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What Do You Call a Woman Who's Had an Abortion? Mother, Daughter, Sister, Friend

Posted: 15/10/2012 00:00

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BPAS is launching the first ever nationwide campaign in support of women's choice. Recent comments by cabinet ministers combined with an upsurge in anti-abortion activity outside clinics show we cannot take for granted that the women we know will always have access to the services they need, when they need them.

The discussion about abortion exists at a number of levels, but rarely does it reflect the reality and diversity of the tens of thousands of women who come to us for advice about unplanned pregnancy every year. Sadly stereotypes often prevail - women are often cast as feckless and irresponsible for seeking abortion after finding themselves with an unwanted pregnancy - or career women interested only in their own personal goals. Recent comments and campaigns by politicians opposed to abortion often imply that women do not know what they are doing when they request abortion and need protecting from themselves, or that what they are doing is morally wrong - and that their pregnancies need protecting from the women themselves.

One in three women will have an abortion in her lifetime. They are not a particular 'type' of woman, they are everywoman - of all ages and all circumstances. Contraception fails, and sometimes we fail to use it properly. Amid incessant talk of infertility, many women - both young and middle-aged - underestimate how easy it is to get pregnant. BPAS sees women with unplanned pregnancies not long after giving birth, having been told that breastfeeding provides effective contraceptive protection. We also see women whose lives have been turned upside down when a problem is found with a much wanted pregnancy, or when personal circumstances change so much that a planned pregnancy can no longer be carried to term.

These women do not have abortions because they do not know what they are doing, or because they have no sense of right and wrong. They have abortions because it is the right thing for them and their families at that time in their lives. Only the woman herself can make that judgment - not the banner-bearing protester outside, the health secretary - or even the doctor providing her care.

These women will be mothers, daughters, sisters and friends. They will be women we all know, and that is what we hope to bring home with our campaign. We live in a country where the majority of us support a woman's ability to make a choice when faced with an unplanned pregnancy, but where a vocal and determined minority have the potential to undermine women's access to care - if we are not careful.

Abortion is a fundamental part of women's reproductive healthcare - for all the women in our lives, let's make sure we protect it.

 

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10:52 AM on 10/17/2012
Don't like the truth, Huff Post?
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Philip J Sparrow
When your work speaks for itself, keep quiet
12:15 PM on 10/17/2012
Awww too bad.

Your lies won't fly here.
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07:50 PM on 10/16/2012
Completely agree. It should be seen for what it is - a medical proceedure. Not an excuse for irrelivant stigma.
07:49 PM on 10/15/2012
Yr headline says it for me. A woman can and should be allowed to freely inhabit any of the status's you mention without fear of recrimination after she's had an abortion. I do not - as an ordinary bloke, but with pastoral experience (as a Christian pastor - think that any woman enters an abortion clinic 'lightly'.. It's a tough call - arguably the toughest decision she'll ever have to make!!! - whatever the reason for the abortion/termination (choose yr own adverb). A woman needs support, understanding and compassion, never, ever condemnation..
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AlanDente
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12:23 PM on 10/15/2012
By vilifying some women over abortion, we only damage ourselves as a society.

The same thing goes for downplaying sexual discrimination and mistreatment.

We can easily measure how healthy our society is by how positively it views and treats the women within it.

Let's stop this nonsense before we end up like those from whom we our separated by a common language.
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Philip J Sparrow
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01:55 PM on 10/15/2012
Fortunately or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it, the Afghani Taliban always seem willing to provide us with examples of what life would be like in society which restricts women's freedom.
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11:22 AM on 10/15/2012
Unlucky.
11:14 AM on 10/15/2012
It is true that any ordinary woman can make a choice during her life, and these can be hard choices to make when facing difficult circumstances. Yet this does not mean that abortion is a morally good choice. This ad must not disregard the fact that we are a part of a wider society and that our choices affect others.

Abortion affects others: it ends a life as a result of a choice made.

The life of the unborn child should not be cut out of the picture. The unwanted child's life is as valuable as the wanted child's life, who is the born child in the picture.
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AlanDente
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12:21 PM on 10/15/2012
'Abortion affects others'.

I think what you mean is, 'abortion offends me and my right to tell other people what to do'.
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Philip J Sparrow
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01:51 PM on 10/15/2012
How far do our moral obligations extend to foetuses which are incapable of consciousness, experience, pleasure or pain?

