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Stop Writing About My Body

Posted: 20/09/2012 10:05

There is an unacknowledged formula for the opening paragraph of an A-list female celebrity interview and it always involves a comment on the fact the star in question is wearing little or no make-up and always that she eats a surprising amount during the conversation. (And later on a question about how she retains her perfect figure.)

When was the last time you read an interview with a male star that involved a comment on how much the interviewee scoffed?

There's been an awful lot written about women's bodies recently. What with the endless articles devoted to Kate's boobs, the revelation that the 'average' woman spends 17 years of her life on a diet, not to mention the ongoing political battle about who gets to decide when she keeps or doesn't keep her unborn child.

All in all, that's a lot of column inches devoted to fatness, thinness and everything in-between. No wonder we're all so f*cked up about our figures.

The fascination with bodies, celebrity or otherwise, isn't exactly something new, of course, and shows no sign of abating. But here's a thought: why don't we just stop?

Stop obsessing about the latest fad diet that doesn't work.

Stop gossiping over how many pounds the new Hollywood mother has gained/lost and in how much time.

Stop trying to analyse why we care so much, and who we care for because it doesn't appear to be the opposite sex (that being the conclusion of one of 'the most extensive psychological studies' into the topic, which was published this week).

And please, please can we stop with the articles about which body types are fashionable. Hips don't change with the seasons.

Confession alert: I've done my fair share of contribution to this topic having spent years on women's magazines and their websites, although never had the skills one fellow journalist displayed being able to tell, to within a couple of pounds, the weight of any given celebrity. A practice she'd honed on a gossip magazine where one of her actual jobs was a weekly celebrity weight watch.

There are the token articles about male anorexia being on the rise, and the annual outing of a male columnist attempting to get a Men's Health cover body in time for summer, but I'd hazard a non-scientific guess that 99% of articles about bodies focus on the female form.

And normal women aren't the only ones suffering because of this.

Hayden Penettiere admitted recently to a personal battle with body dysmorphia. One imagines she isn't the only one.

So enough. Listen to our own bodies, rather than the headlines, and trust we'll be a lot healthier for it.

 

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05:32 PM on 09/23/2012
If this is the UK edition why are all the posts from the US or maybe Canada?
02:15 PM on 09/23/2012
So Carla, you are the Editor-in-Chief are you? Well I have a problem with you - You act as censors by refusing to publish comments which are in no way abusive or derogatory. For example, you obviously do not like people critcising the opinions of your bloggers, do you now? Deny it if you dare.
01:09 PM on 09/21/2012
Why don't women stop pining for some idealized glossy version of beauty and realize that all of it is completely fake? Many women who struggle with body image concerns are in a relationship with a partner who probably compliments their appearance and expresses their happiness with how they look. Why would you pay no attention to that source of positive reassurance but put such emphasis on broader culturual definitions of beauty as presented in a fashion mag?
02:37 PM on 09/24/2012
You can't put the onus on women alone for this. Beauty/desirability/sexiness is a social construct, projected in so many different means it's possible to count. It's not that a woman looks at one picture, and relates the image to her own appearance... It is EVERYWHERE. Furthermore, I think 'pining' is too strong. This is something that pervades everything everywhere.
04:10 PM on 09/24/2012
I can and do put the onus on women for this. Especially those who get positive feedback from spouses and loved ones about their appearance. The struggle you may have with your image is entirely internal, you tell yourself certain things about what you see and judge your appearance by yourself. Everyone compares themselves to others. You seen a mens magazine lately? Why don't men have the same excuse for being insecure about our bodies? I don't sport a hairless chiseled body with perfectly formed and toned muscles and I am just fine with that. Because I choose to pay attention to my spouse who tells me positive things. I choose to control my internal judgment of myself by focusing on the good things I hear from those who I love the most as opposed to harping on to myself about not measuring up to a completely false ideal. How you let things affect you is entirely your own doing.
And pining is not too strong. Body image does pervade everything everywhere. Especially in media.
12:54 PM on 09/21/2012
It's mostly female writers that come out with articles about this in the first place. Women are the ones that obsess over looking good all of the time. Don't get jealous that you're not as good looking as some of the celebrities out there. This article is a perfect example of why women don't deserve equality - they want to have their cake and eat it too.
02:38 PM on 09/24/2012
WOW, that's offensive. Generalising and misogynistic in only four lines. Well done.
10:06 AM on 09/21/2012
“I hope you have lost your good looks, for while they last any fool can adore you, and the adoration of fools is bad for the soul. No, give me a ruined complexion and a lost figure and sixteen chins on a farmyard of crow's feet and an obvious wig. Then you shall see me coming out strong.”
--- George Bernard Shaw, 'Letter to Mrs. Pat Campbell'
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06:55 AM on 09/21/2012
Healthy is happy, happy is sexy. Might not fall within Cosmo guidelines, but some of that stuff is airbrushed anyway.
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05:33 AM on 09/21/2012
The one thing I would like to stop hearing is the dress issue where people are surprised that there are two copies of a dress. The 'who wore it better' debate, or someone has recycled a dress. In the real world you dont put on a dress once and dispose of it, but you find that people find that fascinating, it is so vain. And at the award shows, 'who are you wearing?' Seriously?
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04:56 AM on 09/21/2012
'Stop Writing About My Body' That is so vain and lame Carla Buzasi and just a reminder, that is just your 'temporary body!'
02:38 PM on 09/24/2012
That's an incredibly intellectual comment........
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06:07 PM on 09/24/2012
Most men that write about a woman's body or make snide remarks to them are clueless of what love or unconditional love really is.  I understand a woman's frustration when they do this.  My dear wife would of put her arm and fist out and told them......"run into this."  Like I always tell people Annakabana 'I thought I made a mistake once.........but I was wrong.'  ;-) Peace & Harmony..........
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04:36 AM on 09/21/2012
You American gals like being the pretty ones, and like you mean drab silent, rich and tall.
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03:43 AM on 09/21/2012
In 2012, women still blame men for their own fragile egos and childish insecurities.

