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    <title>Rage Against the Machine: Olympic Sponsorship</title>
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    <published>2012-07-10T08:35:37-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-09-09T05:12:04-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[As the Olympics approaches, I must confess that I am rather looking forward to it.
Oh not to the games, but rather anticipating almost everyone I know departing this beautiful Shire of York and giving me some peace.]]></summary>
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    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lianne-marie-binks/"><![CDATA[10,490 athletes<br />
26 Sports<br />
302 Events<br />
<br />
As the Olympics approaches, I must confess that I am rather looking forward to it.<br />
Oh not to the games, but rather anticipating almost everyone I know departing this beautiful Shire of York and giving me some peace. With 11 million tickets available and 75% going to UK spectators, there are over 2 million people flocking to London for the games which are being hosted in London for the first time since 1948.<br />
<br />
Whether one happens to be interested in watching the games or not, one cannot escape the Olympics. The news screams about the costs escalating to almost &pound;10 billion and we're swamped by Olympic themed marketing... for the next 2 weeks we are all eating, sleeping and breathing it.<br />
<br />
Speaking of eating, I am predictably enraged by the sponsors this year; (McDonalds, Heineken and Coca-Cola OH MY!). It's no secret that 1/4 of the UK population are obese which relates to &pound;4 billion of related healthcare costs and &pound;1.7 billion of alcohol related healthcare costs. So why in the name of Tom Daley's triceps are we allowing these companies to sponsor the biggest sporting event of the year?<br />
<br />
Tradition you may say... after all Coca-Cola have sponsored the Olympic games since 1928 and McDonalds since 1976. Given that 150,000 condoms are being shipped to the Olympic village and their use is still outlawed by the Catholic church I can't really say that tradition comes into it.<br />
<br />
McDonalds and Coca-Cola are both aiming to promote health and fitness from "Hop Skip Jump" pedometers being included with Happy Meals to Coca-Cola <a href="http://www.coca-cola.co.uk/olympic-games/active-healthy-lifestyles-olympic-games.html" target="_hplink">promoting "Healthy Lifestyles"</a>, they're certainly getting into the Olympic Spirit.<br />
<br />
Forgive me though if I remain unmoved. The London Assembly urged the International Olympic Committee to adopt stricter criteria for sponsorship of the Games, but this was overruled.<br />
After all 59 million people in 11 countries visit McDonalds every day and 1 billion people drink Coca-Cola every day... from a marketing perspective these companies could cease and desist all advertising and still remain two of the biggest brands in the world.<br />
<br />
And no matter how eco-friendly and sustainable the Olympics aim to be, when it comes down to it, ethics go out of the windows when faced with the awesome buying power of these companies.<br />
<br />
That's hardly sporting...]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>The Work Martyr</title>
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    <published>2012-04-23T18:21:01-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-06-23T05:12:02-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[There are worse things in life to be addicted to than your job - at least my drug of choice is legal!]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Lianne Marie Binks</name>
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    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lianne-marie-binks/"><![CDATA[I read a fascinating article recently about the concept of a "work martyr"; someone who is eager to gain recognition for their work by working long hours, refusing to take breaks and just generally running themselves into the ground in order to sacrifice themselves at the altar of career.<br />
<br />
It made me wonder if that was me. I am incredibly passionate about my job, loyal to my company which I am very proud to work for and certainly dedicated to working long hours but I can't say I do it for the recognition.<br />
<br />
I do it for the personal satisfaction of achieving something for myself and for my company. I have always been of the opinion that someone who works none-stop is nothing but a busy fool. With proper time-management and organisation there should be no need to work outside the contracted hours regularly so I wouldn't expect any recognition for that, especially when I work for a company dedicated to making other companies more effective through the provision of training.<br />
<br />
I am guilty of taking on far too much, definitely - that goes with the territory of being eager to please! But the pleasure that I take in my work lends itself to the adage "if you do a job you love, you'll never work a day in your life"<br />
<br />
I don't believe that this makes me a work martyr, though I am guilty of the occasional "Gah, I'm still working at 8pm on a Friday" Facebook update. Perhaps I should cut back on those...<br />
<br />
