Woman Nails Why You Shouldn't Ask People About When They're Going To Have A Baby

29/09/2015 10:15 | Updated 01 October 2015

Whether you're a woman in her mid-thirties or a couple who have been together a few years, chances are at least once a week someone will get all up in your grill and ask: "So... when are you going to have a baby?"

*Face palm*

But while most of us will just offer a fake smile and bitch about them later in private, one woman decided to take a stand against nosy parkers once and for all.

Emily Bingham, who is a freelance writer, wrote a Facebook post explaining in no uncertain terms why other people's fertility is none of your goddamn business.

Bingham's words seems to have hit with other women (and a few men) and has been shared more than 54,000 times.

In a genius move, she even used an ultrasound photo that she found on Google to accompany her post as a way to lure people in.

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Emily Bingham and her Googled ultrasound photo

She wrote: "Hey everyone!!! Now that I got your attention with this RANDOM ULTRASOUND PHOTO I grabbed from a Google image search, this is just a friendly P.S.A. that people's reproductive and procreative plans and decisions are none of your business. NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

"Before you ask the young married couple that has been together for seemingly forever when they are finally gonna start a family ... before you ask the parents of an only-child toddler when a Little Brother or Little Sister will be in the works ... before you ask a single 30-something if/when s/he plans on having children because, you know, clock's ticking ... just stop. Please stop."

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Bingham's Facebook post

"You don't know who is struggling with infertility or grieving a miscarriage or dealing with health issues. You don't know who is having relationship problems or is under a lot of stress or the timing just isn't right. You don't know who is on the fence about having kids or having more kids. You don't know who has decided it's not for them right now, or not for them ever. You don't know how your seemingly innocent question might cause someone grief, pain, stress or frustration. Sure, for some people those questions may not cause any fraught feelings -- but I can tell you, from my own experiences and hearing about many friends' experiences -- it more than likely does."

Bingham isn't the first person of late to highlight that asking about babies could upset those who are having difficulty conceiving.

Chrissy Teigen, model and wife of musician John Legend, opened up about the couple's fertility struggles on TV earlier this month.

Speaking to Tyra Banks, who has also spoken publicly about fertility, Teigan warned people about probing into other's private lives.

"Anytime somebody asks me if I’m going to have kids, I’m like, ‘one day, you’re going to ask that to the wrong girl who’s really struggling, and it’s going to be really hurtful to them'," Teigan said. "And I hate that. So, I hate it. Stop asking me."


For Bingham, it doesn't matter who you are asking about whether a baby is on the way is out of the question.

"Bottom line: Whether you are a wanna-be grandparent or a well-intentioned friend or family member or a nosy neighbor, it's absolutely none of your business. Ask someone what they're excited about right now. Ask them what the best part of their day was. If a person wants to let you in on something as personal as their plans to have or not have children, they will tell you. If you're curious, just sit back and wait and let them do so by their own choosing, if and when they are ready."

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