Most people act on the assumption that varying forms of life deserve differing standards of moral duty, often based on that life's capacity for thought, intelligence, consciousness. For example, most cans of tuna will proudly state that the fish inside was caught and killed by a process which was 'dolphin friendly'. Why should we care about the fate of a dolphin but not the tuna? Why do we happily consume pigs, chickens and cows on an industrial scale but balk at the idea of eating dogs or cats? Why save the whale or the panda but cull the badger?

Whether it's rational or not, we do not feel the same obligations towards all life uniformly. The most plausible explanation might be that we value, not simply bare life, but life which is capable of conscious experience, and thus can suffer. Before about 24-26 weeks, the foetus' brain is not sufficiently developed to experience anything.
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11:28 PM on 10/16/2012
Rubbish. Back up these lies or retract them.
11:12 AM on 10/15/2012
A woman gets pregnant, and it's her responsibility to make the hard choices. If she has family, friends, or religious advisors to consult then good. After she has thought long and hard about her situation, future prospects and considered what is best she must make her decision. If she keeps the baby then good luck to her. If she chooses to terminate, then that is her right and no one has the right to stop her. Those who would condemn her for this choice will be no where to be found when the money has run out, or the strain is really getting too much. They'll all be at home safe and warm.
07:55 PM on 10/15/2012
Well put VM. Our daughter became pregnant at 16 - yes it happens in decent middle class families too!! - We supported her and continue to do so. Her son is now nearly 18 and he's brilliant!! We'd have supported her whatever she did, unconditionally.. we still do...
07:53 PM on 10/16/2012
Good on you - too often you hear about families shunning those who fall pregnant early and choosing to keep the baby. Thanks for the uplifting tale :-)
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rabidrightwatch
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10:29 AM on 10/15/2012
Brave, courageous, considerate, mindful of her own choice and the welfare of her existing family... the list goes on...

I've been disquietened by the recent neocon-inspired 'thinking' concerning the status/availability of abortion in the UK.. the 'opinions' of ministers are unhelpful at best and blatantly inappropriate at worst.

This 'opinion' aired prominently by the Health Minister has been purposefully 'leaked' to gauge public opinion on the extremely personal issue of pregnancy termination.

Let's be crystal clear; the present law has rescued countless women whose only recourse, before the 1967 Act, was to self-abort or resort to the backstreets.
Before the 1967 Act, women were stigmatised by society; now, in the main, their personal decision is recognised as their inalienable right to chose what happens to & with their bodies.

This right must remain.

No stigma, bias or impeachment of women who decide - for whatever reason - to seek a termination.
...and certainly no religious numbskullery influencing future reassessment of time limits; let's leave that to proven medical advance, doctors, health professions & the woman concerned in the privacy of the consulting room.

Maintain the 1967 AoP; support those who seek abortion and challenge any stigma, shame or fear those who are iealistically opposed to abortion seek to inflict on women in what must be one of the most monumentous decisions of her life.

From a thinking man who supports unreservedly the right of women to determine what happens to their bodies.
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12:36 PM on 10/15/2012
Couldn't have put it better myself,good post
07:56 PM on 10/15/2012
Spot on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
01:16 AM on 10/15/2012
Well said. My sister decided to end an unwanted pregnancy, and I supported her choice though I don't think I would have made it myself. Our bodies belong to us alone, and we should decide what we need without the politicians telling us what is right and proper. If we could all work together for a future in which no woman will have an unwanted pregnacy instead of using the abortion issue as a political football, it would be a blessing indeed.
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11:28 PM on 10/14/2012
Thank you for your article. I know at least three women who have had abortions, my sister and two of my best friends. The most understandable one was my sister who was exposed to German measels when she was pregnant, but I cannot call any of these three women as "murderers." I don't know that there are many women, if at all who would be considered as "pro-abortion," but they made choices in their lives that I cannot blame them for.
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08:03 PM on 10/15/2012
KL I suspect that yr sister's decision was the toughest of her life.. Well done you for yr unreserved support/love and compassion....I have a nephew who is profoundly deaf as a result of his mother contracting GM during early pregnancy.. Yr sister - if her pregnancy was "planned" - would have been heartbroken. To call someone in her position a 'murderer' or such like is simply disgusting.. Sadly too much of this name calling comes from within the Christian camp.. I too am a Christian by the way..........