The worst kind of work martyrs are the ones who genuinely believe that they are indispensable. We've all come across those people with an over-inflated sense of their own importance who panic that the entire company will fall apart if they drop one of the balls they're juggling. It could very well be true but it's no way to live your life. Ask yourself what would happen if you were hit by a bus tomorrow? Does that make you want to immediately put contingency plans in place? Or does it make you feel strangely relieved because the pressure you're putting yourself under has no place in this scenario.<br />
<br />
I can see how people fall into a self-perpetuating cycle if they are a work martyr. After all once you start giving 110%,  you've set the pace and it must be hard to stop. Managing the expectations of our colleagues, customers and stakeholders at work is one thing, but challenging a preconception of what you are capable of delivering? Not so much.<br />
<br />
The line that's hard to cross back from, is being too focused on work. When your job is your passion - how do you switch off from it? That has always been my problem and I don't have an easy answer for learning to let go of the things that are important to me. I've reached the stage in my life where I am happy with my career - I know exactly what I want to do and how to do it and better still it's plausible - someone is willing to pay me for doing the job I love and in return I am willing to give it everything I have. Work martyr? Not so much.<br />
<br />
There are worse things in life to be addicted to than your job - at least my drug of choice is legal!]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>But it's Only a T-shirt...or is it?</title>
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    <published>2011-09-15T08:21:48-04:00</published>
    <updated>2011-11-15T05:12:01-05:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[If you can bring me one victim of domestic violence who sees the humour in this t-shirt then maybe I will reconsider my view that it's disgusting. That fashion may be controversial at times but it should not glamourise rape or domestic violence. Nothing should. ]]></summary>
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    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lianne-marie-binks/"><![CDATA[Ronald De Sousa claims that in order to be amused by something we have to endorse the attitudes of it. This means that the reason that we see divided opinion over whether something is funny or not is because people naturally support different attitudes. Someone who has a low tolerance for sexist behaviour will not appreciate a sexist joke - they will find it immoral or offensive so when telling a joke you must always be aware of your audience.<br />
<br />
Generally I find that polite people do not make jokes at the expense of others or laugh at the misfortunes of others. Oh if the person in question starts the joke then by all means engage in a bit of light-hearted banter - humour is a coping mechanism and it's good to not take life so seriously all the time but you must accept responsibility if you've taken it too far and offended someone.<br />
<br />
I will be the first person to admit that militant political correctness endeavours go too far and that it must be frustrating for people who are restricted by being unable to exercise their right to "free speech" but I do think that people who make jokes about ethnicity, gender, sexuality or disabilies for example do not appear witty, they merely appear ignorant and appear to be endorsing ignorance and intolerance.<br />
<br />
I don't like to foster stereotypes because I think it leads to discrimination but there are occasions when humour can be used to disempower the negative effect of a word or a stereotype. In hip hop, the word "nigger" is used frequently by black people, yet it's also a racist slur.<br />
<br />
Comedians like Chris Rock or Richard power downright mock black people, Joan Rivers has mocked Jewish people throughout her entire career in the same way that Jo Bland mocks overweight people.<br />
<br />
Observational comedy is comedy and I can see the humour in a lot of things I find offensive when it is tastefully done. Sometimes using offensive topics as humour can bring issues to the mainstream and social consciousness. I would not though, for example sit through a Frankie Boyle sketch for love nor money.<br />
<br />
As children we laugh at shocking things because we recognise the thrill of the taboo: the fabulous show Coupling, The Giggle Loop explained those times when we laugh at inappropriate moments and sometimes despite the content of a joke, the delivery still causes us to laugh at it.<br />
<br />
Despite all this rationality and analysis of humour though... there is NO WAY I would ever find this t-shirt funny.<br />
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<br />
Topshop has since recalled this t-shirt and there has been a social media storm of divided views - those who think it's an overreaction to a lighthearted t-shirt, those who think it's downright disgusting that it was allowed to be sold in the first place.<br />
<br />
If you can bring me one victim of domestic violence who sees the humour in this t-shirt then maybe I will reconsider my view that it's not an overreaction. That fashion may be controversial at times but it should not glamourise rape or domestic violence. Nothing should. <br />
<br />
Today I have been labelled an "angry feminist" for being offended by it - what's your opinion?]]></content>
</entry>

<entry>
    <title>UK Riots: What Are We Fighting For?</title>
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    <published>2011-08-11T08:16:38-04:00</published>
    <updated>2011-10-11T05:12:01-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[Our country is in a state of chaos.

