The Winner takes it All. Or do they?

In interview with the Daily Mail this week, Agnetha Faltskog from ABBA has said that the massive hit, 'The Winner takes it All' was written about her break up from ex Abba member Bjorn Ulvaeus. Great hit. My experience of clients is...

There is now a Rich List of Women who have become enormously rich from their divorces from wealthy men. See the Daily Mail article here. Do we feel envious of their wealth, or just disdainful because of the way they have accumulated it? The general feeling seems to...

Chris Huhne and Vicky Pryce have given us a very graphic insight into the devastating consequences of divorce. The reason we are so horrified by the disintegration of their family life, and their own lives is because theirs is an extreme version of what so many people feel when they...

Why is it that when you are divorced or separated, everything seems to conspire to make you believe that the whole world is in love, in a couple and living in a blissful idyll? The hurdle of Christmas and all it represents - happy families, two parents under one roof,...

It is more likely than not, that any resolution we make at the beginning of the Year will be broken pretty soon. Whether it's the diet that we intend to stick to, the 'being nice' instead of snappy, or the course that we promise ourselves we are going to take...

Divorce is a major life changing event and although statistically quite common is one of the most painful and difficult events that any of us will have to endure. There are some times of the year when the emotional effects of divorce are particularly overwhelming and Christmas is definitely one...

We all need our friends, especially in times of crisis. Divorce and separation is one of those life crises where you might feel that you need all the friends you can get, or do you? It is interesting to think about what place friends occupy in the new and choppy...

It's Family Dispute Resolution week this week, the Daily Mail is full of stories about the Co-op and their cheap divorces and the Telegraph is talking of a survey in which 13% of people contemplate divorce and then have stepped back from the brink.

What does this all mean?...

The summer holidays are over and the house is eerily silent. It is time to go back to work. Before divorce, there might have been a spring in your step. Refreshed, relaxed, you looked forward to starting work again without the dogged tiredness that plagued you before the holidays started....

Recent publicity of the government's proposals to enshrine in law the importance of children having a relationship with both parents post separation has resulted in controversy. This controversy has, in my view, deflected from a debate which is fundamentally important in relation to children's welfare after a divorce.

The...

News of falling shares in Facebook has hit the headlines this week. I wonder how many people's spirits have fallen reading Facebook for a different reason. Perhaps because they have seen something there that is both shocking and betraying.

It is easy now in a way that it never...

Summer is looming on the horizon and the usual applications for summer holiday contact are piling up on lawyer's desks and in the lists of County Courts up and down the land. Mediators are beginning to see their first lot of seasonal cases based on how much time children should...

I was interested to read that there are now plans to introduce legislation to promote a child's ongoing relationship with both parents. We all know that what that really means is legislation to register that the father's relationship is just as important as the mother's relationship with their children. Not...

It is a fact perhaps only known by those going through divorce and separation, that friends can fall by the wayside. It is said that an average of eight friends are 'lost' during the process. It is yet another example of the ramifications and repercussions of divorce that impact not...

This is a question I am asked many times by people who come to our divorce workshops and support groups. Is there a one size fits all answer?

Of course, like anything in life, people react to major life events in different ways. Some people are able to function...

As a psychotherapist specialising in divorce and separation, I was really interested to read about the Divorce Hotel in the Netherlands. My initial response was to think that it must be a gimmick. The idea is that two people who are well intentioned enough to want an amicable separation book...