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    <title>Author Ben Hatch: Cheese, Marriage and Qwerty Keyboards</title>
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    <published>2013-05-21T07:15:49-04:00</published>
    <updated>2013-05-21T11:18:44-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[Ben is a master of the kind of acute observation of family life that has you pondering the deeper significance of the type of breakfast cereal your spouse prefers.]]></summary>
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        <name>Sara Bran</name>
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    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[<em>I'm delighted to welcome author <strong>Ben Hatch</strong> to <strong>Catching the Comet's Tail</strong>. Ben is a master of the kind of acute observation of family life that has you pondering the deeper significance of the type of breakfast cereal your spouse prefers. His last book, Are We Nearly There Yet? about a family trip around Britain in a Vauxhall Astra, was wonderfully funny and incredibly poignant. The sequel, The Road to Rouen,  takes us on another Hatch family trip, this time around France. Along the way, Ben's marriage, life and love of fromage are put in equal jeopardy. I think of him as a kind John Cleese/Gerald Durrell hybrid, only featuring cars and condiments instead of animals. If you haven't put him on your summer reading list, do!</em><br />
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<strong>Ben on creativity...</strong> <br />
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"My creative process simply involves sitting cross-legged on the cheese-stained swivel chair in my study for long enough to write something that's not so dreadful the next day when I come to read it back I have the will power to try and build on it. As unromantic as it sounds, it's a bit like bashing the end of a near empty bottle of ketchup, the ketchup bottle being my head, the ketchup itself is the words and the plate's the screen. Hopefully (and I might be stretching this ketchup analogy way too far now) amongst the unusable, thin, red spray of relish they'll be one salvageable dollop worth dipping a chip in."<br />
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<strong>Was creativity encouraged in you as a child and who were your early literary influences?</strong><br />
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"The only way I can talk about creativity in my childhood is through an analogy using Coleman's Mustard. That's a lie. I was pretending after the ketchup thing to be obsessed with different relishes. I'm not obsessed by different relishes. My father was in the Cambridge Footlights and a contemporary of The Goodies and half of what would become the Monty Python team but creativity wasn't actively encouraged in our house. The ability to play sport was however, although unfortunately I was so ungainly I couldn't work the swing in our back garden until I was about 9 and I am still unable to do a forward roll. My grandmother on my dad's side and my mum's sister were both excellent painters as is my sister. I desperately wanted to take after them and I remember the day I showed my dad a picture of the life-cycle of the butterfly I'd completed in 2b pencil. I'd drawn a chrysalis, a caterpillar and a cabbage white butterfly in such extraordinary detail it was attached to the fridge by my mum. Just as it was starting to be acknowledged I'd inherited my family's artistic streak I was caught tracing a hippopotamus through greaseproof paper and exposed as a fraud. My only creative trigger has been the need to impress my father. I remember the first time I made him laugh. We were on a family holiday eating out. The joke I made was about how my sister had eaten such a lot of crab she'd probably walk out of the restaurant sideways. It's not that funny but I was 12 and my dad was Head of Light Entertainment at BBC Radio and he seemed thrilled by the idea of "Benjy's first joke". From then on all I ever wanted to do was make my dad laugh. I wrote derivative Monty Python comedy sketches for a while then I tried to become an comic actor but I was hopelessly wooden. I fixed on writing books after I fell in love with <em>Catcher in the Rye</em>. Before I'd read this I had no idea books were capable of being funny and moving at the same time. Minus a brief period when I wanted to be a professional snooker player and became obsessed with Tony Meo that I don't want to go into, that's all I ever wanted to be."<br />
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<strong>How long did it take to write<em> The Road to Rouen</em> and can you recall the first spark of inspiration?</strong><br />
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"<em><a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Road-Rouen-Ben-Hatch/dp/0755364546/ref=la_B0034NT4U2_1_2?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1369133948&amp;sr=1-2" target="_hplink">The Road to Rouen</a></em> took about five months to write. The inspiration came from the tight deadline. To finish the book I had to get up at 4am every day including weekends for several months. The book is not at all as I imagined it would be. While it's mainly light-hearted in tone I somehow ended up dissecting my marriage too which I put in jeopardy on the trip by doing some very silly things one of which included almost being gored and another saw me almost get murdered. I know rewriting a book is finished when I start taking sections out and then reinstating them before removing the day after. At that point you're fiddling and it's time to let it go."<br />
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<strong>Who, what or where always inspires your creativity, no matter what and what, if anything, is guaranteed to kill it?</strong><br />
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"I'm not aware of ever feeling inspired although some days it's easier to write well than others. But that can often be misleading. Often when I think I've written something particularly good, I read it back and realise it's rubbish but then it works the other way too. That's why I never throw anything away. My computer is filled with abandoned chapters and scenes that one day I'm hoping to revisit and find some merit in. Seeing and experiencing new things obviously helps the creative process, especially if it's a situation I feel uncomfortable in. In fact there's a constant and very annoying tension in my life between avoiding things I don't want to do because they scare me and the realisation that if I do them it'll make good material. In an ideal world I'd get inspiration from being sat on the sofa watching telly with a bag of mixed nuts and raisons and a glass of wine by my side but that's not the way it works unfortunately."<br />
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<strong>Do you ever feel that creating new things is a chore and what do you do when you feel blocked creatively?</strong><br />
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"I'd much rather be rewriting than writing something new. It's not a chore in the same way working on an Icelandic trawler at 3am reeling in a herring net is a chore, but it's the hardest part of the job. That's because you know 90 per cent of what you're writing won't survive in the final draft. There can't be many jobs that are this unproductive. If you worked in any other profession, say as a doctor or teacher, and wasted 90 per cent of your time you'd be fired. In terms of writer's block, I don't believe in it. I know this because I once spent seven years writing the same book. That happened because I decided I wanted the novel out of contract. A terrible mistake. A writer with writer's block is a writer in need of a deadline."<br />
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<strong>Please talk a bit about the environment you like to be in to write. </strong><br />
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"As long as I have a qwerty keyboard I don't mind where I work although I like to be near a kettle, a toaster and a sizeable lump of cheese to gnaw on like a rat. I like to play music in the background and I often loop a particular song. I can play the same track 456 times over without getting in the slightest bit bored of it. However, I work alongside my wife (about 20cm from her in fact. She's a freelance travel journalist and we share a study) and this tends to drive her crazy so on the whole I work in silence apart from every now and again like just now when she leant over and showed me a picture of a Victorian tap online that she thought we should have in the bathroom because there was a picture of a similar one in the Sunday Times style section at the weekend."<br />
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<strong>Do you have a daily routine when you are writing? </strong><br />
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"I like to start early before my kids wake up, before anyone is on twitter or emailing and also so I can act like a weary martyr in the evening when my wife asks me to do something trivial such get up and put the latest Friday Night Lights disc in the DVD player. "Can you? (pained face) I did get up at 5am." I don't have a set word count like most authors. Instead I give myself a time limit to complete a chapter."<br />
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<strong>Is there a collaborative element to your work? </strong><br />
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"I've always wanted to work collaboratively. It's the way they put together American sitcoms and often I've pictured myself firing off ideas sat around a table with other writers but in reality the chances are I'd probably not contribute anything under this system because I'd be too shy or diffident and instead I'd merely laugh at everyone else's stuff feeling disgruntled and intimidated. I don't like to show anyone anything until right at the end. In the past I've shown my wife something too early and it's always counter productive because if she dislikes it, it's disheartening and if she likes it, it's always the bit that you later feel has to be cut but now as she liked it, you're resistant to this idea, and the whole process slows down."<br />
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<strong>Please share a photo of an object that connects with your creative process.</strong><br />
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<img alt="2013-05-21-heather.JPG" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2013-05-21-heather.JPG" width="200" height="149" />"I have two things I keep connected to my work. One is this piece of heather.  I bought it from a gypsy woman in Leicester Square for ￡1 just hoping for luck just before I went into the Curtis Brown literary agency in 1997. The second is this letter my dad wrote to me when I started living back home after university and had been fired from 8 jobs in as many months where he pretty much calls me an oaf." <img alt="2013-05-21-letter.JPG" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2013-05-21-letter.JPG" width="200" height="149" /><br />
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<strong>Which other creative art form outside the one you are known for do you wish you could master?</strong><br />
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"I'd love to be the sort of person who could sit on a pretty hill in a loose fitting shirt with unbuttoned cuffs and paint a typical English landscape below me in oils maybe in a soft flat hat with a picnic hamper of sandwiches for lunch in a small knapsack between my feet. That would be immensely relaxing, I imagine. I'd also like to be able to play the piano. I took lessons when my daughter started aged 6 but within weeks she was better than me and I lost heart and quit when she criticised my scales."<br />
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<strong>How did becoming a parent affect your creativity? </strong><br />
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"What's the Cyril Connolly quote: <em>"There is no more sombre enemy of good art than the pram in the hall."</em> I believed that for many years and it almost stopped me having kids. Then when I had them I discovered it was bollocks. If anything becoming a father helped instil some discipline into my life and writing. Like how football manager's always want their players to get married and settle down because they focus more on their game, it was the same with me. Every hour spent working has a premium when you have young kids because it's time you could be spending with them watching Underground Ernie or making a den out of sofa cushions and travel rugs. It means you have to make your hours at the keyboard count and try your best to get off Twitter and websites where there are admittedly quite humorous objects that look like Hitler."<br />
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<strong>Please say as much or as little as you'd like about your next book and the stage you are at with it.</strong><br />
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"<em>The Road to Rouen</em>, the sequel to <em>Are We Nearly There Yet?</em> has just been published by Headline. It's about a 10,000 mile drive around France that I completed with my family. I was researching a guidebook. I thought the greatest danger would be the boredom of spending so long in the car although at various points we're attacked by a donkey, there's a run-in with a death-cult, a calamitous wedding experience involving a British spy before I almost end up starring in a snuff movie after a near fatal decision to climb into a millionaire's Chevrolet Blazer. Although actually the book is really about marriage and the up and downs that everyone experiences along this journey. I'm also currently working on a sitcom treatment of my first novel <em>The Lawnmower Celebrity</em> for the BBC as well as researching my next travelogue which will be a road-trip round Italy. I also have a theory about curing the common cold. Seriously. I'm on to something. It involves sneezing, that's all I'll say. Watch this space."<br />
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You can follow <a href="http://www.twitter.com/benhatch" target="_hplink">@BenHatch on Twitter </a>and his Facebook page is <a href="https://www.facebook.com/BenHatchAuthor?fref=ts" target="_hplink">here</a>, although it is, by his own admission, "Fairly rubbish."<br />
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<img alt="2013-05-21-RoadtoRouencover.jpg" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2013-05-21-RoadtoRouencover.jpg" width="100" height="161" /><em>Road to Rouen</em> is published on May 23rd by Headline books. You can order it <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Road-Rouen-Ben-Hatch/dp/0755364546/ref=la_B0034NT4U2_1_2?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1369133948&amp;sr=1-2" target="_hplink">here</a>.]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>Author Matt Haig: Loving the Alien</title>
