Many women decide early on in their lives when and how they will get engaged. But can we really put a time scale on such a big commitment? Marriage can put so much pressure on individuals and relationships, so it is important to know when the time is right. This can get left behind in the excitement and romance of the event itself. So, before you even get close to choosing that wedding dress, how do those thinking about getting engaged, or even proposing, avoid the common pitfalls of getting engaged?
What does it mean to be husband and wife?
This could make for a very slushy answer, but every potential bride should know what it really means to be married. Taking the plunge is a whirlwind of fun, love and emotion, but the reality of marriage is that it is a commitment which lasts a lifetime. This is not to say it won't be fun, but it also takes work, respect and understanding.
Here are some questions you should know the answers to:
- Can you be yourself? A future husband, or wife, is the person that knows you better than anyone. You should be able to be completely yourself around them.
- Can you see yourself growing old with them? A lifelong partner is one that shares the same outlook on life, that wants the same things and who you can't ever see being without.
- Do you make each other happy? It may sound simple, but making each other happy is the strongest foundation for a marriage. This is relevant to every area of your relationship, whether it is intimacy, sense of humour, or loyalty. Yes, we all know relationships encounter arguments, but a couple destined for long lasting love prioritise their partner's happiness above everything.
Marriage proposals: The right time and place
If you're the one doing the proposing, what is the best way to ensure you get it right? Before you get down on one knee, here are some quick tips to help you along the way:
- Surprise, surprise: We all like good surprises, but an unexpected proposal is a risky business. Many people decide to propose on Christmas day or birthdays in front of their loved ones. If you're thinking about this, always be sure. Have you spoken about marriage in the past? Do you think this is what your partner would want? Public proposals can be some of the most romantic, but you should always plan your approach carefully.
- Romance: You will remember the proposal for the rest of your life, so it is important to have that magic romance. This doesn't necessarily mean rose petals or candles, but something special and relevant to your relationship.
- Don't panic! Proposing is nerve wracking, so try not to let panic ruin your day.
Remember; if you love each other and the time is right, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Whilst your engagement will be one of the most memorable days of your life, remember to think about the 'why', as well as the how and when. The wedding, reception and honeymoon are the most amazing start to the rest of your lives, so look forward to a long and happy life together.
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