Franziska Foerster McLoughlin

Blogger, Mother, Wife telling tales of toddlers, tantrums & triumphs

I am a 30-something Blogger, mother to 4, wife to 1, master of none, lover of infinite amounts of wine & coffee, art and DIY. I am a Pro at pretending to be a parenting Pro winging it every single day. Recently having gone through a career transition from Manager in a multinational company to Family Manager, I am looking for a new sense of presence, possibility & creativity. Venting, ranting & chanting about parenting joys & parenting fails is my therapy while trying to see the fun in it all. I am the “Queen of my Castle” riding the waves of parenting. I write about stuff that stirs my motherly soul while trying to survive life that’s never boring (or relaxing for that matter) with 4 kids running circles around me. Connect with me here facebook.com/fulltimemumqueenofmycastle

To The Stranger Who Is So Thankful To Not Live My Life

For you, you see a lot of kids and feel overwhelmed. You hear noise and feel annoyed. You get stressed on my behalf. You laugh nervously and uncomfortably and mutter something like "Just how do you manage?" with a sorry look in your eyes.
11/05/2017 14:40 BST

When You Close Up Shop And A Void Opens Up

There is a sense of sadness and nostalgia; a feeling of void and coming to terms that my body, which has grown and given birth to four beautifully squishy babies, will never do that again; that it will now retire from procreation.
24/02/2017 15:18 GMT

To My Kids: If You're Ever In Doubt

As I watch you, I get this feeling of melancholy. Stop growing up so fast already. I need you to be little, I need you to be my babies for a little while longer. I am not going to lie. You wear me out. You tire me out. Mothering is hard. But despite that am I enjoying all that motherhood has to off
03/02/2017 16:40 GMT

The Supersonic Senses Of Parenthood

You will suddenly realise that, you never knew what it feels like to really be touched and touch: the top of your baby's head, their tiny little hands wrapped around your finger. The tickle of your child's breath as they whisper into your ear. When they want to be lifted and carried all around town.
11/01/2017 17:30 GMT

The Supersonic Senses Of Parenthood

There are days when parenthood is an all-consuming collection of constant stimuli of all the senses. While there are days where it can be overwhelming as I go on this rollercoaster through the sensory overload and enjoyment, (yes, this is strangely enjoyable) I wouldn't change it for the world.
21/11/2016 15:09 GMT

Egos Are The Uninvited Guests Of Parenthood

If our ego is running the parenting show, always using what we want and feel is right as the gauge, how can our children get to know their inner selves? Their desires? Their own needs and wants?
12/10/2016 13:23 BST

Putting Baby To Sleep Like A Pro In 10 Easy Steps

After nearly 10 years of parenting and 4 babies, who all came with their own special bedtime manual, I have loads of expertise *smug face*. I am rarely wise, so pay attention. It's probably just a phase but for your pleasure, I have put together a little selection of scenarios you can expect when putting babies to sleep.
03/10/2016 17:24 BST

What You Need To Know if You're Raising Boys

I was delighted. Nervous about the unknown, but absolutely thrilled nonetheless. From day one I saw raising a boy as an opportunity. I saw it as a special assignment. I mean here I was, a new mum, presented with the task of raising this little person.
23/09/2016 10:06 BST

I Love My Babies. Now I Am Learning To Love My Body

The next time before I jump into the shower I am going to stop and look at myself and show a little respect to the body that has been home to my 4 babies, has nursed them, carried and rocked them despite of exhaustion, despite a sore hip and an aching back and say "Thank you!"
22/09/2016 12:11 BST

Good Parents Have Bad Days

This post is for all mums and dads. This is for all those who are fearless and have the audacity to be honest. With themselves. With their peers. With everyone around them. Us parents are terrible in the sense that we are constantly trying to outdo each other and be better than the person next to us.
21/09/2016 13:33 BST

I Am Not A Stay-At-Home Mum. I Am A Family Manager!

There are numerous names and labels - stay at home mum, full-time mum, home carer - for people like me who make it their full responsibility to raise their children and run the family business. None of them do any justice to the work that I do.
20/09/2016 12:52 BST

Letter To My Son As He Turns Ten

Like that child who made me mother 10 years ago is slipping through my hands. There are things I want to teach you, things I want you to know. Things I want you to be as certain of as your heartbeat.
02/09/2016 12:09 BST

A Reminder Letter To Myself--Stop Losing Sleep Over Your Children's Sleep

You have four kids. Set realistic expectations for yourself, and start accepting what your heart has already has embraced--that you need sleep at night, and your children need you. You will one day get more restful sleep when your kids are sleeping away at college, or in their own apartments. And you'll miss those tiny arms around your neck at night.
01/09/2016 13:55 BST

Surviving Life with 2 Kids Under 18 Months

In effect, you have two babies who are completely dependent. Needing to be fed, dressed, changed. Two babies in nappies, who nap, cry, whinge, whine, poop, need to be held and cuddled, soothed and settled. Who can't talk. communication is a guessing game.
26/07/2016 14:24 BST

Things I Will Never Do For My Kids

Before I became a parent, I had certain ideas of what kind of a mother I wanted to be. Those ideas were fairly vague initially, but nonetheless I had a list as long as my arm of things that I knew I would NEVER do... and then I had kids.
25/07/2016 11:11 BST

Loving Another Baby

Watching yourself transform into Mother is life changing. You live and breathe motherhood and devote every waking hour to becoming the best mother you can be as you grow in love, understanding and compassion every day.
18/07/2016 15:33 BST