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    <published>2013-05-16T04:45:33-04:00</published>
    <updated>2013-05-16T10:22:59-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[MaAtt Haig's latest novel, The Humans, is a simple yet moving story that will have you weeping at the beauty and futility of it all.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
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    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[<em>This week, <strong>Catching the Comet's Tail</strong> features author <strong>Matt Haig</strong>. I like to imagine that if, by some time-bending miracle, Rene Descartes could meet David Bowie at a space cafe where the only thing on the menu is peanut butter served on slices of philosophical bread, Matt would be there taking notes. Haig's latest novel, <em>The Humans</em>, is a simple yet moving story that will have you weeping at the beauty and futility of it all. Welcome to the world of an author who puts the 'sigh' in sci-fi.</em><br />
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<strong>Matt on creativity...</strong><br />
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"I think writing sometimes comes from intense experiences. You are not necessarily writing about those experiences but it helps me that I have had them. I think the body and the mind are very closely linked. When I used to have panic attacks, it was my heart and my mind going crazy together. You feel things and experience things and somehow these experiences turn into stories. It is a mystery. If you write non-fiction then you write with a clear knowledge of where your words stem from, but with fiction you are generally asking questions, not giving answers."<br />
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<strong>Was creativity encouraged in you as a child and who were your early literary influences?</strong><br />
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"I was quite bookish but didn't go to a school where being bookish was a good thing, so I often used to hide the fact from my friends. I loved all the usuals - Dahl, Jansson, SE Hinton...then, as a teen, Stephen King in a major way. But I think a lot of the writer sensibility comes from staring out of windows. I used to do that a lot, wrapped up in the comfort of my own imagination. My parents also took me to the theatre a lot and our house was a house of books."<br />
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<strong>How long did it take to write <em>The Humans</em> and can you recall the first spark of inspiration?</strong><br />
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"<em>The Humans</em> took me over a decade, technically, because I first had the idea for it in 2000 when I was suffering from panic disorder, and feeling alienated from the rest of my species. However, I was scared of writing it as a first novel for 2 reasons - firstly, I didn't want to be labelled as a sci-fi writer, which technically this story is (in subject if not in spirit), and secondly, even though it was a fantasy, the story felt strangely personal, and it took a while to get the degree of honesty necessary. I needed to look at myself properly, and when you are 25 and trying to be cool that's hard. The concept changed through the editing process. I am deeply proud of this book and don't mind shouting about it from the rooftops. I think it is by far the best thing I have ever done, but it only got that way with the help of my editor at Canongate, Francis Bickmore. You see, the first draft would have literally alienated most readers. He told me to think of <em>The Rime of the Ancient Mariner</em> and feed the weirdness in gradually and that is what I tried to do. And you know [a book] is finished when you have exhausted your editor and he says it is finished."<br />
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<strong>Who, what or where always inspires your creativity, no matter what? And what, if anything, is guaranteed to kill it?</strong><br />
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"I can only work at home. Preferably in my attic. But I can have music on or even the TV. I have tinnitus, so quiet is more distracting than noise. Twitter is a creativity-killer though."<br />
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<strong> What do you do when you feel blocked creatively?</strong><br />
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"Go for a run. Or, if in a serious slump, get away on holiday."<br />
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<strong>Please share a photo of something that connects with your writing process.</strong><br />
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"My writing staple... peanut butter." <br />
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<strong>Is there a collaborative element to your work? </strong><br />
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"Well, I have a great editor. And my wife is a writer, so I show her stuff and she tells me what she likes and what she doesn't. But I am a shut-myself-away kind of writer to be honest."<br />
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<strong>Where do you most like to be when you write, and do you have a daily routine? </strong><br />
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"I hate writing at a desk so I can normally be found lounging around my house. This is my favourite spot.<br />
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I work three times as well in the morning as the afternoon. For every sentence I write in the afernoon, I can write a paragraph in the morning. So my rule is: START EARLY, FINISH EARLY."<br />
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<strong>Which other creative art form outside the one you are known for do you wish you could master?</strong><br />
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"I'd like to be a film director. My Dad is an architect. I'd love to design a building."<br />
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<strong>How did becoming a parent affect your creativity?</strong><br />
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"You have less time, so you become more productive. You use the time you have more wisely. You become more disciplined. I also think I have a more optimistic world-view. My style has become a little bit sunnier I think."<br />
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<strong>What are you working on next?</strong><br />
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"I have been asked to write a screenplay for <em>The Humans</em>. So, that!"<br />
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<em>You can find out more about Matt on his <a href="http://www.matthaig.com" target="_hplink">blog</a>, or find him on <a href="http://www.twitter.com/matthaig1" target="_hplink">Twitter</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/matt.haig.92" target="_hplink">Facebook</a>. His novel <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Humans-Matt-Haig/dp/0857868764" target="_hplink">The Humans</a> is out now from Canongate  Books.</em>]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>Author Rosie Fiore: Hooking the Thread</title>
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    <published>2013-05-08T06:37:22-04:00</published>
    <updated>2013-05-08T07:32:15-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[Catching the Comet's Tail features author Rosie Fiore. Her second novel, Wonder Women, is a brilliantly observed, multi-layered story about three women at a crossroads in their lives. Through her engaging, realistic cast of characters, Fiore tackles important issues such as motherhood, marriage, female friendship and ambition.]]></summary>
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    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[This week, <strong>Catching the Comet's Tail</strong> features author Rosie Fiore. Her second novel, <em>Wonder Women</em>, is a brilliantly observed, multi-layered story about three women at a crossroads in their lives. Through her engaging, realistic cast of characters, Fiore tackles important issues such as motherhood, marriage, female friendship and ambition. Rosie has two children and is addicted to coffee; she is, therefore, my kind of woman. I suspect she may be yours too.<br />
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<strong>Rosie on creativity and the creative process...</strong><br />
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"It's a funny old thing for me, the process of creating... a combination of sheer drudge and moments of breath-taking inspiration. But the best way I can describe it is as a slow, endless percolation of ideas, experiences, things you've heard. It's that percolation that slowly knits itself into stories. Sometimes it's clear which elements have led to which stories, sometimes it's not, and then it's as surprising to me as it would be to a reader. I always imagine my mind as a pond (I know... go with me). I dip my hand in and swirl it around, and when I am lucky, I hook a thread with a single finger. If I pull slowly and carefully and well, the whole net of the story will rise beautifully to the surface. It's in there. I just need to let it come."<br />
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<strong>Was creativity encouraged in you as a child and who were your early inspirations?</strong><br />
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"My father painted and played the piano, my mum was wonderful with languages, and we were all encouraged to pursue our interests and grow. They were hugely supportive. My parents (and to a certain extent, my teachers at school), recognised me as a writer long before I did myself. I wanted to be an actor. I found writing to solitary and even though I knew I had a talent for it, I shied away from it for years.<br />
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I had to argue quite hard to get the chance to study drama at university, not because my parents didn't support it, but because they wanted me to be able to earn a living. But I did get to go, and found the Drama Department at Wits University a fertile and exciting creative playground, I learned so much there, and I am proud to number many people from my years there as close friends. Creative giants all of them."<br />
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<strong>How long did it take to write <em>Wonder Women</em> and can you recall the first spark of inspiration? </strong><br />
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"<em>Wonder Women</em> is my fifth book, and was definitely the easiest to write. The first draft simply poured out. I couldn't type fast enough to get it down. It took the first five months of last year, and then I spent the second half of 2012, revising it with my agent and editor. I came up with the idea on the day I finished <em>Babies in Waiting</em>, because the themes of women balancing work and family made it such a logical follow on from the plot of <em>Babies</em>.<br />
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I knew which issues I wanted to cover in the book, and before I began, had a clear idea of my main characters, but as always, as I wrote and they developed and gained detail, they took some slightly different routes. Charlotte van Wijk, who edited the manuscript, gave wonderful advice in the later drafts on fleshing out some of the relationships, and making them much stronger.<br />
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When is a book finished? Finishing is always the hardest thing to do. I really don't like stories where all the ends are neatly tied up. I like to suggest some possibilities, but keep the options open. A few reviewers have said they felt <em>Wonder Women</em> needed another chapter, but it was very much my intention to leave all the characters with choices and allow the reader to decide what they thought might happen. I'm not one for a "happily ever after" scenario."<br />
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<strong>Who, what or where always inspires your creativity and what, if anything, blocks it?</strong><br />
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"Coffee. Coffee is my friend, Seriously, I am badly addicted. It began when my small son was a baby who didn't sleep. He is now nearly four and still not a great sleeper. Coffee (and carbs) became the only way to get though the day. I'm better at the carbs, but making a pot of coffee and sitting down with a cup is a vital part of the writing ritual.<br />
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What stands in my way? Stuff. Life. Paying work (I'm a freelance copywriter), that needs hours of time and attention. Children. Housework. Facebook. Twitter. One can always find time, even if it's at 11pm, but keeping enough clear headspace can be a challenge.<br />
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Writing novels is officially the most fun I have ever had with my clothes on. There is nothing I would rather do. Sometimes there are parts of the job (line-editing for example), that can be tedious, and going over and over the same manuscript can make you lose the will to live, but I try not to lose sight of the miracle that I am actually a published novelist, and what a joy the whole thing is.<br />
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As for being blocked, a friend who is a journalist once said rather sniffily, "There's no such thing as writer's block", and I think for hacks like him and me, that's true. I write every day for a living, and I have for twenty years. I have to produce or I don't get paid. I take that "Dammit, get something... anything on the page" attitude into my novel writing. As long as you keep going, things tend to resolve themselves."<br />
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<strong>Where do you most like to be when you write and do you have a routine?</strong><br />
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"I usually write at my desk at home, in our living room. My husband is an IT engineer so I have a good PC with a massive monitor. My desk (pictured) is always a mess though, piled with papers, pens, and often toys that three-year-old Ted has brought to me as I sit there. When I need a change, I find it hugely useful to go to a coffee shop to write, although I abhor this new-fangled modern tradition of offering Wi-Fi everywhere. The best reason to write in a coffee shop (besides the good coffee), is to avoid procrastinating and surfing the Net. I am quite superstitious about the coffee shops where I've done good work and love to go back there - the Caffe Nero in Edgware is a total winner. I also did some fabulous work in the little cottage in Cornwall where we had a holiday in March. Breath-taking sea views, peace... and zero Internet (seeing a pattern here?)<br />