We see violence and disruption in the news every day but it's very rare that the majority of...]]></summary>
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        <name>Lianne Marie Binks</name>
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    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lianne-marie-binks/"><![CDATA[Our country is in a state of chaos.<br />
<br />
We see violence and disruption in the news every day but it's very rare that the majority of the country is sat, united, watching the news that is going on on their very doorsteps. When you see people rioting and looting shops or burning down buildings that you know, love, work in, live in, are near family and friends... it's very different from the slightly detatched pity you feel for places that are not familiar.<br />
<br />
This may very well have started in Tottenham because of the terrible state that the community is in. This quote from a blogger called <a href="http://pennyred.blogspot.com/2011/08/panic-on-streets-of-london.html" target="_hplink">Penny Red</a> is certainly very compelling:<br />
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<blockquote>"Months of conjecture will follow these riots. Already, the internet is teeming with racist vitriol and wild speculation. The truth is that very few people know why this is happening. They don't know, because they were not watching these communities. Nobody has been watching Tottenham since the television cameras drifted away after the Broadwater Farm riots of 1985. Most of the people who will be writing, speaking and pontificating about the disorder this weekend have absolutely no idea what it is like to grow up in a community where there are no jobs, no space to live or move, and the police are on the streets stopping-and-searching you as you come home from school. The people who do will be waking up this week in the sure and certain knowledge that after decades of being ignored and marginalised and harassed by the police, after months of seeing any conceivable hope of a better future confiscated, they are finally on the news. In one NBC report, a young man in Tottenham was asked if rioting really achieved anything:<br />
"Yes," said the young man. "You wouldn't be talking to me now if we didn't riot, would you?"<br />
"Two months ago we marched to Scotland Yard, more than 2,000 of us, all blacks, and it was peaceful and calm and you know what? Not a word in the press. Last night a bit of rioting and looting and look around you."<br />
Eavesdropping from among the onlookers, I looked around. A dozen TV crews and newspaper reporters interviewing the young men everywhere '''<br />
There are communities all over the country that nobody paid attention to unless there had recently been a riot or a murdered child. Well, they're paying attention now."</blockquote><br />
<br />
If the violence was limited to Tottenham, if it was just that isolated area with the goal of directing attention to the problems there and seeking resolution and support then I could almost understand that such a radical approach as rioting could be justified, given the people who instigated it.<br />
<br />
But I can't. These people when interviewed didn't articulate the reason behind their behaviour. The rioting across London, Birmingham, Manchester, Stockport, Liverpool and other towns and cities had no political agenda, no cause of action. They were just simply causing destruction. This wasn't limited to underpriviledged areas, and wasn't caused just by underpriviledged people. This was inspiring and causing nationwide civil unrest.<br />
<br />
Zoe Wiliams <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/aug/09/uk-riots-psychology-of-looting" target="_hplink">wrote for The Guardian yesterday</a> about the psychology behind the rioting - why young people are targeting sport shops rather than looting food and drink or medical supplies, the things they may be deprived of.<br />
She's right. It's not Nihilistic, it's not a noble Robin Hood style cause. It's terrorism.<br />
<br />
Camila Batmanghelidjh was trending on Twitter yesterday, which means that people did listen to <a href="http://www.independent.co.uk/opinion/commentators/camila-batmanghelidjh-caring-costs-ndash-but-so-do-riots-2333991.html" target="_hplink">her idea which Zoe Williams calls "movingly expressed in the Independent</a> that this is a natural human response to the brutality of poverty: <br />
<blockquote>"Walk on the estate stairwells with your baby in a buggy manoeuvring past the condoms, the needles, into the lift where the best outcome is that you will survive the urine stench and the worst is that you will be raped . . . It's not one occasional attack on dignity, it's a repeated humiliation, being continuously dispossessed in a society rich with possession. Young, intelligent citizens of the ghetto seek an explanation for why they are at the receiving end of bleak Britain, condemned to a darkness where their humanity is not even valued enough to be helped."</blockquote><br />
