Widow Discovered She Was Pregnant The Day Before Her Husband's Funeral

18/11/2014 13:51 | Updated 20 May 2015

Widow discovered she was pregnant day before husband's funeral

A heartbroken widow discovered she was pregnant the day before her husband's funeral after seven years trying to conceive.

Kristy Kirchner was left devastated after her husband Royce, 35, was killed in a car accident on October 8.

His car flipped and slammed into a tree, just 10 minutes away from their home in Mount Archer, Central Queensland, Australia.

Just five days earlier, Kristy had been implanted during their first cycle of IVF, after saving for three years to afford the expensive procedure.

She broke the news in a heartrending video on her YouTube channel, ConceiveABaby, which she'd been using to document her journey to motherhood.

She said: "I'm pregnant, but this is not how I was supposed to be telling this story."

She then revealed that Royce, who had appeared in his wife's posts over the last 12 months, had died.

Kristy said: "For me, YouTube is just like a diary. Some people write in a diary but I talk to a camera.

"I just find comfort in people helping me work through these feelings."

And she said that, at a time when she felt she had nothing to live for, her unborn child, who she has named 'Pacey', saved her life.

She said: "Right now this baby... My dream and Royce's dream is my reason for living."

In an interview with A Current Affair, Kristy revealed that she had just learnt that they were having a baby the day before Royce's funeral.

She said: "At the funeral I debated whether I was going to announce it in Royce's eulogy.

"And it was really difficult but I decided to do that because Royce was right next to me in the casket. This was the last time I could announce to the world with my husband that we were pregnant."

In another cruel twist, the couple had cancelled Royce's life insurance policy just two weeks before he was killed. Kristy had quit work to concentrate IVF, at her husband's insistence.

But well-wishers launched a GoFundMe campaign to raise funds for the mother-to-be and her unborn child and to help pay for the funeral and IVF bills. In 22 days, more than $19,000 has been raised.

Kristy wrote on the page: "This. Is. Amazing! Thank you so much everyone for raising such a huge amount to help ease the situation I have been faced with, and for caring for me enough to be so kind.

"I never expected such an overwhelming response. At best, I hoped I might be able to get $200 for petrol and some groceries!"

She said she takes solace in her belief that her husband knew they were expecting a child.

She said in one of her videos: "I'm happy to report that even though I hadn't taken a test to confirm pregnancy, he knew we were pregnant. He was kissing my belly, he was already saying 'I love you both.

"I just really miss his affection, he was so sweet to me.

"It's getting harder. I have noticed myself slipping from shock into heavy grief. The feelings are overwhelming, the pain is unbearable, and I feel so much for little Pacey who is so tiny and shouldn't have to bear the brunt of such a horrible start to life."

You can watch one of Kristy's videos below.


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