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I tend not to play music, but I am quite oblivious to noise, happy to write while my family watches TV or chats. I can tune it out.<br />
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Like most writers, I also have to work, and I have to care for a three-year-old, so I carve the novel-writing hours out day by day. Sometimes I'm lucky and get to work in the morning when Ted is at nursery, but more often than not, I won't get to write till he's in bed. When doing a first draft, I write 1200 words a day, every day, no exceptions."<br />
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<strong>Is there a collaborative element to your writing process?</strong><br />
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"I write alone, but my husband Tom is an utterly invaluable support. He brings drinks to me when I am writing late at night, listens to me wrestle through plot points, makes great suggestions and loves me though every stage. I'm proud to say <em>Wonder Women</em> is dedicated to him, because it wouldn't have been written without him.<br />
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Also, with any book, you end up writing about things you know nothing about, and people are always so amazingly helpful. From the woman who talked me through her children's clothing business to the friend who told me about studying at Goldsmith's in the 1990s, and the colleague of my husband's who helped me choose an authentic Indian Hindu name for a character, I salute them all."<br />
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<strong>Please share a special object that connects with your writing.</strong><br />
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"This is my quartz slab, which I use as a coaster for the ubiquitous coffee cup. It comes from a happy family trip to the Natural History Museum. I think it's beautiful, and it is the same colour as the amethyst in my engagement ring. So to me it stands for love, connectedness, family, and coffee. Yup. That's all the important stuff."<br />
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<strong>Which other creative art form outside the one you are known for do you wish you could master?</strong><br />
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"Here's my secret wish... I wish I could dance. I am five foot ten and clod-hoppingly clumsy. I started ballet and dance at sixteen, much too old to gain any real skills, and while I did it at university, was never any good at all. But in my dreams... oh, in my dreams I am a petal on the wind, or a petal in Artem Chigvintsev's arms when I get to go on the writers' only version of Strictly Come Dancing. Seriously though, I do still do some acting (amateur only), when I get the chance, and I sing in a choir. And I love to cook."<br />
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<strong>How did becoming a parent affect your creativity?</strong><br />
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"Bloody children. Time-thieves the lot of them. And heart thieves. And teachers of wit and emotion, and challengers of patience... On a practical level, being a parent makes creating much harder, just because I have less energy and time than I might have as a non-parent. But on a visceral level, I think it makes me a better writer than I would have been. My sons (Matt who is 20 and Ted who is 3), made me into a grown up. I believe they made me a less selfish, more compassionate and better version of myself, and that gives me more depth and experience to write from. Then they stole all my sleep and most of my waking hours. Sigh."<br />
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<strong>What are you working on next?</strong><br />
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"I am maybe halfway into a first draft of a new book, tentatively titled<em> Were Those the Days</em>. It's about memory and nostalgia, about the narratives we create around our past, and how we use those to define ourselves and our present. But what if the people from your past come to get you, and those people don't remember things in quite the same way? And what if what you believed in for all those years was just plain... wrong?"<br />
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<em>You can find out more about Rosie on her website <a href="http://www.rosiefiore.com" target="_hplink">www.rosiefiore.com</a>  Twitter <a href="http://www.twitter.com/rosiefiore" target="_hplink">@rosiefiore</a>  and Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/rosiefiorewriter" target="_hplink">Rosie Fiore</a>.</em><br />
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<em>Wonder Women</em>, published by Quercus, is available now on <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Wonder-Women-ebook/dp/B00ANJW3BW/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1368007771&amp;sr=1-1" target="_hplink">Kindle</a>.]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>Artist Ylva Kunze: Chance and Control</title>
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    <id>tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2013:/theblog//3.3176809</id>
    <published>2013-04-29T06:50:50-04:00</published>
    <updated>2013-04-30T09:10:38-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[This week, I spoke to Swedish contemporary artist Ylva Kunze during her first London show, Artist in Residence. Her canvases, informed by the woods and lakes of her childhood in Småland, are deeply affecting, filled with kinetic fervour.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
        <uri>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/</uri>
    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[<em>Welcome to <strong>Catching the Comet's Tail</strong>, a series of interviews with writers, artists and musicians discussing creativity and their creative process. This week, I spoke to Swedish contemporary artist <strong>Ylva Kunze</strong> during her first London show, Artist in Residence. Her canvases, informed by the woods and lakes of her childhood in Sm&aring;land, are deeply affecting, filled with kinetic fervour.  It was no surprise to me to discover that her name, Ylva, means 'she-wolf' in Swedish.</em><br />
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<strong>Ylva on creativity and the creative process...</strong><br />
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<blockquote>For me, creativity is an urge that I have to act on. It's a total body feeling, something I get if I see something that inspires me. I immediately want to act -  to experiment - there is a sense of urgency about it, like with everything in my life!  I don't know where the urge comes from, but when I'm involved in the process of making a painting, I do sometimes wonder where the feeling begins. If, for some reason, I can't get to my studio when I have the urge to create, I can put the feeling on hold and tap back into it. It's a sense of wanting to try - like I am desperate to start the journey, the process. For me, creativity is about 'finding out' and the origin of it is not in my brain but my body. The urge might be to explore colours or experiment with the medium I am putting on the canvas. I never feel any fear around my process as it's the actual doing that makes me creative -  it's the doing that makes me discover new things.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Was creativity encouraged in you as a child and who were your early inspirations?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>Creativity was all around me as a child, for example, my dad made all our furniture. It's a very Swedish way I think, this idea of making things; you don't employ someone, you do it yourself. In school we studied textiles and woodwork from a young age. My mum has a studio and still paints. My childhood home was full of paintings, and my grandma, who was from Vienna, went to art school in the early 1900s. Her father was an architect who the worked on Vienna's famous opera house and mixed in Art Nouveau circles.<br />
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However, I never thought I would be an artist ~ perhaps it was something to do with being in Sweden in the 1970's, but I just didn't see art as my path and didn't discover it until I was in my 20s. I was traveling a lot, living in Los Angeles, New York, Stockholm and  Gothenburg before I came to London. I was living in a squat with musicians and meeting artists, and decided to start a foundation course in art at Chelsea. That's when I painted for the first time. I still have my first painting. It was a dead animal project; three pig heads!<br />
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My grandma was one of my earliest artistic inspirations but I also remember, when I was about 10 years old, being blown away by the vastness of the paintings in the Louvre in Paris. It was the sheer size of them that took my breath away - a strong bodily sensation that I remember very clearly.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>How long have you been working on <em>Artist in Residence </em>and is the final result what you originally planned? </strong><br />
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<blockquote>I found my painting voice about ten years ago. This process of placing canvases flat on the floor, using buckets and buckets of paint, mixing the paint with glue and the way I drag the paint across the canvas has been with me for some time. This show, Residence, took around two years to complete. A few paintings came about at the last minute and were still wet while I was hanging them.<br />
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It's important to me to know the space I am showing in because I plan canvas sizes and the way I want the finished show to look. Hanging the pieces is a very important part of the process for me, and original concepts will change according to the space.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>How do you know when a painting is finished?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>I get a gut feeling when a painting is finished. I feel exhilarated. It makes me excited and that feeling is the whole reason for painting in the first place.  A painting is done when I feel a sense of unity with it.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Who, what or where always inspires you?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>Walking in the the vast, raw woods in Sm&aring;land inspires me; the beauty of the heavy snow glimmering on the tree branches; hearing my footsteps crunching the snow or swimming in a lake with just the sound of the birds and my arms stroking the water. That tranquillity, emptiness and space, rawness and simplicity, is a necessity for me. Being separated from it influences my work. To create, I have to sweat and get my whole body involved so the worst thing for me is to be still. I often do body painting where I'm heaving paint around physically, it's very kinetic process for me.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Is there a collaborative element to your creative process?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>When I am painting, I am a very private person so I never have anyone watch me while I paint, but the hanging of a show is a different matter. I love having people to bounce off at that stage and having my representative (Sarah Smith) has been fantastic for me. I needed that support otherwise I'd probably still just be in my studio not showing anyone anything! I am confident as an artist but wasn't that confident about showing my work in London until I started to collaborate with Sarah.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Where do you most like to be when you paint and do you have a routine?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>My time is limited because I am a mum, but generally I turn up at my studio and plan what I'm doing, then I mix the paint which is a very meditative part of my journey. Painting grounds me, quietens me down. When the actual painting process begins, I like to have loud music in the background, XFM radio playing indie rock. I find the energy of London more conducive to painting than the Swedish countryside although my work is completely informed by the latter. The first thing you are told as a child in Sweden is, "Don't go out into the woods because you will get lost like Hansel and Gretel... you will disappear."</blockquote><br />
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<blockquote>In my studio, I need complete freedom to make a big mess. I use so much paint, there are huge puddles of it everywhere. The photo shows my overalls and my clogs literally clogged with layers of paint. My environment allows me to lose myself, just like I was warned not to as a child, in the smell of the paint, the music I play, and the paint itself.<br />
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It can be frustrating having to stop painting to pick up my children, but I have to look at it positively. I am a daytime person now but before children it was different. I have bad days and good days, but I can bring it on... I can bring on the she-wolf!<br />
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<strong>Please share a special object that connects with your painting.</strong><br />
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<blockquote>This is a book my grandma gave me in my late teens when I was on a journey in my life. She was a fantastic person; at 85 she was wallpapering her own walls, a total inspiration. She wrote a special message inside it and it means a lot to me. Boken om Lyckan means 'The Book of Happiness'. It makes me feel like my grandma is still here and reminds me of her inspiring character.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Are there other creative art forms you wish you could master?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>There's nothing I want to do other than paint, but a nice singing voice would be good! I used to dance a lot... that and horse-riding are other art forms I love.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>How did becoming a parent affect your creativity?<br />