<br />
and yesterday, whilst encouraging people to boost public morale with campaigns such as <a href="http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=261568193854371" target="_hplink">Operation Cup of Tea</a>, a peaceful anti-riot protest or to do all they can to support Operation Clean Up I became sucked into commenting on a thread by a repugnant man.<br />
<br />
He said <em>"Upper middle class white people getting together and sipping tea while the poor have resorted to fighting to have their voices heard after being ignored via every other avenue. Ignorance is bliss, I suppose"</em><br />
<br />
The truth is that he shouldn't assume that we're ignorant, and if we are ignorant of the problems then he should be compelled to educate us without insulting, antagonising or patronising us. As I said to him - he has the ear of (at the time of posting) 163,761 people that could potentially see his comments.<br />
<br />
<blockquote>"and how do you choose to get your message across? By insulting and antagonising people rather than actually communicating with them in a manner which they will listen to. No one is denying the underlying problems of society but if you want to propose solutions or ensure people focus on the "truth" instead of simply being disgusted at the actions of these rioters then you're doing it wrong. Do it right, approach people with respect, dignity and a message they can understand and identify with. That is why people aren't listening. All we want is for the violence to stop, to recruit people to repair the damage and to boost morale. We're achieving that, what are you achieving?"</blockquote><br />
<br />
Not everyone has the power to influence the major media, but everyone in this country has a voice. That's the power of Social Media, blogging, Twitter, Facebook, Google Plus. If you are organised and motivated and go through the right channels you can get the attention of the media and effect change.<br />
<br />
I'm not saying that the Government are not aware of the problems in areas like Tottenham. I'm saying that they were without a doubt taken by surprise by the fact that these rioters and looters preyed on decisions the Government made - such as Theresa May and her horribly ironic insistance that police cuts would not lead to civil unrest. Where police around the country have been flocking to London to offer support, it leaves their cities vulnerable and less protected, something the rioters then take advantage on. That's certainly a political impact.<br />
<br />
If the Government were not in a ridiculous financial hole right now then they could perhaps have more power to focus on troubled communities.<br />
<br />
It's when I see money being spent on the Olympics, money they say is a worthy investment that will be retuned in improvements to our economy through tourism etc and then wonder whether these riots will impact the number of people willing to attend the Olympics that I begin to feel sick to the pit of my stomach.<br />
<br />
What should the Government be spending money on? What could they realistically stop spending money on in order to do that? Could the richer end of our society do anything to subsidise the poorer end? What is the solution? <br />
<br />
Is there a solution or has the problem become so deeply rooted that it will take years and years to make an impact on? After all what is the cause of a teenager becoming pregnant, giving up on education, being disinterested in working but instead claiming benefits, addicted to drugs, turning to crime... are they a product of the system due to a lack of Government support in better education, better healthcare information, social reform? Do we blame the parents for not picking up the slack? After all, plenty of successful people come from deprived backgrounds - what gave them to determination to succeed that these rioters may lack?]]></content>
</entry>

<entry>
    <title>The &quot;Should&quot; Storm</title>
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    <published>2011-08-10T12:43:51-04:00</published>
    <updated>2011-10-10T05:12:02-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[We're selfish, independent, hooked on instant-gratification, either completely overwhelmed with choices or backed into a corner with nowhere to turn and on top of that we're ruining the planet, grotesquely unhealthy and surrounded by people who think The X-Factor is quality entertainment. It's a sorry state of affairs people, but what's the answer?
