10-Year-Old Raphael Havard's Life Saved By Father Who Donated Kidney (PICTURES)

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First Posted: 13/03/2012 07:14 Updated: 14/03/2012 18:57   PA

A 10-year-old boy left facing death from a rare medical condition has been granted a new lease of life after his father donated his own kidney to him.

Raphael Havard was was left in complete kidney failure, needing hours of dialysis a day, after developing the rare condition.

But he is now facing a happy, healthy life, after father Duane, 51, stepped forward, donating his kidney to save his own son.

A year on, the family's story is being told in the documentary My Life: Me, My Dad & His Kidney, to be screened on BBC1 on Wednesday.

Manchester United fan Raphael first fell ill in February last year.

Mr Havard and his wife Anna, 35, from Bedford, took him to the doctors and he was originally diagnosed with a stomach bug, and later with gastritis.

But as his condition continued to worsen over the next few days, he was rushed to hospital. Doctors consulted Great Ormond Street Hospital (GOSH) with the then nine year-old's alarming test results.

His "creatinine" level, a way of measuring kidney function, was exceedingly high - the average level for a child is 30-57 micromoles per litre and Raphael's was 1,044 - showing his kidneys were not filtering his blood.

"They just put him in an ambulance - we live 70 miles from London and they drove him all the way there on blue lights," Mr Havard said.

At Great Ormond Street Raphael was diagnosed complete kidney failure, caused by rarely-seen illness Goodpasture's Syndrome.

The disease means the body's own immune system reacts against some parts of itself, creating antibodies that attack the lungs and kidneys.

Raphael initially spent six weeks at GOSH where he had three operations, 20 plasma exchanges and two blood transfusions.

Even when at home, he had to undergo around 11 hours of dialysis a night, his bedroom converted into a clinic completely with all the equipment and hospital-level hygiene. The family's pet basset hound Charlie also had to be rehomed amid hygiene concerns.

But Raphael's only hope of recovery rested with a kidney transplant.

Both his mother and father volunteered as donors - deciding it should be his father who donated the organ.


Raphael in his hospital bed, his father sitting by his bedside

"We both put ourselves forward, he's our only child and it's just the immediate instinct you have.

"You would do anything for that child, we both wanted to do it desperately.

"We decided I would go first - we couldn't have the operations in the same hospital and we thought it was better if his mother was with him in the hospital.

"You don't realise it but once you have been accepted and you're working your way through the process, you see how important that kidney is.

"There's a lot of emotional and psychological pressure on you, your child is depending on you.

"You watch him, the difficulties at home, and you know the key to a better quality of life lies in you. It was such a relief to actually have the operation."

The operation on November 15 was followed by an anxious six-week wait to see if it was a success.

And a few months later, the family's life is starting to get back to normal - Raphael went back to school in January and his father is back at work.

For football-mad Raphael, this year saw him get the chance to be the mascot at Manchester United's match against Stoke City on January 31.

For his father, the simpler moments are the most rewarding - such as seeing his son go to the toilet and drink freely without any difficulties.

"In life we take it for granted to drink when you are thirsty, we are even encouraged to do so and to go to the toilet when you feel the need to pass urine," he said.

"However, for someone on a PD dialysis it is very different and often difficult. Their lives are totally controlled by restrictions and allowances.

"Even a treat like an ice cream or the milk on your cereal the fluid is carefully measured and controlled."

He said his son was well aware of the importance of his donation, nicknaming him "Superdad".

"I don't think of that, it was a privilege, an honour, it's the least I could have done and if I could have given both kidneys I would have.

"He does appreciate it. When he takes his medication he is doing it for me in a way, he knows he has to look after the kidney.

"We had a rough year but it's such a happy ending now."

My Life: Me, My Dad & His Kidney will be aired on BBC1 on Wednesday at 4.30pm.

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10:02 PM on 03/16/2012
May God Bless Them - Affinity of the soul the greatest gift to humans
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Fozwords
Abandon hope when you post on here
09:28 PM on 03/16/2012
Well done sir, but I think any loving father with the right matching kidney would have done the same, I would have given both to my kids at risk of my own life, to have children is a gift, a gift worth protecting with everything you have.
08:33 PM on 03/16/2012
Just because a large number of parents would donate an organ for their child doesn't mean that a parent doing so is any less important. Someone got wind of the story and interviewed the family because of it. I would much rather read about something like this than some "Z list celebrity" getting a new tatoo or having relationship problems.
08:05 PM on 03/16/2012
he is a very brave dad and it shows he is a special dad and i had tears in my eyes just reading how heart warming this story is and a real dad also :-))))))))))))
08:02 PM on 03/16/2012
Very heart warming story but sure most Dad'S would donate an organ for there son/daughter. Before you get on your high horse michael gibney (com below) Most single mothers dont know who the fathers are.
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Abandon hope when you post on here
09:29 PM on 03/16/2012
cettown 6511 I agree wholeheartedly sir.
06:00 PM on 03/16/2012
Stop being so negative people. You're actually WRONG! How can many of you say the same thing over and over that ANY father would do this for there son when we have such a high percentage of single mothers in the UK alone, (not even including on a World scale) that have had the fathers walk out on their kids??? Most fathers don't even stick around to raise their kids or be part of their lives these days. Many wouldn't even give money to their kids, let alone a kidney. So give praise, admiration and credit to where it is due and stop knocking this great Father and shrugging his impressive bravery like it's nothing.
08:10 PM on 03/16/2012
I agree i would do any thing for my kids but my dad left and never seen him but atleast i got the best dad in the world with my step dad.
08:11 PM on 03/16/2012
You sound like verry bitter...this is about a good thing and a father doing something decent and positive...your comments about single mums and then dads walking out and not wanting part of there children lives is not always the case..what about mums who stop letting dads see there kids due to bitterness i have know many mums who do that to punish the father...i am a woman and a mum of three and wouldnt dream of this
08:18 PM on 03/16/2012
i did post a nice reply that he is a brave and special dad and a real dad and this story put a tear in my eyes this is a realy heart warming story :-)))))) is how happy i am to see how much his mum and dad love him and care
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02:31 PM on 03/16/2012
thanks for removing my comments Huffington. I didnt know that all comments had to meet your personal criteria.
12:09 AM on 03/16/2012
I don't understand why this is even a story? Every father or mother would donate a body part to save his or her kid. What makes this special and news worthy?
01:27 AM on 03/16/2012
dan..i have to agree with you.this happens everyday to thousands of families,who are far off.the ones who are unable to save their child and they wait helplessly only to see their child die.
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I came, I saw...I had a cup of tea!
01:56 PM on 03/13/2012
Well done, nice heartwarming story.
11:25 AM on 03/13/2012
Yes why did he donate ....... LOVE ......
09:52 AM on 03/13/2012
What parent wouldn't give their lives for their children? Many have, this lad's parents have done the ultimate; given their son a chance of a near to normal life as possible. Well done to all concerned, including medical and nursing staff.
KenInd
We too shall get through this.....
08:11 AM on 03/13/2012
Any father would do this for his son!!!