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<blockquote>Becoming a mum made me much less self centered. It changed my work in that I didn't care so much about what people thought. I was less afraid to try new things once I had been through childbirth.  I did some of my best work when I was pregnant and have photos of me, huge, in my studio painting frantically. I did some really key pieces at that time. John Cage said, "When you start working, everybody is in your studio - the past, your friends, enemies, the art world, and above all, your own ideas..." Motherhood gave me perspective, it helped me leave all those voices behind.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>What are you working on next?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>I am just breathing right now. I am going to carry on where I left off, ideas are brewing. I definitely have things that I need to do.</blockquote><br />
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You can find out more about Ylva on her website <a href="http://www.ylvakunze.com" target="_hplink">www.ylvakunze.com</a>.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2013-04-29-Motion2a.jpg"><img alt="2013-04-29-Motion2a.jpg" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2013-04-29-Motion2a-thumb.jpg" width="100" height="100" /></a><em><strong>Ylva Kunze: Artist in Residence</strong> is showing at the C99 Art Project Gallery, 99 Chamberlayne Rd, Kensal Rise, London NW10 until 9th May.  Open Monday-Friday 10-5, Saturday 10.30am - 5pm, Sunday 4pm-7pm. Contact 0208 969 6154</em>]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>Author Elizabeth Fremantle: Tea, Toast and Not Losing Your Head</title>
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    <published>2013-04-18T09:50:19-04:00</published>
    <updated>2013-04-19T09:25:29-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[Welcome to Catching the Comet's Tail, a series of interviews with writers, artists and musicians discussing creativity and their creative process. To launch the series, I am delighted to welcome English author Elizabeth Fremantle.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
        <uri>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/</uri>
    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[<em>Welcome to <strong>Catching the Comet's Tail</strong>, a series of interviews with writers, artists and musicians discussing creativity and their creative process. To launch the series, I am delighted to welcome English author Elizabeth Fremantle. Her first novel, <em>Queen's Gambit</em>, based on the life of Henry VIII's sixth wife Katherine Parr,  had me gripped from the first page until the last. I happen to know that, not only is she a gifted writer, she is also a demon at Scrabble. </em><br />
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<img alt="2013-04-18-LizPortrait2.jpg" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2013-04-18-LizPortrait2.jpg" width="300" height="319" /style="float: left; margin:10px" ><strong>Elizabeth on defining creativity and the creative process...</strong><br />
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<blockquote>I am pragmatic about creativity. I am not of the view, for example, that I am the catalyst for some mysterious alchemical process. For me writing (and I'm talking here about the production of extended pieces of fiction) is more craft than art; it is something you teach yourself to do and it improves with practice. Certainly there are character traits that suggest a propensity for the craft, all rather dull, I'm afraid: discipline, a desire for solitude, swottiness and the ability to consume vast quantities of tea and toast, because when you are on a roll the last thing you want to do is come over all Nigella. No amount of talent can compensate for hard work but it is true that some people have an extra something that just makes them better than everyone else (not me, I might add) but even those people have to work hard. If I have a muse at all, it is the accumulated knowledge from all the books I have ever read and resides in an unwieldy and unreliably accessed conglomeration in my head.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Was creativity encouraged in you as a child and who were your early inspirations?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>In my family 'creative' was what you were when you were not 'academic' and it meant that your education didn't really matter; I was not considered 'academic'. Reading was my refuge from an eccentric family and an effective mask for my social inadequacy. I read anything I could get my hands on from Jean Plaidy to Somerset Maugham, via Gerald Durrell and Agatha Christie. Often when I finished books I would start them all over again immediately. The only thing I ever wanted to become was a writer because I saw it as a way to create worlds for people to inhabit, who felt they didn't fit in the actual world; but not being 'academic' made me believe it would never be possible. In my thirties I thought 'sod it,' and went to university. It turned out I was 'academic'!</blockquote><br />
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<strong>How long did it take to write <em>Queen's Gambit </em>and can you recall the first spark of inspiration? </strong><br />
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<blockquote>I had written a number of novels, none of which had found a publisher and was beginning to think that perhaps I didn't have what it takes to be a novelist. I was writing intense, writerly stories about young, messed-up posh girls, despite knowing that there was no market for such things. It was a colleague, a literary scout for whom I worked, who suggested I think about who I was writing for. It occurred to me only then to think of writing the kind of books I have always most enjoyed reading rather than the kind I thought I ought to write. I was intrigued by Katherine Parr because she was the wife everyone thought was rather dull and yet she was the one who survived. The more I researched her the more I realized that she had been miscast by history and I felt compelled to explore her story in fiction. Once I started, I was on a mission; it took me about eighteen months and I did really create the book I set out to write, which is actually more difficult than it sounds. I don't know if you ever know that a novel is finished; in my case I simply have to decide that I must stop tinkering. I still can't read passages in the 'finished' book that I don't want to change.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Who, what or where always inspires you?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>My inspiration is most usually derived from reading but sometimes I will wander round an old building or look at a view or a portrait and the ideas begin to pop into my head. For example I was at a wedding the other day in Richmond Park and, driving through the deer park to get there, my mind started firing off, once we were there I was mesmerized by the view from the back of the building, a landscape blurred by rain that I imagined had changed little in five hundred years. It is at moments like that when my characters begin to make themselves heard. Sometimes it flows and sometimes it doesn't, there is no rhyme or reason to it.<br />
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<strong>I don't believe in writers' block. I have good days and bad but it's just a job and the world would come to a halt if everyone else decided that they couldn't do their job because they weren't 'feeling it'. I did say I was a pragmatist.</strong><br />
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I write completely alone. It works better for me that way. I do, however belong to a writer's group, the function of which is more moral than editorial support. It is necessarily a solitary business being a novelist, and sometimes it's helpful to know people who are striving for similar ends. When you start banging on about your characters as if they are actually people in your life, they are less likely than your regular friends to glaze over, or think you've lost your marbles. I never, ever show my work to friends or family until it is ready for publication (which seems to annoy lots of people) but I have one or two trusted editors who give me notes on earlier drafts.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Where do you most like to be when you write and do you have a routine?</strong><br />
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<img alt="2013-04-18-Elizabeth_fremantle_desk.jpg" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2013-04-18-Elizabeth_fremantle_desk.jpg" width="300" height="225" /style="float: left; margin:10px" ><blockquote>I definitely work best at my desk with all my reference books around me and an internet connection to fact-check as I go along. I like silence and my dogs sleeping at my feet. I'm not very good at being portable. Comfort and warmth are key and the best thing about being a writer is that you can go to work in your pyjamas. I often think people are disappointed when they meet me because I used to be a Vogue fashion editor and I am never wearing the kind of thing they expect - its always a version of pyjamas really.<br />
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I'm a morning person but can work in any moment when the desire arises. I have been known to sit at my desk after a night out having had one two many glasses of wine and start thumping away at the keyboard - see above mention of wedding in Richmond - sometimes this produces diamonds but often drivel. When I am writing a new draft of something my rule is to write a minimum of 1,000 words a day. I am very strict about this and it suits me perfectly. I rarely sacrifice other things to write as there's nothing I'd rather be doing.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Please share a special object that connects with your writing.</strong><br />
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<img alt="2013-04-18-LizFremantle_talisman.jpg" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2013-04-18-LizFremantle_talisman.jpg" width="200" height="267" /style="float: left; margin:10px" ><br />
<blockquote>I bought this miniature to celebrate my first publishing deal and though I don't invest it with any kind of talismanic powers, it does remind me of the joy I felt when I knew I was going to be earning my living doing the thing I love best. It is a Victorian copy of a Nicholas (who is in my next book) Hilliard original of Mary Queen of Scots by George Perfect Harding.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>Which other creative art form outside the one you are known for do you wish you could master?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>I'm hopeless at everything else though I did make a couple of rather good human beings once.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>How did becoming a parent affect your creativity?</strong><br />
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<blockquote>I really have absolutely no idea, though being a single mother has made me very time efficient.</blockquote><br />
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<strong>What are you working on next?</strong><br />
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<blockquote><em>Queen's Gambit</em> is the first of a Tudor trilogy. The second book takes place a few years later in time and though I don't revisit any of my protagonist's stories, there are a few minor characters who reappear. <em>Queen Jane's Shadow</em> (out in May 2014) tells of the two younger sisters of the tragically executed Lady Jane Grey, one of whom, Lady Mary is a four foot hunchback. In the period physical deformity was regarded with great suspicion and often linked to the demonic in people's minds, so Mary's perspective on the court is coloured by this. Lady Catherine is the capricious beauty of the family and in love with the idea of love, something that eventually becomes her downfall. I intertwine their stories with that of a female court painter, Levina Teerlinc, who was remarkable in that she was earning her living from her work in a time when women rarely set foot beyond the domestic arena. It is all set against the backdrop of the turbulent and bloody Tudor succession.<br />
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The third novel, which I am working on now, focuses on the life of the 'decadent' Penelope Devereaux who scandalised the late Elizabethan court.</blockquote><br />
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<em>You can find out more about Elizabeth on her website <a href="http://www.elizabethfremantle.com" target="_hplink">www.elizabethfremantle.com</a> Twitter <a href="http://www.twitter.com/LizFremantle" target="_hplink">@LizFremantle</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/Elizabeth-Fremantle/261921827262070?fref=ts" target="_hplink">Elizabeth Fremantle</a>.<br />
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<a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Queens-Gambit-Elizabeth-Fremantle/dp/0718177061" target="_hplink">Queen's Gambit</a> is available now in hardback, published by Michael Joseph.</em>]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>Letting Men Into the Cult of Motherhood</title>
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    <published>2013-01-29T06:21:27-05:00</published>
    <updated>2013-03-31T05:12:01-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[The problem, as I see it, is that if we stick with the feminine and masculine principles as cultural rather than something housed within each individual, how can men ever meet us in the domestic sphere so that we 'parent' our children together?]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
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    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[I'm having a dilemma.<br />
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Am I a parent, or am I a mother?<br />
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Am I a uterus, or am I a person?<br />
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It sounds funny, but actually, it's quite serious.  From the age of eleven, I have been reminded every few weeks of my 'reproductive potential'. Now, in my mid-forties, the odd sweat emanating from my left armpit as I embark on an apparently one-sided menopause, reminds me of that potential coming to an end. Now more than ever, I am consciously unpicking what it means to be a woman. What it is that really constitutes the 'feminine' and the 'masculine' beyond body parts and hormones?  What are the scientific facts about 'gender' and how many of my assumptions are the result of nothing more than cultural mythology and social conditioning?*<br />