]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Lianne Marie Binks</name>
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    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lianne-marie-binks/"><![CDATA[<strong>"Why are we shoulding all over ourselves?" ~ Carrie Sex &amp; The City</strong><br />
<br />
In and amongst all of the ridiculous, farfetched, consumerist fantasy of Sex &amp; The City, a show which I cannot help but love, despite my acceptance that it is quite often as insulting and degrading to women as it is entertaining, there are consistent golden nuggets of wisdom and truth which every woman can and should identify with.<br />
<br />
This is one which has been on my mind lately. Following the death of Amy Winehouse which added more weight to "the 27 club" I noticed that many of my friends range from frustration to clinical depression because of the things they have not yet achieved: marriage, children, a mortgage, a career, financial security, their goal weight...<br />
<br />
What is it about the word "should"? Where does this belief in what we should have, should do come from? Carrie suggests that it's not peer pressure, that it's coming from within and honestly I think she 's right. She also asks the question <strong>"how do we separate what we could do from what we should do?"</strong><br />
<br />
After all - in the current financial climate, few of us have the ability to have a mortgage or anything resembling financial freedom. The majority of our generation will spend the rest of their lives wishing they hadn't gone to university because they will struggle to ever pay off their debts, and their degree will never have any impact on their future earning potential.<br />
<br />
And it's a lot of money to spend on having a good time for 3 years and making new friends.<br />
The few of us who had the foresight, or luck to make smart choices, achieve a valuable degree, enter a career track but are still living at home, unable to take the next step or are literally working to pay the bills with no disposable income available and no ability to save money for a holiday, or to cushion emergencies like redundancy... let alone save for a wedding or children or a house deposit and furniture.<br />
<br />
Those who are unemployed are sometimes better off financially than those who are employed, especially if you have a family to support and the majority of your wage goes on nursery fees.<br />
If you're single and earning an average wage and able to support yourself financially then that's something to be highly respected, despite the hangover from the Bridget Jones generation, and despite our parents despairing of us ever getting married or giving them grandchildren.<br />
<br />
My grandmother's generation had two choices: become a mother or become a wife. If you worked or were unmarried you were scum and their opinions shaped the next generation, our parents who are now faced with being unable to afford to retire, are mostly single or divorced and have raised a generation of children that they can't offer financial support to.<br />
<br />
What legacy will we pass onto our children I wonder? Other than genetic anomalies from waiting until the age of 45 before having a child, or a questionable upbringing from being 14 when we had our first?<br />
<br />
We're selfish, independent, hooked on instant-gratification, either completely overwhelmed with choices or backed into a corner with nowhere to turn and on top of that we're ruining the planet, grotesquely unhealthy and surrounded by people who think The X-Factor is quality entertainment.<br />
<br />
It's a sorry state of affairs people, but what's the answer?<br />
<br />
Does anyone say to the people who can't conceive <strong>"well at least you're not responsible for increasing the surplus population"?</stron> or make them adopt a child in need? or suggest that having a child is not a life goal that will leave them unfulfilled if they don't tick it off?<br />
<br />
No, we let them spend thousands of pounds on fertility treatments and put their bodies through total hell and we view women who will be drawing a pension before their child starts school as acceptable in our society.<br />
<br />
(and by the way I'm not knocking fertility treatments. I would be DEVASTATED to learn I couldn't be a mother and I would be grateful if treatment was a physical and financial option for me)<br />
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Does anyone say to the woman with 8 children that she cannot support without claiming benefits <strong>"do you know what Lizzie... use a f*cking condom!"?</strong> No we let her keep popping them out, we keep subsidising her lifestyle choices and WE MAKE HER A REALITY TV STAR.<br />
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We don't say these things. We don't make them feel that they have no place in our society. People have human rights, we have the autonomy to do pretty much whatever we want to do and the majority will support the minorities. That's how our ecosystem works.<br />
<br />
We might not like it, but that's the way it is.<br />
<br />
The trouble is that people seem to be getting increasingly more miserable and more frustrated with the things they don't have or can't have and have less and less perspective about whether these things are possible for them, or will make them happy.<br />
<br />
