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Be You

03/03/2014 12:02 GMT | Updated 01/05/2014 10:59 BST

You.

Are you happy with yourself?

You. Whoever you are. Wherever you are. Whatever you are.

I think that everyone deserves to be happy, whatever you do, whatever you believe in.

If you're looking for direction in this blog, you will not find it here.

If you're looking for a cure, you will not find it here.

I'm just using my platform, my soapbox here at the Huffington Post, to reach you.

I have no ulterior or political motive. I'm just saying this as one contented student to another.

Life. It can be a beautiful thing. It can be something that hits you so hard that you wish that you'd never been born. Life. It's a challenge, it's exciting, it's yours to do with whatever you wish.

Work. What do you do? Why? Why do you do what you do? Why do you get out of bed each morning to do what you do? Fundamentally, why are you doing what you're doing?

Balance. It's my firm belief that everyone and I mean everyone, should try and life as full a life as you can. Try things you wouldn't normally try. Take that salsa class. Sign up to do that skydive for charity - I did mine to raise money for one of my closest family friends through the MS Society last March, see the video here.

Do what you love. Life is too short to waste your time trying to conform to whatever society thinks is hot, whatever society thinks is cool or now.

You. Even without meeting you, I hope I can say that you are lovely, thoughtful, kind, passionate and friendly - it's not too late to change your ways if you aren't!

Me. I try and tell myself to try something different every day. As clichéd as that sounds, I think it's good to step out of your comfort zone on a daily or weekly basis. Challenge yourself. Grow. Smile. Compliment a random passerby on the street.

I was shopping in Sainsbury's last night and saw a group of 3 girls walk towards me in full Toy Aliens outfits. Complete with green facepaint and three eyes drawn onto their foreheads - I should've got a picture of them - they looked incredible.

I couldn't help but stop them and ask, 'Oh wow. Is this fancy dress or is this just what you wear on a typical Saturday night?'

A smile. Four smiles was the outcome of that 30 second conversation.

Turns out that they were Hockey girls on their way to a Toy Story-themed Social. Amazing! I wouldn't have known that if I hadn't stopped them and asked.

You. If you think the world is against you, change your path. If you think that you can't go on, find something that really motivates you and go do that.

Talk. If you're an early morning commuter on your way to work, start up a conversation with whoever is sitting at your table, whoever is sitting next to you.

My last anecdote - a commute. Imagine. Imagine a typical, non-descript commuter train hurtling towards your destination on an otherwise typical day.

I was on my way to a Business Challenge the other day, as part of the University of Southampton team and I got chatting to one of my fellow commuters - a man who later turned out to be Chairman of a world-renowned Management company - and it turned out to be one of the most useful connections I made that day.

Later on, in Bath - the train got seriously busy at this point - I gave up the seat next to me to a gentleman of a similar long-limbed stature to myself; previously taken by my bag and textbooks.

We got chatting. We got chatting about everything from politics to why we are all here. The conversation spread to the two lovely women sitting opposite me who were both Lawyers. I presumed that they might - as similar industry professionals getting on at the same station - know each other but they didn't. One was a Criminology Lawyer and one was a Property Lawyer. But get this... the Property Lawyer, a kind-hearted woman who went by the name of Mariana, was commuting to sit a Criminology Law exam later on that day. Whoa. Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon does really exist!

Make connections. That commute turned out to be the best random event I've had in 2014 so far. Why are we here? Why are we doing what we're doing? Do we have a purpose in being here or do we have to justify our own existence by doing something that is worthwhile; something that will benefit tens, hundreds, thousands, millions, billions of people worldwide?

Are you happy with yourself? I hope, even if it takes you some time, or even just an early morning commute in which you end up discussing the finer side of fundamental philosophy at 08.33 on an otherwise dreary and gloomy commute from Southampton to Bristol, that your reply is an earth-shattering yes.

If not, I think you now know what to do, if you didn't already.