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I have always bought into the idea of 'the feminine' as a universal principle. I absorbed the western interpretation of Taoist yin/yang thinking from childhood and have never really questioned it until now.  This idea of the feminine representing the creative dark, the yin, the nurturing principles of community and communication has much appeal, but I am beginning to understand the ways in which this concept as a subtle cultural principle polarizes men and women. It narrows the economic, social and human potential of both sexes.  I have been thinking a lot about whether it would be helpful for women's equality if I played down what I feel is my 'difference' from men; the fact that I birth and breastfeed, the fact that I bleed.<br />
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The problem, as I see it, is that if we stick with the feminine and masculine principles as cultural rather than something housed within each individual, how can men ever meet us in the domestic sphere so that we 'parent' our children together? If we assume that women are innately better at nurturing, we tie ourselves to the kitchen sink and limit our possibilities, at the same time sentencing men to a life outside the home, chasing some intangible goal that takes them away from their families and the hard work of bringing up children. Men too can be nurturing, intuitive, loving, and caring; these qualities are not somehow innately bound up in motherhood are they? Before you say it, men get a hit of the love hormone oxytocin when they hug their children too!<br />
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Does it empower mothers and increase their status in society of we say they are nature's homemakers and innately nurturing?  I am beginning to see how this helps to keep mothers in a place of cultural servitude, maintaining nothing but status quo. Equally, does it really 'empower' men to have a social script that says they should be 'out there' earning money, locking them into a lifetime of ladder-climbing and provider-stress that keeps them away from their offspring?<br />
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Yet, I am left with a glaring issue if I deny the glory, power and mystical wonder of my uterus!  HEAR ME ROOAAAR! The issue is where to put the fact that mothering my daughters has been the best, most enlightening and empowering experience of my life. Of all the 'careers' I have had (and there have been many) mothering my children has been the most natural fit for my personal strengths and weaknesses.<br />
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But I have begun to question whether I am 'mothering' my children or actually just 'parenting' them? What, when we go beyond birth and breastfeeding, am I giving them that my husband does not, other than some experience-based empathy about periods? If I'm honest, my husband is a better shoulder to cry on. He is the 'nurturing force' of calm in our home. I am not innately better at laundry and finding lost homework folders. I am far more the outwardly-focussed forager-spirit traditionally associated with masculinity. My partner and I have found ourselves in different (and I would claim, the wrong) spheres as a result of our own social/cultural expectations, education and upbringing.<br />
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I despair when gentle fathers who are great with their children, get derided for 'being in touch with their feminine side' as if it's a bad thing. Surely these men are simply evolved human beings. If I hear one more excuse for friend's sons being allowed to hit me with sticks because, "Oh! They're just being a boy," I might choke on my yin/yang necklace. How limiting, how sad. LET'S SHAKE IT UP!<br />
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If you take the gender-based social conditioning out of parenting (as in the case of many single sex couples) things get really interesting. It becomes a question of individual temperament, laying the groundwork for a more equal distribution of the task of bringing up children. Plus, a whole load of women can unburden themselves of the guilt they carry about the fact that motherhood, for them, is not enough.<br />
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I have found motherhood to be very tribal and divided, with no unified or unifying political voice. Part of the problem is that we see 'the other' woman's choice as the thing that holds us back. Stay-at-home mothers view full-time working mums and nanny-culture as part of the reason motherhood is not valued, and working mums see the stay-at-homers as upholding cultural stereotypes that maintain inequality in pay and rubbish parental leave legislation. We are at a paralysing impasse.<br />
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Can and should 'motherhood' be absorbed into the word 'parenthood', or is it more important to raise the status of motherhood as a 'career choice'? Can we ever go beyond gender and simply be humans, together, doing this thing called life? Do we need to let men into the cult of motherhood and bridge the divide, one dirty nappy at a time?<br />
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I'd love to know what you think and especially hear about any good books on the subject; I'll compile them into a reading list and share.<br />
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*Gender Delusions by Cordelia Fine is a good starting point on all this.]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>A Chaos of Edges: Welcome to the Perimenopause</title>
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    <published>2012-12-14T04:13:42-05:00</published>
    <updated>2013-02-12T05:12:01-05:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[Many of my female friends over forty are feeling daunted by the imminent onset of the 'change'. It looms on our horizon like a gathering storm of ancient soot and carnage. Our air is heavy with anticipation, we're all forecasting doom and it has to stop.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
        <uri>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/</uri>
    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[Most women are born with their life quota of egg follicles, somewhere around 2 million of them. In an average life, these eggs diminish to about 750,000 by the onset of puberty to around 10,000 by the age of 45. Medically, the menopause describes the moment when a woman runs out of eggs and has her final period. The menopause is only 'diagnosed' after a year without menses, but actually this varies greatly from woman to woman.<br />
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For a long time before this menopausal 'moment', women experience seismic shifts in their chemical make-up at a pace as individual as their life stories. This is the perimenopause, a process which begins around the age of forty to forty-five and takes several years to complete.<br />
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Although many women (and men) view the prospect with dread, the perimenopausal years present a precious opportunity for healing and spiritual growth ~ if only more of us embraced them fully, fiercely with wild and open hearts. Yep, the PM. It's where it's at sister. Provided there's somewhere to sit down and it's not too far from a toilet.<br />
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Perimenopause is a time of enormous change as significant and bewildering as its reverse mirror, puberty. Women's later years are potentially  a time of crystallization, a process of obtaining clarity as we gather up the fragmented self and cluster into new forms. The elements are all the same; we are still us, but we are arranged differently. I personally feel a need to reclaim the missing pieces of myself, those fragments lodged in unfulfilled dreams and unfinished business; those pieces still stuck in the hearts or minds of old loves. I feel the need to gather myself home before it's too late.<br />
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Many of my female friends over forty are feeling daunted by the imminent onset of the 'change'. It looms on our horizon like a gathering storm of ancient soot and carnage. Our air is heavy with anticipation, we're all forecasting doom and it has to stop.<br />
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Native American traditions view the older woman as 'the gatherer' who 'walks in beauty' replenishing her internal landscape while her external shell decays.  For women with children, the perimenopause can feel like a homecoming, a reintroduction into a extraordinary place called "the self" after many years of caring for others.  Sadly these days, there are few elders lining the streets and cheering us on in this endeavor. Many women, just like me, are going through this stage of their lives with young children to look after and the push/pull of opposing needs is aching.<br />
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As far back as fairytales, older women have either been the 'stepmother'; malcontent, skeletally thin and brimming with poison, or the wizened yet wise. In the mainstream media,  older women are pretty much invisible. With such a narrow choice of role models, it is no wonder that, although the menopause is not a disease, around 2.5 million women in the UK choose to medicate their journey from fertile to infertile. We commonly turn to HRT or antidepressants at mid-life and risk increased chances of developing breast cancer, thrombosis and strokes among other side-effects.<br />
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Botox may freeze an older woman's face into a fictional eternity, but we still rot inside if we hate who we are. We are so terribly bad at ageing in the West ~ it can feel lonely facing the challenge of these years in a world that takes it's beauty one way; neatly packaged and low-fat.<br />
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As I age, I am a chaos of edges, an ill-defined mess, a burgeoning of bosom, a geology of indiscriminate crevices and I am determined not to loathe it although, sometimes, bravado crumbling, I do.<br />
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I am so tired of women hating the skin they're in. So, so tired.]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>Top 10 Spookiest Places in Britain</title>
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    <id>tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.1957041</id>
    <published>2012-10-29T19:00:00-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-12-29T05:12:02-05:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[I still have a love/sh*t-my-pants relationship with this time of year and occasions such as Samhain, Halloween, All Saint's Day and Bonfire Night. Many of the festivals taking place over the next few weeks are, at heart, celebrations about finding light in the darkness of winter as well as being a time to honour those no longer with us. In short, it's spook season and I spend quite a lot of it hiding behind the sofa, peeping between the fingers of my six-year-old. But I'm feeling brave, and in the spirit of not being a lily-livered, malingering pant-wetter, here is a list of the spookiest most atmospheric places in Britain I can think of.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
        <uri>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/</uri>
    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[I am of a delicate disposition. Utterly invertebrate. Had I been born in a different era, I would have been a wan-faced, smelling-salt fainter type prone to swooning into the arms of that blonde bloke from <em>Downton Abbey</em>. Instead, in this robust moment in women's history, I am a secret scaredy-cat fortified by coffee whose daughters take the piss relentlessly.<br />
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After the Dementors in <em>Harry Potter</em> reduced me to tears, my girls prescribed me some serious jitter therapy; a trip to Harry Potter World where I learned that Dementors are in fact just rubbish bags on a piece of string dangled about by an intern.<br />
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Although I am semi-cured of my wibbly-wobblyitis, I still have a love/shit-my-pants relationship with this time of year and occasions such as Samhain, Halloween, All Saint's Day and Bonfire Night. Many of the festivals taking place over the next few weeks are, at heart, celebrations about finding light in the darkness of winter as well as being a time to honour those no longer with us. In short, it's spook season and I spend quite a lot of it hiding behind the sofa, peeping between the fingers of my six-year-old.<br />
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However, I'm feeling brave, and in the spirit of not being a lily-livered, malingering pant-wetter, here is a list of the spookiest most atmospheric places in Britain I can think of. They have either sent chills down my spine, filled me with awe or caused me worry wind. What would you add to the list?<br />
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<strong>A 'Pass the Brown Trousers' Guide to Britain </strong><br />
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<strong>1. Glastonbury Abbey</strong> Even more than the Tor or Chalice Well, an autumn afternoon spent at Glastonbury Abbey in the South West of England is a magical experience. An original church was built here in around 63AD and the detailed archeological findings on the site take you through the whole tumultuous history of Britain through myth, legend and artifact. You can almost feel the legendary ghost monks rubbing up against you in their sackcloth and oiling their baldy heads.  There is nothing like an old ruin to give you the chills. (Insert ageist, sexist joke about Joan Collins here, think better of it and decide to leave it out). <br />
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<strong>2. The British Museum's Enlightenment Room</strong> is filled with intriguing artifacts but the most compelling were once the property of Dr. John Dee, occult magician and advisor to Queen Elizabeth I. Dee's black obsidian mirror and wax discs covered with magical and alchemical symbols make fascinating viewing. After getting the willies here, you can then nip up to the Egyptian mummy exhibit or go see some shrunken heads. Awesome. <br />
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<strong>3. The Rosslyn Chapel</strong> located seven miles south of Edinburgh is a medieval church at the centre of many grail novels, Knights Templar tales and mysteries. Whatever the truth behind the legends, there is no doubt that, even when crowded with visitors, the wall-to-wall carvings of the building are totally engrossing. I don't know quite what it was that gave me the shivers here; the atmosphere, the freezing weather or the thought of Dan Brown's I-could-buy-an-island bank balance.<br />