I am 27 years old. I have never smoked or experimented with drugs, I don't binge drink, I am a vegetarian, as healthy as I can be with the exception of the odd cake or cheese indulgence, I have been in employment for over 10 years, got good grades during school and sixth form, have never claimed unemployment (even whilst I was briefly unemployed), have a mortgage, minimal debt, am engaged to be married and planning on having a family in the not too distant future.<br />
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I am a freak. No seriously - I might be most parents' wet dream but I am unconventional by modern standards. And I don't even want to get married, I'm only doing it because my partner wants to and I want to make him happy. <br />
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I am determined to have the most simple, cost-effective wedding in history with the least possible fuss or drama. I asked for a new bathroom instead of an engagement ring. Almost everyone I know thinks I am insane.<br />
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In comparison my friends either spent approximately &pound;10K on their weddings and were emaciated and stressed for about 12 months, or are Charlotte York clones, desperate to get married and be a princess for a day. <br />
<br />
I don't hear them say <strong>"I want love in my life and a fulfilling, functional relationship"</strong> I hear <strong>"I want to get MARRIED! I have planned my entire wedding in my head and picked my children's names..."</strong> it makes me wonder whether they even care about who they marry. Is this why so many marriages end in divorce these days? Is it all down to this pressure to have the things we think we should have?<br />
<br />
Is we are satisfied with what we have and doing something which makes us proud then who cares if we're single, married, childless, a parent, wealthy, poor, a master of the universe or a bin man who works for 4 hours per day and then spends the rest of the day happily growing his own turnips?<br />
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The best I think that anyone can do is be realistic but motivated whilst being accepting and supportive of everyone else.<br />
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If you feel like you have more to give then read<a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Facts-That-Should-Change-World/dp/1840468467" target="_hplink"> 50 Facts That Should Change The World</a>.<br />
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<strong>If there was ever a celebration of "Should" then this is it!</strong>]]></content>
</entry>

<entry>
    <title>Happy Yorkshire Day</title>
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    <id>tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2011:/theblog//3.914632</id>
    <published>2011-08-01T06:20:09-04:00</published>
    <updated>2011-10-01T05:12:01-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[Today is Yorkshire Day and as a Yorkshire woman I am proud to stand up and tell you why being from Yorkshire is an indication of greatness. It's God's own country for a reason.
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    <author>
        <name>Lianne Marie Binks</name>
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    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lianne-marie-binks/"><![CDATA[<strong>I, Lianne Marie Binks, being a resident of the West Riding of Yorkshire declare: That Yorkshire is three Ridings and the City of York, with these Boundaries of 1134 years standing; That the address of all places in these Ridings is Yorkshire; That all persons born therein or resident therein and loyal to the Ridings are Yorkshiremen and women; That any person or corporate body which deliberately ignores or denies the aforementioned shall forfeit all claim to Yorkshire status.These declarations made this Yorkshire Day 2011. God Save the Queen!"</strong><br />
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Today is Yorkshire Day and as a Yorkshire woman I am proud to stand up and tell you why being from Yorkshire is an indication of greatness. It's God's own country for a reason.<br />
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We invented the mousetrap, cats eyes, stainless steel and the hydraulic press. Our very own Guy Fawkes tried to blow up Parliament, William Wilberforce abolished slavery, Captain Cook discovered practically everything and Robin Hood was the world's first superhero.<br />
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If you're looking for literary talent - look no further than the Bronte sisters,  Poet Laureate Ted Hughes, Joanne Harris. Our own Roger Hargreaves invented the Mr Men!... Like art? Henry Moore and David Hockney are from Yorkshire. Fashion? Vivienne Westwood. Say no more.<br />
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We produce damn fine actors like Judi Dench and Patrick Stewart, great bands like Pulp, The Kaizer Chiefs, The Arctic Monkeys, The Beautiful South, The Human League and The Cribs. We're sorry about Def Leppard and Gareth Gates...<br />
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When it comes to food, Harry Ramsden would tell you that fish and chips are a Yorkshire institution but we also claim household name chefs like James Martin and Marco Pierre White.<br />
