, a receptionist from Stourbridge in the West Midlands, is the breadwinner after Phil was injured in a motorbike accident four years ago.

I want a baby at 23 but my aging 55-year-old husband is about to be a granddad!Barcroft

"I knew when we got together Phil was the man I wanted to be with," says Kayley. "People said I was too young to know that, but I did. And the proof is in the pudding. We're still very much in love. Not everything is easy, but that's life.

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I can't wait to have kids - I would have them tomorrow. But with Phil not working, money is tight, so he says we should wait a while. And Phil is about to become a grandfather - he's already has his children and is conscious about our money situation.

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"But Phil is not getting any younger. It's crazy to think I am going to be a grandmother soon. I'm excited, but there's no way anyone is going to call me Nana."

Kayley's mum, Jayne has finally come to terms with having a son-in-law who is nine years her senior. However, Kayley says she lost most of her friends at the start of the romance who couldn't understand why she was spending time with 'an old man.':

"My mum was furious when she first found out about Phil. It destroyed our relationship for a long time. I still can't talk to my dad about it and don't see him very often.

"I've got virtually no friends left who are my own age because I felt I could never talk to them about me and Phil. My relationship is good with Phil's daughter now but obviously it was strained at first.

"I don't treat her as a step daughter and she doesn't treat me like a step mum. Despite the massive age gap Phil and I are soulmates. Occasionally it will be an issue like when we are mistaken for father and daughter, which can be a bit embarrassing.

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Or sometimes Phil will want me to come home early when I want to stay out later. But we are best friends who always know what the other one is thinking.

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Kayley was playing guitar in the church orchestra when she was approached by Phil. Despite being warned by her parents and church leaders that the friendship was 'inappropriate', the pair continued to meet.

A year later they moved in together while Kayley's mum was away for the weekend.

"We got a van and moved all my stuff into Phil's flat. My parents weren't listening when I told them how I felt," explains Kayley. "I couldn't believe they were being so narrow-minded. I knew Phil was the man for me."

A year later, in 2006, Kayley married Phil in a secret ceremony attended by only Phil's family:

"We got married at the registry office. I felt sad that my family couldn't be there but I knew what I was doing. I don't know how she found out but I got a text from my mum after the ceremony asking if I had just got married.

I want a baby at 23 but my aging 55-year-old husband is about to be a granddad!Barcroft

"I texted back "yes", then I didn't hear from her for months. Even if it meant losing my family I knew I had to be with Phil. After my parents stopped talking to me I still had no regrets.

"We've already made it five years. These days, there are plenty of marriages that don't last that long, even when both people are the same age."

Phil receives £300 per month in incapacity benefit after being forced from his job as a car salesman following a bad motorbike accident.

"When I'm at work Phil stays at home and does all the cooking and cleaning," explains Kayley. "It took Phil a bit of getting used to. We would like to have more money, but we're happy for now. We both know Phil is likely to die before me but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.

"There's no point in worrying about it. I want to enjoy the here and now."

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