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<strong>4. Highgate Cemetery</strong> This stunning Gothic/Victorian graveyard covers miles of land in North London and is the burial place of Karl Marx, Christina Rossetti and Max Wall among others. It's particularly atmospheric at dusk and on cold autumn days when stone angels peek through mounds of red ivy and golden leaves. My old primary school is located opposite the entrance on Swain's Lane and, as a child, I was terrified of the huge willow tree that spewed out over the cemetery wall, it's long gnarled branches beckoning like the bony fingers of the dead. No wonder I wet myself on the trampoline. <br />
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<strong>5. The Whispering Knights</strong> in Warwickshire are four Neolithic dolmen dated to around 4000 BC. Set against a sunset, the weathered stones actually look like knights huddled together conspiring and there is almost nothing scarier than rocks that look real people. Just say "no" to animated granite.<br />
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<strong>6. St Enodoc Church</strong> This church in Trebetherick, Cornwall was buried under sand dunes from the 16th-19th centuries and is said to be the location of a cave where the hermit St Enodoc lived. The building still has the appearance of being engulfed by the land and with a vast sea view behind, it is a memorable and rather eerie place according to my mate Charlotte. I've never been. The idea of being engulfed by sandunes is too much.<br />
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<strong>7. Wayland Smithy</strong> located near the White Horse of Uffington in Oxfordshire is a Neolithic tomb associated with the Saxon god of blacksmiths. Gnarly trees, crumbling stones and gory archeological findings make this one of the most knee-knocking ancient sites I have ever got the fear in. It puts the "oo" in spooky. <br />
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<strong>8. London's Ghost Stations</strong> ~ London's underground tube network includes several disused railway stations which invoke bygone eras and ghosts of the past. A quick Google search will guide you to ones you can still catch glimpses of such as the old open air platform at Highgate now overgrown with ivy and buddleia. One of the scariest things is the smell of urine in the abandoned tunnel between Muswell Hill and Highgate. <br />
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<strong>9. The German Military Underground Hospital</strong> in Guernsey in the Channel Islands was built by slave workers during the Nazi occupation of the Island in 1940. It is an icy, concrete hell of echoing eeriness constructed during an appalling time in European history. With such desperately unhappy foundations, it is unsurprising that a tour still gives most visitors the heebeegeebies for weeks after. Grim.<br />
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<strong>10. Willy Wilcock's Hole</strong> on the Cornish coast is one of the many of the dark craggy caves in this area associated with ghostly pirate ships, phantom sea folk and distressed damsels whose cries are carried on the howling coastal wind. Luckily, the name Willy Wilcock helps me to laugh in the face of my phobia of ghostly gammy-legged, halitosis-ridden pirates that possibly only Johnny Depp as Jack Sparrow could cure. Also, for smuggly, piratey, contrabandy atmosphere par excellence, I've got to mention the little fishing village of Polperro where my brother -in-law once dropped his trousers in public. Magic. <br />
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I'd love to hear what you would add to my list.<br />
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Now, what was that noise?]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>All This Scratching is Making Me Itch: Are Tights a Feminist Issue?</title>
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    <id>tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.1922239</id>
    <published>2012-09-28T08:03:36-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-11-28T05:12:01-05:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[I have yet to find a cold weather solution that works clothes or activity wise and so, I feel, I must move somewhere warm where I can bake my leathery vellum dermis on slow burn all day in just a pair of pants.  I need, frankly, to let it all hang out.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
        <uri>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/</uri>
    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[The leaves are coming down which means the tights are going up in our house. While the Teenage Songbird is dressing her shapely pins in skeins of sheer and shimmer,  the Biscuit Thief and I are just plain itchy and scratchy. We, with our highly reactive 'sensitive' skins,  practically BLEED with annoyance the entire autumn/winter season because of the brutal and perilous world of tights and wool in general.  As an added bonus, my seasonal look is topped off by a nose that becomes my personal temperature, mood and alcohol gauge from September to February with a neutral setting of 'shiny, scarlet and dripping'. I spend the chilly months living in fear that the thin, papery husk of skin holding me together might, at any moment, rip open like the Hulk's shirt, causing my guts to tumble out onto the gum-strewn pavement; the shiny burgundy reds of my liver and kidneys disappearing among the sodden autumn leaves.<br />
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Getting the Biscuit Thief dressed for school in the autumn/winter is a confusion of limbs, tears and static. She'll put on one skirt/tights combination, dance around like a whinging monkey in tin shoes for twenty minutes, then remove the whole lot about five minutes before we have to leave. She then tries on every pair of black trousers she owns until she finds THE ONES THAT AREN'T ITCHY MUMMY. She is anti-tights, anti-trousers, anti any kind of containment really and I feel her pain. Winter is just SO CONSTRAINING. It totally elevates my desire to train as a trapeze artist or pilot to the top of my 'to do' list, and I come over all tubercular, pining with empty longing every time I come across an unopened pack of 70 denier. I just can't sit still while the heating clicks through the pipes and the rain spits the earth from my window boxes for weeks on end; winter makes me figuratively and literally ITCH.<br />
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I have yet to find a cold weather solution that works clothes or activity wise and so, I feel, I must move somewhere warm where I can bake my leathery vellum dermis on slow burn all day in just a pair of pants.  I need, frankly, to let it all hang out.  I lived in California for a while and I've got to say,  I loved the freedom of  life lived outside all year round, released from the unbreathable layers of textiles required for English living.  However, I did miss the  toasty comfort and nostalgia of the British autumn and the ego-pummeling vehemence of our winters for that is the stuff of tortured poetry. Yes, I missed the conviction of the seasons when I lived in California because I so desperately require structure for my mind, but ah, how my body loved its freedom from fibre.<br />
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My grandfather owned a wool mill in Yorkshire and lost his world to acrylics and nylon, so perhaps it's some kind of ancestral destiny that I should forever suffer the itch, the itch. Apparently there isn't such a thing as a wool allergy, it's more that the coarse wool fibres poke into one's skin causing irritation and inflammation, frazzling the nerves and causing the release of histamines. Wool turns me into an irritable splatter-painting of blotchy crimsons. To wear it feels like allowing millions of ants shod in tiny, heated stilettos made out of needles to perform a Busby Berkley tap dancing routine on my torso leading to the incredibly sciency question, WHY DON'T SHEEP ITCH? I find acrylics, nylon and lycra no less annoying than wool; it's a case of clothing claustrophobia! Scarves, tights, polo necks, hats, and mittens; these are the moth-luring terrorists of my clothes cupboard and I want them extradited.<br />
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Tights come packaged with all sorts of schmexy word kisses like 'gusset', 'denier', 'sheer support' and 'control', but this just disguises the fact that they are in cahoots with yeast and cystitis, home to thrush and the peppery sweat of inner thighs. Tights are basically giant acrylic-mix condoms for legs; unsexy, good for one time use only, and prone to holes. And yet leggings, leggings are just wrong, reminding me too much of my own state of permanent indecision. "Are you trousers or are you fucking tights?" That's what I want to say to leggings. And as for jeggings! Jeggings are in such a state of identity crisis that the idea of them makes me shudder even more than the thought of Jeremy Clarkson leaving a pube hair in the soap.<br />
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The important question is, are men doing it? Are men doing tights? Are men doing scratchy gusset torture? They used to, before they realised that it's pretty hard to rule the world if you are itchy, yeasty or have a raging forest fire in your bladder. These days, the only men in tights are the dancers it would seem, and those playing Hamlet.  And so I leave you with this question, are tights a feminist issue? or do I just need to wear jeans until the bunnies get frisky?]]></content>
</entry>

<entry>
    <title>Do You Write 'Mother' on Your CV?</title>
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    <id>tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.1826937</id>
    <published>2012-08-24T04:11:36-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-10-23T05:12:11-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[I found myself writing apologetically that I had taken 'career breaks' around the births of my two daughters. I did not write in big, bold letters 'Mother' the same way I wrote 'PR Manager' or 'Copywriter'. And the more I didn't write 'Mother' in big, bold letters to explain the years 1996-1998 and 2005-2009, the more furious I felt.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
        <uri>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/</uri>
    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[You know that horrible twist of self-loathing you feel when you're doing something you don't really believe in? That sickening sense of the brick in the belly, the invisible snake that tightens around your throat and stops you from swallowing? Well I had it yesterday. Why?<br />
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Because I was writing my CV. My curriculum vitae should be my ticket to paid employment, my calling card. This mysterious document is meant to be a summary of my 'relevant' experience and skills; a list of the things that make me employable. Forty-four years whittled down to two sides of A4. And I'm livid.<br />
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Curriculum vitae is a Latin phrase which roughly translates as 'the course of [my] life' but what I just wrote on that ridiculous document is a load of piddling pish. It has nothing to do with who I really am or indeed, the course of my life. My CV does not mention the thing that really moulded me, the thing that gave me inner steel, forced me to perform immeasurable feats on little-to-no sleep, to be impulsively creative, a multi-limbed juggler of good and bad like Kali. I cannot say on my CV, 'I am as real and persistent as a wasp in your pants', but I am. It doesn't say that I am a mother.<br />
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The thing that set the throat snake unravelling this morning was the moment I found myself trying to justify long periods of 'absence' in my working life. Gaps that mess up the linear trajectory of work experience that the majority of employers expect. I found myself writing apologetically that I had taken 'career breaks' around the births of my two daughters. I did not write in big, bold letters 'Mother' the same way I wrote 'PR Manager' or 'Copywriter'. And the more I didn't write 'Mother' in big, bold letters to explain the years 1996-1998 and 2005-2009, the more furious I felt.<br />
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There are no gaps in the 'course of my life', but there have been long periods of time when I have chosen something else over economic independence, my children.  Oh, how naive I have been to think this is allowed! Those gaps on my CV loom like huge, gaping mouths; monstrous voids where it is assumed I was brain-dead and milk-sodden, capable of nothing but talking goo goo la la and doing laundry. Women who have had children know that motherhood IS work. Motherhood is difficult work, it is valuable work. Some of us are shit at it, and if we could, we'd fire ourselves. When I'm working I feel like I'm letting my children down, and when I'm not 'employed', I hear Emily Davison whispering in my ear about horses. Why does it feel like motherhood is a dirty secret we have to hide when we need to rejoin the sodding linear, patriarchal world of paid employment?<br />
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During those 'gap' years, those 'lost' years, those 'breaks', mothers learn a fuck of a lot of perfectly valid skills. We learn the depths and the limits of what it is to be human, resilience, sacrifice, persistence and grace in the face of many small defeats against nits and greens. The physical pain of labour is an agony that catapults you out of your body and your old life into an unknown place you both fear and desire. Mothers know how it feels to face their own mortality and have someone wholly dependent on their every breath. We tightrope walk between the old and the new, shapeshifting, crawling between all the roles we must play.  We can make 50p packets of pasta interesting, magically turn leaves and sticks into games that last for hours and placate, console, smile, enthuse, teach, nurture and heal even when we feel like we're dying inside.<br />
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I have worked, yes WORKED damned hard every day of those 'gaps' at bringing two daughters into the world who will hopefully contribute to this planet, not just take from it when they become women. I learned to love, to love, to love beyond measure and then love some more even on those tough days when I couldn't feel my own heart. And I did all this for absolutely no renumeration. Imagine what I'd do if you paid me! I say the world needs more jugglers, tightrope walkers and magicians; the last time I looked, the old model of a single-track career path of ever-increasing pay and hierarchy until retirement ain't working out for too many of us.<br />
