Guys, when youโre trying to chat up a woman, there are a few things some of you do that are instant red flags.
On Reddit, women have been sharing the things some men do in an attempt to attract women, that actually have the opposite effect.
Spoiler: loud cars, catcalling and insults will get you nowhere.
โComparing me to other girls constantly. Itโs seriously not what I signed up for, dude.โ
โAsking me for nudes or trying to send me nudes. I do not want to see your penis, it will not turn me on.โ
โTrying to be suggestive or overly sexual way too soon. Trying to ask me what I like sexually when Iโve known you for 45 minutes or assuming Iโd like all the things youโre explicitly stating that youโd do when itโs our second or third time meeting creates so much second-hand embarrassment it makes me want to vomit.โ
โNot being able to have a good time without being drunk and/or high.โ
โMen who say all their exes are โbitchesโ or โcrazyโ. Iโm not saying there arenโt shitty people out there, of course there are. And weโve all dated one or five in our lifetimes. But if all the women youโve ever been in a relationship with are the worst, maybe you are the problem, buddy.โ
- fauxvol
โWhen guys have those obnoxiously loud cars and revs them up so the whole town can hear them. And you can tell they are purposely doing it. And to take it further, they stare at you.โ
โGuys who treat women they donโt find attractive like shit. You may be the hottest mf in here, but if you think youโre too good to say thank you to the girl who just helped you with something or manage a few sentences of small talk to the person you just met, donโt let the door hit you on your way out.โ
โInterrupting. Iโll let it slide three times. Then Iโll just tune out the rest of the conversation and excuse myself when I can.โ
โBragging about past sexual conquests - instant conversation ender.โ
โWhen men try to give you a back-handed compliment or straight up insult you in an attempt to reel you in.โ
โCatcalling catcalling catcalling.โ
โWhen he treats retail workers/servers like crap. Being embarrassed in public is not a turn on. One guy I dated did this and just called it being โassertiveโ. I said take off the โertiveโ and youโd be right.โ
โIf a dude is always wanting to fight other dudes for petty ass shit.โ
โYou would be surprised how many guys Iโve encountered that speak negatively/ disrespect other women in front of me expecting me to think itโs funny. If you comment your (negative/mean) opinion on another womanโs body, I am not going to hook up with you. It doesnโt make me feel better about myself or whatever youโre trying to achieve. It tells me youโre an asshole who will probably do that behind my back too.โ
โBragging about your personal wealth, even in a joking manner. I donโt care how rich you are, or how much money you paid for your damn shoes. Itโs not going to impress me in the slightest.โ