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How to Get Lucky in Love for Valentine's Day

12/02/2014 11:13 GMT | Updated 13/04/2014 10:59 BST

If you're facing Valentine's Day alone, you may be questioning why you have such bad luck. Being 'lucky' is actually a state of mind, as discovered by psychologist Richard Wiseman in his ten year study. Here are seven rules to improve your luck in relationships based on his findings.

1. Lucky people build and maintain a strong 'network of luck'- They talk to more people and are more likely to start conversations with strangers which dramatically increases their chances of finding someone special.

2. Lucky people are 'social magnets'- Lucky people's open body language draws others to them. They turn their bodies towards the person they're talking to (uncrossing their arms and legs) and make gestures that display open palms. With such open body language they attract others to them.

3. Lucky people stay in touch - Lucky people are good at building long lasting relationships; they often keep in contact with a much larger group of friends and colleagues than less lucky people. This network of friends helps create opportunities in their lives. For example, one of my clients has a large network and has just had three friends offer to introduce her to potential partners in the space of two weeks.

4. Lucky people tend to be relaxed and calm - A relaxed attitude to life means that lucky people notice opportunities and see the wider picture. Being present and having a relaxed attitude, leads to an expanded awareness of what is happening around you. When a lucky person goes to parties, for example, they focus on listening to other people.

5. Lucky people are open to new experiences in life - They love trying new things and going to new places, which tends to lead to more opportunities. When you frequently try different activities you meet far more people than if you always stick to familiar territory.

6. "Luck is believing you're lucky"- As Rod Stewart's The Motown Song puts it. Lucky people expect good fortune and they expect their interactions with others to be successful. When you expect good luck, you tend to feel more happy and optimistic; your behaviour is such that you are more likely to attract good fortune. So, if you're set up on a blind date, and you're expecting your date to be friendly, you are more likely to behave in a friendly manner yourself and get a friendly response. Our expectations change our behaviours, making our expectations self-fulfilling.

7. Lucky people do not dwell on their misfortune - They let go of the past and focus on the future. This is important whether you're hoping to make new relationships or you're trying to maintain existing ones. Lucky people forget about the unlucky things that have happened to them and instead focus on their good luck. Whatever you focus on tends to expand. Lucky people stay in a positive spiral because they focus on the positive and feel luckier and luckier. Unlucky people focus on their bad luck and create a downward spiral.

I hope you have a very lucky Valentine's Day!