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How about this dear reader of my CV: How about you don't ask me where I have been all this time and I won't ask you why so little has really changed after all these years? How about you take me as I am, caesarean scars and all.]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>The Enduring Perfection of Nadia Comaneci</title>
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    <id>tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.1722655</id>
    <published>2012-07-31T06:37:07-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-09-30T05:12:04-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[One of my most abiding Olympic memories is of the Romanian gymnast Nadia Comaneci at the 1976 Montreal Games. As I recall, there was a heatwave that summer, one that scorched its way across the US like a smoldering fuse-wire, raging through cities and forests, melting tarmac, setting prairies alight and drying my lips to paper.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
        <uri>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/</uri>
    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[One of my most abiding Olympic memories is of the Romanian gymnast Nadia Comaneci at the 1976 Montreal Games. As I recall, there was a heatwave that summer, one that scorched its way across the US like a smoldering fuse-wire, raging through cities and forests, melting tarmac, setting prairies alight and drying my lips to paper.<br />
<br />
I was 9-years-old, watching the Games while on holiday at my grandparent's house in the New Hampshire mountains that smelled of pine trees at sunset. A chunky colour TV beamed Nadia's hipless frame right into my pre-pubescent consciousness. In her unforgiving white leotard, stripes up the sides popping like arteries, 14-year-old Nadia Comaneci performed like no gymnast had ever done before.<br />
<br />
She was fearless and focused way before life coaches brought the Gospel of the Goal to the mainstream. Nadia was angular yet kittenish, pure muscle, with an anatomy of metal and spirit of steel that shames the chronic public anorexia of today. She also had these huge, brown, sorrowful eyes that betrayed the fact she was still a child. I was transfixed by her every move both on and off the apparatus.&nbsp; She was like no girl I had ever seen before.<br />
<br />
Back home in London, my city was agitated.&nbsp; IRA explosions had rocked the West End earlier in the year, the punk movement was bubbling under with the Sex Pistols just months away from signing to EMI. I was slightly too young for punk to get under my skin, but Nadia felt like a peer. To me, she embodied subversion with every sinew of her slight yet powerful frame. She was the pale, mechanical, aloof 'other', perfectly fitting the cliched perception of 'Eastern block' citizens we had back then, before the walls and Ceausescu came crumbling down.<br />
<br />
Nadia's performance on the uneven bars on July 18th 1976 is etched on my mind forever. After a gravity-defying routine, there was a delay before the Omega scoring system showed a result of 1.0. The crowd and the commentators were initially confused before it became apparent that Nadia had actually scored the first ever Olympic perfect '10' in gymnastics. "She broke the machine!" I thought in wonder. The computer had, quite literally, said "No".<br />
<br />
I was entranced by this idea of unexpected perfection. A completion so exquisite that it broke the rules, a perfection so persistent that an outdated system had to redesign itself. We did not know then how symbolic this would come to be.  Nadia's faultlessness seemed so transgressive and useful and desirable, anything less seemed suddenly pointless. <br />
<br />
I learned everything I could about perfect Nadia. I was delighted to find she shares my birthday, 12th November, my Scorpionic twin ~ I took this as symbolic of our probable affinity. She was my first female icon, the one that led me though puberty. Nadia set the bar for what one could achieve by aged 14; suddenly the possibilities of my life as an adult had some tangible form.&nbsp; Whatever I did, I wanted it to matter. In my young mind, she was the embodiment of Cold War austerity and pain and I was embarrassed by what I perceived as the flabby 'too-much-ness' of the West. Our gymnasts had breasts, curves, cellulite and no medals. It is probably because of Nadia that I studied Russian at school.<br />
<br />
But over the years, like my personal dreams of perfection, Nadia's image was replaced by pictures of women who symbolized other ambitions, new guardians of my creative journey. My photos of Nadia would be covered over by ones of Chrissie Hynde, Debbie Harry, Joni Mitchell and other goddesses of music. Then by writers and artists who stole my heart and weaved their magic; Sylvia Plath, the Brontes, Toni Morrison, Frida, Georgia, Elisabeth Frink.<br />
<br />
Sometimes I think of that bedroom wall in my childhood home and imagine how an archeologist, chipping away through the layers of my own personal iconography would find at the foundation, a pull-out-and-keep spread of Nadia Comaneci in the saturated inks of 1976, still perfect.]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>Notes on Camping: Nature is All About Sex!</title>
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    <id>tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.1599369</id>
    <published>2012-06-15T07:44:19-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-08-15T05:12:05-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[I'm back from a camping sojourn in the sodden British countryside and I have to reveal a shocking truth; everything in nature...]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
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    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[I'm back from a camping sojourn in the sodden British countryside and I have to reveal a shocking truth; everything in nature is about sex.<br />
<br />
Stuck in my urban flat, I don't notice these things; my  'outside' world mainly concerns fighting or buying stuff.  In the countryside, it's all different.<br />
<br />
I am almost embarrassed to witness greedy stamens of Queens Anne's Lace forcing themselves upwards to the bees. The frisky sheep, the bucking horses, the pelvis-shaped sycamore wings fainting to the floor like damsels in a 'take-me-now' twizzle toward the fertile earth. Stags, deer, cadavers on the road, the fenced-in versus the wild. Flowers open shamelessly towards the sun and coyly close in the night air. Our campfire greedily sucks up the air and all of our wood. The earth, voluptuous in her mounds and curves, defies the copsing and mowers that try to tame her. She just keeps on saying it; "Love me, love me just the way I am. You cannot contain me!"<br />
<br />
Everything in the countryside wants to shag or be shagged!<br />
<br />
And the kids, my God the kids are free, combusting and instantly feral!  No need for chastening sex education videos or tightlipped lessons about 'nocturnal emissions' and 'The Curse' here. No, my six-year-old girl, just get a load of those rampant poppies in the upper field!<br />
<br />
Camping in the dank grey, our tent is a seed pod of dreams. Our sleep is odd, incorporating the raw sounds from outside, a canvas sheet between us and the pelting rain which batters us out of our slumber saying, "Submit! You are so much less than all of this."<br />
<br />
Elemental, feet blackened with dirt and damp in our bones, we head home to the Big Smoke where I run a bath so hot I burn. I wonder if camping is not so much  about being at one with nature, but about proving we can still build a home that keeps her out. We try to humanize the wild with our Bell tents and trangias, but looking out from the comfort of our canvas porches, we are just voyeurs at a demented peep show, catching a glimpse of who we really are.]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>5 Things to Do This Half Term That Cost Under £1</title>
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    <published>2012-06-02T07:53:42-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-08-02T05:12:15-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[I'm really looking forward to half term week with my 6 year-old Biscuit-thief, and I'm determined not to watch Cbeebies even once, however much I miss it.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
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    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[I'm really looking forward to half term week with my 6 year-old Biscuit-thief, and I'm determined not to watch Cbeebies even once, however much I miss it.<br />
<br />
This is my top five list of things we'll be doing that cost under &pound;1! Yes! These activities cost less than a sausage and yet, are somehow priceless.<br />
<br />
1. Do a mind control experiment<br />
<br />
I seriously LOVE this experiment and can still remember doing it when I was 7. IT CHANGED MY LIFE and is the best possible way to teach children the power of positive thinking. Literally, mind blowing.<br />
<br />
You will need:<br />
<br />
A packet of cress seeds<br />
Some kitchen towel<br />
Three trays/old ice cream containers or similar<br />
Three labels/stickers<br />
Some thoughts<br />
Some words<br />
Pad the bottom of each container with kitchen towel then, with a measuring jug, pour equal amounts of water into each tray - just enough to dampen the towel, not soak it. Then, sprinkle roughly the same amount of cress seeds on top of the dampend kitchen towel in each tray.<br />
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Make three labels; one that says something nice like "love", one that says something horrible like "hate" and leave the third blank. Put one label on each tray. Place the trays side-by-side so that they get equal amounts of light and heat.<br />
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Now, here's the important bit: over the next week, encourage your Biscuit-thief to say or think really lovely things towards the LOVE tray. They can say and think equally mean things about the HATE tray and have to ignore the third tray. Every day, they need to pour equal amounts of water into each tray to keep the seeds moist whilst thinking and saying lovely or mean things to the relevant seeds.<br />
<br />
You and they will FREAK OUT when, by the end of half term, the LOVE tray of seeds has grown faster with thicker stems than the seeds in the poor little HATE tray. It's a bizarre, brilliant life lesson courtesy of cress. And watch the penny drop as your sproglets realize the damage they are doing when they call you a smelly fart head.<br />
<br />
 2. Colour code the week<br />
<br />
On Monday morning, decide with your sproglet what the colour theme of each day will be for example, Monday = Red, Tuesday = Yellow etc. Whatever you do that day, from the clothes you both wear to the food you all eat, there must be an emphasis on that colour.  They can count how many red cars, how many people they see wearing red jumpers etc on that day. The screams when they see a purple car on purple day... you have no idea. Not only will you realize that very few of us can really get away with that pastel orange Top Shop are trying to sell us, it's also brilliant when the kids get to Friday and realize they have to eat lots of greens. Crafty eh?<br />
<br />
3. Play Boredom Bingo<br />
<br />
My 6 year-old is never happier than when she has a clipboard and pen in her hand. Maybe she's going to be a polling officer or telly-offy type person when she grows up. I worry about her love of bureaucracy, it's as if I've taught her NOTHING. Anyway, she makes lists in connection with whatever we're doing. For example, on a trip to our local corner shop, the Biscuit-thief will make a list of 'expected sightings' to tick off like:<br />
<br />
<ul><li>A woman crying</li><br />
<li>Some dog poo</li><br />
<li>Someone hugging a hoodie</li><br />
<li>An abandoned mattress</li><br />
<li>A really cocky urban fox</li><br />
</ul><br />
Apart from the fact that we REALLY MUST MOVE house, an average trip is transformed from boring milk run to fascinating detective trail. If she spots all five things, she has to shout, "BOREDOM BINGO" at the top of her lungs and wins a kiss from mummy. I really must copyright Boredom Bingo.<br />
<br />
4. Make a sculpture from your tears<br />
<br />
This is genius because you can turn your nervous breakdown into a science experiment:<br />
<br />
You need:<br />
<br />
A jam jar with a lid<br />
Some string<br />
A spoon<br />
Some water<br />
Some salt<br />
Some tears<br />
<br />
Make a small hole in the lid of the jam jar and put a piece of thickish string through it, tying a knot at the top so it can't fall through the lid. Fill the jar with warmish water and add a few table spoons of salt. Mix with a spoon and let the salt dissolve. Every time you or your sproglets cry over half term, catch a few of the tears in the jam jar to add to the salt mix. Place the lid with the string onto the jam jar and behold as over the week, the salt clusters around the string to form a gorgeous, crystalline gem. The size of the crystal will depend on how many tears have been shed. BRILLIANT.<br />
<br />
5. Celebrate the Jubilee 1977 style<br />
<br />
OK, hands up, I'm not a big Jubilee fan. In my book, any women who has been sitting on the throne for 60 years probably needs medical attention and a good dose of Syrup-of- Figs. It's constitutional constipation! So, I'm bringing an element of 1977 into my house by allowing the Biscuit-thief to cut up a t-shirt and write her favourite rude word on it ('fou-fou') so she can wear it for the whole Jubilee day. Also, to avoid the crowds that will be gathering along the river Thames to watch the floating pageant thingy, I will re-enact this at home with some toy plastic boats in the bath tub whilst simultaneously encouraging my daughter to throw all her piggy bank savings out the window.<br />
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Ok those are mine, have you got any additions that cost less than a sausage? Whatever you do, enjoy yourselves. Happy half term everyone!]]></content>
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<entry>
    <title>How I Passed My Driving Test (Finally)</title>
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    <published>2012-05-30T04:20:43-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-07-29T05:12:04-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[A wise woman with a French accent once told me, "Until you can drive a car, you cannot drive your life."

