A new book claims women should exploit their sexuality to get ahead in life. In these times of so-called equality it's disappointing beyond belief to see that the advice being given to our workforces' young women is to get their flirt on.
The controversial book, Honey Money, is written by Catherine Hakim, a sociologist at the London School of Economics, and promotes the idea of 'erotic capital'.
In the same week that Forbes published a list of the world's most powerful women, Hakim argues that females can get ahead by using their sexuality, because of a 'universal male sex deficit' based on the idea that 'men generally want a lot more sex than they get, at all ages.'
Basically, men are gagging for it, because most of their wives and girlfriends don't want as much nookie as they do, therefore us clever women should use our feminine wiles to win over theses sex-starved males and get a promotion. Nice.
Yes, there will always be some men and women who use beauty rather than brains to get ahead. But the idea that all women should resort to using their sex appeal to do well does a disservice to the women who use the traditional traits of hard work and dedication to achieve success. And the idea that all men think with their pants and can so blatantly be won over by women in this way is, frankly, depressing.
Forbes' list of powerful women consists of politicians, CEOs, bankers, cultural icons, billionaires and entrepreneurs -but how many of them have used 'erotic capital' to get where they are?
Did the likes of Angela Merkel, Indra Nooyi, Sonia Gandhi and Christine Lagarde use their sex appeal to become leaders in politics and business? Of course not. Would we even be asking the question if the list was of the world's most powerful men?
Hakim argues that 'physical and social attractiveness deliver substantial benefits in all social interaction - making a person more persuasive, able to secure the co-operation of colleagues, attract customers and sell products.' If that really is the case, how does one account for the success of the likes of the less than aesthetically pleasing Alan Sugar?
Yes, there are arenas where attractive women get ahead, and the less attractive are passed over - the entertainment industry being the most obvious. Women of a certain age are still underrepresented on British TV in favour of their younger, more beautiful counterparts, whilst less attractive, older men continue to be employed.
But does that mean women should be exploiting this to get ahead? Surely we should be working to change the outdated view that women must be pretty to be successful? Hakim's argument merely reinforces it.
There is a disparity in how successful men and women are in the boardroom and beyond, and this is something that needs to be addressed. But teaching women that they need to use sex to be successful is not the way to do it.
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Catherine Hakim: Should Women Exploit Their Sex Appeal At Work?
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Don Juan, the world's greatest lover.
Sell out, or just work harder. Take your pick.
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BUT The following is one of the most engaging paragraphs I've ever seen:
The controversial book, Honey Money, is written by Catherine Hakim, a sociologist at the London School of Economics, and promotes the idea of 'erotic capital'.
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FOR A LOOK AT "REAL" GIRL POWER
please see Charlie Rose's recent interview with PepsiCo's CEO:
Indra Nooyi, an Indian- born American executive
- She is an amazing woman in every aspect!
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Forbes magazine ranked Nooyi fourth on the 2008 and 2009 list of The World's 100 Most Powerful Women.
Fortune magazine has named Nooyi number one on its annual ranking of Most Powerful Women in business for 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009 and 2010.
In 2008, Nooyi was named one of America's Best Leaders by U.S. News & World Report.
{{ Sorry Guys, I don't know what happened to this interview- I know I say it a couple nights ago in the Charlie Rose, but the interview doesn't exist on his website, or anywhere else that I can find }}
Sorry I haven't researched an alternate interview- There are many available, but the Charlie Rose Interview was incredible!
There's no doubt that many, if not most, men are indeed in servitude to their sex drive, and many women manipulate that neediness to threir own ends. But why should we accept this status quo, and, as women, even depend on it to get ahead? Surely the way to go would be for both men and women to undestand these weaknesses and grow above them, not pander to them!
There is noone so strong and admirable than a man who can resist the wiles of a beautiful, manipulative woman. There is nothing so weak and so transitory than a beautiful, manipulative woman. If she has no true ability, one day there will come a time when a younger, more beautiful woman will come along and edge her out. We see this all the time.
Today we have a host of aging femme-fatales spending fortunes on plastic surgery trying to regain their lost charms, and gloating openly about their fantastic sex lives. It's all a bit pathetic.
That's the end result of so-called erotic capital. It's play money.
Is it possible that the examples of female leadership you list used their femininity in ways that they were not even aware of? We may never know.
I don't think the question is 'should women use their sexuality to get ahead?'. I think it's 'when should women use their sexuality to get ahead?'. I think the answer is: When it's appropriate.
( or so I keep telling myself)