Attachment Parenting UK Director. Author of the APUK-accredited Child Positive Discipline online course
Michelle McHale is the founding director of the non-profit Attachment Parenting UK, writer, and the creator of the APUK-accredited course in Positive Discipline. In 2010 McHale trained as a Peer Group Leader with Attachment Parenting International before going on to launch APUK in 2012. The intention was initially to support parents feeling marginalised and confused by conventional advice. The mission now has a broader scope reaching out to all parents regardless of their parenting style. After a £10k lottery award in 2013 McHale has gone on to affiliate over 70 peer groups nationwide providing trained support for group facilitators in babywearing and breastfeeding.
McHale is committed to ensuring that both mothers and fathers have access to compassionate support while feeling free to make informed choices free of dogma or prescription. She is passionate about empowering parents to access their own innate wisdom and instinct so that they can parent with loving ease. In partnership with the APUK in-house coach McHale offers training and workshops nationwide combining coaching and positive discipline as a way of transforming parenting from a tools-based approach to one which is heart-led.
McHale also runs the APUK Positive Discipline Helpline, writes for the APUK blog and is a speaker at events including the Mumsnet Bumpfest. She has also written for The Sunday Times.
We can't protect our children from sadness any more than we can from joy. If we can love our children through all their moods, free of anxiety and responsibility-weary guilt, maybe we can become powerful models of self-acceptance and trust.
Sleep deprivation kills motivation, desire, and mood and is often the biggest challenge to enjoying your child as opposed to getting through the day (and night). The lens of sleeplessness colours our world very differently because sleep is the first step to coping.
If you want to make parenthood truly lousy then hold in mind an expectation that your baby should sleep through the night. Or your toddler. Or your pre-schooler. Marry unmet expectations with sleep deprivation and you have a potent dose of guilt, failure and worse still, resentment.
Is your bedside table stacked with books or muslins and wet wipes!? We've kept it so simple that we only chose five top books, the first of which is, in itself, the only book you might ever need. The rest have terrific value and can be referred to time and again.
Most children's experience of divorce will depend on how their parent's perceive their own situation. It is sometimes possible to separate with compassion, amicability and with a loving belief that, as author Bryon Katie says, "If I lose anyone or anything, I've been spared."
Attachment Parenting (AP) isn't something parents can follow - it's simply our default setting. AP isn't prescriptive because it doesn't see problems that need fixing - instead it's a return to something we already know to feel good - that's why parents who do it, continue to do it.
01/08/2016 12:39 BST
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