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Seven Ways to Conquer Fear and Live the Life You Want to Live

22/04/2014 16:58 BST | Updated 22/06/2014 10:59 BST

When you were a child did you want to grow up to be an actor, an engineer, a politician, an author, an astronaut?

If so, how is it working out for you?

I was told over and over as a child my goals were unrealistic and many of my clients, friends and colleagues have been told the same.

I genuinely hope that wasn't the case for you and that you are living your dream and have achieved what you wanted to achieve, but for those of you who are not here are seven ways to conquer your fear and live the life you want to live.

1. Spend more time with those who champion you

Many of us have got into the habit of hanging with people who don't champion us and instead drain us by constantly sitting in self pity and complaining about their life and staying stuck. They don't want to make the effort to change anything so they try to get you to stay stagnant also. Simply put, they are full of fear and whilst they sit in the problem and not in the solution you can be sure they will not inspire you.

2. Set goals and make plans for your future

If you get in the car with the intention of heading to a destination, it's much easier and faster to plan your route by having a map rather than waste time driving around aimlessly. It's exactly the same with life, you need a step by step plan that will ensure you will get to where you want to get to the simplest, fastest way.

3. Get passionate

If you don't have a passion for something, you can't get inspired and that means you will not be motivated and whilst you are not motivated you will sit in fear and procrastination. You must have something you are passionate about? You must enjoy doing something? You have to get clear and rediscover what excites you.

4. Fire the negative committee inside your head

Whatever you tell yourself will become a reality, so the most important conversation you have to be aware of is the conversation you have with yourself. Put the halogen light on your thoughts and monitor what you say to yourself daily and fire the negative committee as they will keep you stuck in the fear zone.

5. Quit spending time on behaviours that keep stuck

Drinking too much, not exercising, surfing the net, video games, TV, eating junk, smoking... the list goes on. Take a good look at what you spend your time doing and ask yourself - does it serve you well and does it move you forward and does it make you feel good about yourself? Does it energise you and motivate you to bring changes to your world? If not, then consider re evaluating the activities you invest so much time in and commit changing them to ones that will bring about changes.

6. Set daily rituals that empower you

If you don't set aside time each day to check into yourself or/and feed your mind with positive thoughts, beliefs and feelings you will stay stuck in fear. We have to nourish our soul. All successful people have rituals they commit to daily. Set aside five minutes each day to; meditate or journal or chant or listen to an inspirational song or read a few lines of a motivational book or say a few affirmations out loud. Making this small change each day will greatly improve your life.

7. Take a necessary risk that feels right

If you are not living the life you want to be living, then firstly get rid of the idea you can't as generally the biggest obstacle is your mind set, so that has to be changed. The best way to measure success is by your own happiness and if you are not happy take a look at why and how you can begin to make changes.

Be positive, be confident, focus forward and visualize living the way you want to live. Break down your plan into small chunks so they are manageable steps and DO NOT listen to negative people.

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