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Leeds is the second largest metropolitan district in the UK with the most diverse economy. It's the third largest manufacturing centre in the UK and has the largest financial, legal, telecomms and recruitment industries outside of London. The same goes for theatre, opera and ballet. <br />
We're also only 2 hours 15 minutes from Kings Cross, and not in the back of beyond as you might think.<br />
We have over 2 miles of 1,000 fantastic shops, amazing bars and restaurants and we're a top student destination. More people pick Leeds for a hen/stag destination than any other city.<br />
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So if you're wondering why #YorkshireDay is trending on Twitter, and why people are so proud to be from Yorkshire - come visit us. You'll never want to leave.]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>The Well - Book Review</title>
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    <id>tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2011:/theblog//3.910275</id>
    <published>2011-07-27T17:19:47-04:00</published>
    <updated>2011-09-26T05:12:02-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[It's an unusual experience to read a book written by someone that one actually knows - there is an undercurrent of determination to enjoy it in appreciation of their hard work. Luckily I am unable to be anything but honest (often brutally so) so this review is entirely unbiased!]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Lianne Marie Binks</name>
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    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lianne-marie-binks/"><![CDATA[It's an unusual experience to read a book written by someone that one actually knows - there is an undercurrent of determination to enjoy it in appreciation of their hard work. Luckily I am unable to be anything but honest (often brutally so) so this review is entirely unbiased!<br />
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Before I cracked the spine of this book I hesitated for a few seconds, worried that I wouldn't like it because I'm not particularly drawn to the horror genre. I am proud and relieved however to say that by the end of the fourth page I was already Tweeting Peter to assure him how much I loved it. I was hooked from the very beginning by this gripping, chilling book and was driven schizophrenic as a result of not wanting to put it down and not wanting it to end.<br />
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Peter's characters are gritty and intricately created but leave plenty of room for the reader to engage with them, his plot is absolutely terrifying and suspenseful and I adored the way the story is told in triplicate from the viewpoint of different characters (with wonderfully conflicting personalities!) and then brought together in the end. <br />
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Even if, like me, you don't usually read horror stories give this a try. It's absolutely fantastic and is available on the Kindle and in paperback. Just don't read it right before you go to bed - I found joining Howard Marks in <a href="http://www.azucarbar.co.uk/" target="_hplink">Azucar bar</a> for tequila cocktails the perfect accompliment.<br />
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You can find out more about Peter Labrow at his day job (<a href="http://www.labrow.com/" target="_hplink">Labrow Marketing</a>) - which is how I came to meet him, read his <a href="http://blog.peterlabrow.com/" target="_hplink">horror blog</a>, follow him on <a href="http://twitter.com/#!/labrow" target="_hplink">Twitter</a> or via <a href="https://plus.google.com/107099423814449963766/posts" target="_hplink">Google Plus</a>.]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>How to Be a Woman - Book Review</title>
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    <id>tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2011:/theblog//3.897296</id>
    <published>2011-07-13T17:51:37-04:00</published>
    <updated>2011-09-12T05:12:01-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[I often think to myself that it would have been so much simpler to have lived in a time when women didn't have as many choices as they do now. "Spoiled for choice" is not a phrase to take lightly.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Lianne Marie Binks</name>
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    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lianne-marie-binks/"><![CDATA[<strong>"I am only resolved to act in that manner, which will, in my own opinion, constitute my happiness, without reference to you, or to any person so wholly unconnected with me." ~ Elizabeth Bennett</strong><br />
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I often think to myself that it would have been so much simpler to have lived in a time when women didn't have as many choices as they do now. "Spoiled for choice" is not a phrase to take lightly.<br />
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To be honest I don't think attitudes have changed that much towards women since the 1800s -- there are some people who support our right to have choices, but there is still that air of expectation and that bitter aftertaste that comes with not being able to reduce us to body parts or fit us into gender-biased roles sometimes. <br />
