02/02/2016 16:26 GMT | Updated 02/02/2016 16:59 GMT

Student Megan Ward Has Anorgasmia, Which Means She Can't Orgasm

About a year ago, 20-year-old Megan Ward decided to write a piece for her student newspaper about what it was like having anorgasmia - a condition which means she cannot orgasm.

The Birmingham University student wanted to write an "honest, open article" about her "very common sex disorder", in the hope of helping others suffering from the same condition.

Now, 14 months after writing the piece, Ward says she is "finally at peace" with having anorgasmia.


Ward wanted to help others in the same boat

Writing in The Tab, she says: "One year on, and I’m sorry to disappoint, but I still can’t come. The comments section of [my] piece was a haven of sex tips and believe me, I tried all your suggestions. Mandy sex? Fun, but didn’t work. Giving it more time? Been wanking five years and sexually active for three, it isn’t that. Trying other sex toys? Honey, I now own 10 different kinds of vibrators, among many other sex toys which would make your grandma’s eyes bleed."

She continues: "While I love them all in the same way most people love their pets – and admittedly the Magic Wand has changed my life – they still don’t produce the Big O from me. Let’s be realistic. My vag, she tries, bless her, but it’s just not something she can do. And I’m finally at peace with that."

Ward describes the worry she felt before her article was published, saying she thought people would think she was "weird" and "pathetic".

"That's not what happened," she says. "The overwhelming response I got was positive. I got messages from people I had spoken to maybe once at school congratulating me, some of my best friends shared the piece and wrote publicly they were proud of me, strangers stalked me down on Facebook – some in a creepy way – but others to say thank you for writing the piece."

According to medical research group the Mayo Clinic, anorgasmia is defined as "the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation, causing personal distress".

It adds: "Anorgasmia is a common occurrence, affecting a significant number of women."

Orgasms can often change with age, medical issues and can be affected by medication.

Ward adds: "I didn’t want anyone else feeling ashamed or embarrassed or alone like I felt.

"If it did change how someone felt, even if it’s just a few people, then I don’t mind being Orgasm Girl and I will gladly write about my vagina again to stop people feeling that way."