"But that's ridiculous,"...]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
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    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[A wise woman with a French accent once told me, "Until you can drive a car, you cannot drive your life."<br />
<br />
"But that's ridiculous," I scoffed through a mouthful of biscuits. "I am completely in control of my life!" Then I slipped on some cat sick and banged my head on a door frame. I had not only lost my keys again, but also my mojo, my waistline and, damn it, my sense of life-purpose too.<br />
<br />
Perhaps she had a point.<br />
<br />
I had recently turned 40 and two weeks before that, my dad had very suddenly and very shockingly died. It was my first experience of primary, knee-buckling grief, and it unravelled me profoundly. Part of my healing, was to finish the job my dad had started 25 years before on the summer heat- cracked roads of a New Hampshire mountain; I was going to pass my goddamned driving test if it killed me. Yes! In his name, I was finally going to grow up, grow a pair and drive my life.<br />
<br />
So, for my 7th driving test attempt (yes, I know, but before you laugh disdainfully, unless you took your test  in an inner city on a budget of &pound;50 in a stick shift, you can totally talk to my disinterested hand) I took myself off and away from my family for a five day 'crash' course (really bad name choice) culminating in a test on the final day.<br />
<br />
My first day did not bode well. I was met by a Boris Becker look-a-like in a scarlet Ka that smelled so strongly of air freshener I immediately had an eyeball-popping coughing fit. For the entire 5 day course I wheezed asthmatically, although I actually have the lungs of a whale.<br />
<br />
On Day One, I explained to Boris about my nervous wreck-ness; how I could sort of drive, but just couldn't handle the test itself.  In the past, my exam nerves rendered me temporarily deaf and incapable of understanding the words "left", "right" or "stop." For the duration of the test, I would leave my body and look down on the proceedings like I was having a near death experience but without the angels. I didn't mention this to Boris, but I was actually profoundly terrified that if I could drive, I would probably kill someone.<br />
<br />
After pouring my heart out to Boris, I searched beseechingly his shell-suited frame for evidence that he might be my savior. A creeping sense that I was going to be disappointed  finally overwhelmed me and so I cried. By way of comfort, Boris told me about his recent divorce. This was going to be a long five days.<br />
<br />
Turns out Boris's ex-wife slept with his best mate. "Oh that old cliche," I said empathetically as I scraped the Ka painfully into third gear.<br />
<br />
"Yeah...I found them at it," he said through gritted teeth.<br />
<br />
"Oh... er... um..." I manage to impart wisely as I juddered the car into a parking lot at McDonalds (his suggestion for lunch). "I cant imagine why... er... how awful."<br />
<br />
I was starting to feel pretty uncomfortable by then, like I was having a last meal with someone whose wife didn't actually leave him, but who was probably in a bag in the trunk of the Ka. Was my last meal going to be an acrid McVeggie burger with limp Mcfries and was I going to be McDead by the morning?<br />
<br />
After five days of grueling driving lessons punctuated by soul destroying conversations, Boris's endless narrative of woe and misogyny and twenty greasy food stops, I felt no more prepared to face the examiner than I had been before.<br />
<br />
The night before the exam, highlights of the preceding days ran before my eyes;<br />
<br />
Me, crying in the middle of a roundabout.<br />
Me, abandoning the car at some traffic lights and sobbing on a curb.<br />
Me, finding it impossible to poo due to the sudden intake of junk food.<br />
Me, calling my husband and yes, sobbing while warning him not to get his hopes up.<br />
Later that evening, deflated and dreading the test, I met up with a lovely old friend of mine who, over catch-up pots of tea, gave me this advice:<br />
<br />
"Sara, it's 20 minutes of your life. Just act. For 20 minutes, act like you know what you're doing. All the examiner has to do is believe you. Make him feel safe even if you don't feel safe yourself. For God's Sake woman you are a MOTHER!  Do what you have to do every day. Pretend. Pretend you're happy even when you've had bad news. Pretend the 3 1/2 hour music concert was wonderful. Pretend you've had days when the sheer breadth, scale and depth motherhood hasn't threatened to swallow you whole. Pretend Father Christmas is still coming although you've been out of work for a year. Pretend daddy is coming home. Pretend you'll never die. Do what you do when your kids are scared, pretend you're not!"<br />
<br />
So, the next morning during my test,  I gave an Oscar worthy performance. I made Ryan Gosling in Drive look like a boy in a GoKart. I pretended I wasn't scared, and by some miracle, I passed.<br />
<br />
Three years on and I'm still afraid of motorways. I have yet to attempt the Chiswick roundabout or the Westway, and I still have to plot out every car journey before I undertake it. The fact is, I conquered an exam, not my fear of being in control of things I perceive to be powerful. A reluctance to put my foot down on the pedal of my life, to whack it into fifth gear and GO ALL THE WAY UP TO ELEVEN still has a Darth Vader type grip on my core being. But I'm getting there. Dad would be proud.]]></content>
</entry>

<entry>
    <title>How to Quit Your Gym</title>
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    <published>2012-05-14T04:28:47-04:00</published>
    <updated>2012-07-13T05:12:19-04:00</updated>
    <summary><![CDATA[Dear Gym, It's over.]]></summary>
    <author>
        <name>Sara Bran</name>
        <uri>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/</uri>
    </author>
    <content type="html" xml:lang="en" xml:base="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sara-bran/"><![CDATA[Dear Gym,<br />
<br />
It's over.<br />
<br />
After nearly five years of flirting, sweating and a whole lot of grunting, I've realised we're just not good for each other me and you.<br />
<br />
Gym, oh gym,<br />
<br />
you do not make me slim.<br />
<br />
You make me bored and annoyed like the One Show and doing accounts.<br />
<br />
I've tried it all; weights, cardio thingy, jumpy-uppy-downy class, tums, bums and thumbs, even that wibbly-wobbly power plate thing that makes your fillings fall out. (Weirdly, that doesn't seem to happen to that older lady who just sits on the plate smiling for HOURS). Zumba, Zimba and also Zamba,  I loathe it all. Even the smell of you Gym; cheese, vinegar and despair all mixed into one just makes me want to gag up a kidney.<br />
<br />
I'm sorry, but it's over. I just don't love you.<br />
<br />
You want to know why I'm leaving? Well, I'll tell you. The final straw was yesterday when I was in the shower  and an actual turd floated past me in the communal drainage from the next door cubical like something from the the conveyor belt on Bruce Forsyth's Generation Game.  "Some personalized luggage....a cuddly toy...a child's poo please Bruce."<br />
<br />
I liked your pool though. It was nice to have more than 1 square foot to swim in London that didn't involve accidentally swallowing floaty plasters or the risk of TB. But the last time I swam, I was chatted up by an 82-year-old man who left his teeth on the pool side before wading off to his aqua aerobics class. I just felt so CHEAP.<br />
<br />
You promised me 'fitness' and 'well-being' and instead I have a belly full of shattered dreams (and undigested cakes) achy knees and an appreciation for the terrible stenographer at Sky TV whose hilarious misspellings have kept me sane while I've worked up a tidal wave of gusset sweat on the Cross Trainer (which actually does make me cross, really narked) for FIVE, LONG, PUNGENT, DISAPPOINTING years.<br />
<br />
SO, I am cancelling my (misunder)Standing Order even though you will try to stop me by bringing out the Manager who is hotter than a young Denzil Washington crossed with Ryan Gosling who will ply me with offers of a 1 hour FREE session with a personal trainer called Gareth, a FREE guest pass or a FREE fluorescent cocktail at one of your 'socials.' I wont be taken in (yes, I know it worked the other 5 times I tried to leave, BUT IT WON'T THIS TIME).<br />
<br />
Oh damn you Gym with your fluffy towels, sauna and steam. Sod you with your whooping, smiley, bouncy, erect-nippled staff who have clearly NEVER HAD KIDS. IT'S OVER!<br />
<br />
OK... the truth is, I've met someone new. I haven't actually been out with it yet, or spoken to it, but I have been admiring it from afar and stalking its Facebook page. I'm not even sure if we'll get on but it looks and more importantly SMELLS amazing. Really amaaaazing. There's lots of chanting and there are tattooed teachers from New Yoik who look like they could crush a Volvo with their gluteus maximii. What more could an unfit girl want? Look out Jivamukti, here I come.<br />
<br />
I'm sorry Gym. It's not you, it's me.<br />
<br />
Actually no, it IS you. No one REALLY likes you.<br />
<br />
It's been awful,<br />
<br />
Love,<br />
<br />
Me<br />
<br />
x]]></content>
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