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I hate the stigma attached to feminism. Some men flinch at the word, associating it with militant, aggressive man-hating women. Just like I for example dislike religious extremists or those who push their beliefs onto others. From vegan diets, VLCDs, political beliefs or those species of mothers who treat it like a competitive sport... I love passion but there are some levels of fervour which encourage a person to convert others and discriminate against those who hold steadfast in their own beliefs.<br />
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I recently read Caitlin Moran's amazing book <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Be-Woman-Caitlin-Moran/dp/0091940737" target="_hplink">How To Be A Woman</a> and though I was not unfamiliar with her - I <a href="http://twitter.com/#!/caitlinmoran" target="_hplink">follow her on Twitter</a>, I <a href="http://entertainment.timesonline.co.uk/tol/arts_and_entertainment/music/article7006625.ece" target="_hplink">read her Lady Gaga interview</a>... I am now definitely a huge fan.<br />
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She proposes that we be honest about those aspects of being a woman which we have through history become conditioned to repress, and even more refreshingly for a feminist she suggests that we "be polite".<br />
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Manners are a big thing with me. I have them and I respond well to others who use them. I think that those who have charming manners are pleasant to be around and that those who are respectful and courteous are far more powerful than those who rule with aggression and dominance. Humility is also an underrated quality. How often do we say "they're SO down to earth!" ? it's never used negatively.<br />
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Having manners does not detract attention from a person's power or make them look weak, in fact that degree of control and discipline suggests even greater strength. A first impression of someone with manners will always be good.<br />
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This approach can only be beneficial to women. In business men don't like us to be emotional or aggressive. We're not respected if we are - so in being polite will it encourage others to be polite in return? Perhaps.<br />
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When in a conversation with someone who uses measured tones, it's impossible to have a heated argument without sounding ridiculous. Respect is not given to the ridiculous. In fact controlling the tone of a discussion is an effective strategy during conflict resolution - something we advocate at QA in our <a href="http://www.qa.com/training-courses/professional-development-training/management-and-leadership/manage-conflict-and-difficult-situations" target="_hplink">Managing Conflict</a> course.<br />
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I recently re-read The Female Eunuch and The Second sex, two books I read at the age of 12 when my thirst for knowledge and search for female role models began to set in. Germaine Greer is astoundingly intelligent. There is no question that she leaves no stone unturned in her research and continues to evolve to this day. But can you imagine having a laugh and confiding with her over a bottle of wine and a slice of chocolate cake?<br />
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Caitlin Moran's book is like discovering a new best friend and a Depeche Mode style personal Jesus that you wish to god you had as a teenager so you'd feel normal and not otherworldly.<br />
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Speaking of "the other" and Simone De Beauvoir... "One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman" this is true. When I have a daughter I will buy her gender neutral toys and clothes but I will also teach her what it is to be feminine because whilst some argue that we're conditioned to be Women by society and this is A Bad Thing because of course we do tend to have to fit into or compete in a man's world...  I think being a woman is something which is earned - literally with blood, sweat and tears.<br />
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Simone suggested that our greatest challenge was in not being "the other" in not being a mysterious second sex but in sharing what it is to be a woman, what our problem are and allowing other men and women to help us with them.<br />
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That is why women in the 1800s wanted a vote, that's why we want equal pay, that's why Caitlin Moran wants us to be honest about and celebrate being a woman. Every aspect of being a woman.<br />
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Ladies be honest with the world. Stand up, be counted and be proud. Qualify what you want - it helps you commit to achieving it and it helps others to support you if they know how you feel. Having choices is one thing, feeling like we can take them is another and sometimes we do need support or approval in order to take them.<br />
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And more importantly buy How To Be A Woman, it really is a rollocking good read! <br />
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