Equality failed. Time to roll it back.
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03:39 AM on 09/21/2012
But you know who writes it all? Women. Because women hate other women. You can't even be friends with each other.
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02:22 AM on 09/21/2012
Thank you for writing this. The Daily Mail seems to be the worst offender: "So-and-So "SHOWED OFF" their post-pregnancy body/pounds/legs/hair/etc....." Women are always written about how they "SHOW OFF" their (insert whatever here).

I wish we could change the world, but I guess it's enough to say that The Daily Mail is a tabloid written by people who aren't qualified to get a better job.
12:10 PM on 09/21/2012
The Daily Mail has the highest circulation of any newspaper in the English language. Daily Mail reporters are the highest paid newspaper journalists writing in English. You don't know what you're talking about.
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01:36 AM on 09/22/2012
If Daily Mail reporters are so well paid, why do they constantly make grammatical and other errors in their stories?
04:09 PM on 09/23/2012
but it's still better than the Guardian or the Mirror lol
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01:44 AM on 09/21/2012
There are tons of "women's magazines" at my doctor's office. Since he regularly runs late, I have perused many of them.
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They are propaganda, encouraging low self-esteem among women and girls. (Hey, who's kidding who? NO self-esteem!) And just about all of these rags are run by women.
02:16 AM on 09/21/2012
The magazines you refer to are owned by corporations controlled by corporate boards made up mostly of old white males and they are who profits. As usual.
04:11 PM on 09/23/2012
ooooh! Don't like white males do you?
12:06 AM on 09/21/2012
you might want to have a few words with m&s about their ad where the use models with figures that the majority dont have and only show a lady with a more average figure for a few seconds. so if you want us to stop obsessing about womens bodies then start by changing advertising practices because they are the cause of the problems not the public.
12:53 AM on 09/21/2012
While advertises can and should take some blame, it's the consumers who are primarily at fault. If women and men stopped buying into the hype (i.e., magazines, beauty products, etc.), then that would be a step in the right direction. And as brutal as the truth may be, women are the ones who are the biggest consumers and dupes of this. It's women that compares themselves to other women and buys all of the worthless products in a vain attempt to up other women and gain the man's attention. Men are guilty of this too, but not at the proximity that women are. So instead of encouraging women (and men) to ignore discussing women's bodies, perhaps the conversation should switch to re-defining what an appropriate body image is and to take in pride in all of the different body types and beauty that surrounds us all. Just saying...
10:58 PM on 09/20/2012
Ms. Buzasi -- while I agree with the "jist" of your article, you and your fellow female writers/editors/etc. ARE THE PROBLEM. You are hypocritical -- saying one thing and doing another. I have no respect for that behavior especially from a woman . You have taken a serious problem within society, and turned it into a 'comment-fest' for all to ridicule and/or jump on the bandwagon. If you indeed believe in what you have said, then walk the walk. Words are cheap. And you are a disgrace to the women in this world, including myself, that have put up with this taudry behavior and have put forth effort to change these victorian views of women.

Truth is truth. There's a saying: if you have one foot in yesterday and one in tomorrow you're pissing on today. Well, that my dear, is exactly what you are doing to women's equality. Go ahead -- keep pocketing the big bucks and kissing butt. You seem to be very comfortable in that role.