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Some New Year's Resolutions for Women

Posted: 02/01/2013 00:00

Inspired by the letter to Santa from all women, I've taken the liberty of writing a list of New Year's resolutions for women. Because it is tragic to think just how many women will make a resolution list for 2013 that looks something like this:

1) Lose weight
2) Get prettier
3) Find perfect man
4) Repeat steps 1) and 2)

I'm trying to make this as positive as possible, but as you'll see it proves tricky. 2012 has had its ups and downs for women; from positive accolade at the Olympics, to horrific stories of rape victim blaming from around the world .

But here goes:

1) No means no. This has to come first and foremost. Because apparently, especially in 2012, some men need constant reminding of this. Women are never to blame for being the victims of sexual abuse, no matter how drunk, naked or wondering alone they are.

2) Don't put up with everyday sexism. This means:
a. Speaking out against sexism in the workplace. Whether to their face, making a formal complaint, or joining the twitter campaign @everydaysexism (one of my favourite movements of 2012)
b. Perfecting that glare or witty response to the average street abuser with his 'get your tits out' remark

3) Shout I AM A FEMINIST from the rooftops, the office or kitchen chair, at any given opportunity, Caitlin Moran style.

4) Do what you, not anybody else, wants with your body. Shave what you want to shave, wear what you want to wear, stop fretting about those few pounds. Don't let men/society/media/other women tell you otherwise.

5) Stop reading those damn magazines. You know the ones. We all find ourselves doing it and feel so much worse afterwards. They are pretending to help but instead strip you of all self esteem and sense of worth, and make no 4) much harder to achieve.

6) Celebrate the achievements and successes of women. Properly. I'm guilty of this when I follow men's sport and don't scroll down to that tiny link at the bottom to the women's league. If we don't praise women, give a damn and spread the word, how can we expect the media or anyone else to care? Sorry Cheryl, this doesn't include you. I'm discovering female role models every day who I am amazed that I'd never heard of. We need to make sure the next generation are celebrating and looking up to those who deserve it.

7) Campaign for true equality. Whatever the issue, be it closing that gender pay gap, introducing affordable child care, or making abortion available in Northern Ireland. We must continue to fight and not become complacent or we will be trampled on.

8) Help women across the world gain equality. Give to a good cause, volunteer or campaign for those who have it much worse than you or I.

Many of you do these things already. Hopefully, if we all try to (and even better if men did as well), then 2013 should have a more positive outlook for women. Finger's crossed.

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    Brogan Driscoll, lifestyle editorial assistant, HuffPost UK

  • "Have more fun"

    - Matt Bagwell, celebrity editor, HuffPost UK

  • "Get rich"

    - Dina Rickman, assistant news editor, HuffPost UK

  • "Not to get annoyed by politicians"

    - David Hobbs, executive editor, HuffPost UK

  • "Publish my first video game"

    - Michael Rundle, technology editor, HuffPost UK

  • "To floss my teeth"

    - Lucy Sheriff, students editor, HuffPost UK

  • "Learn Mandarin"

    - Sarah O'Meara, acting lifestyle editor, HuffPost UK

  • "To be better at helping out with newborn baby in middle of night"

    - Archie Thomas, assistant blogs editor, HuffPost UK

  • "Write a book"

    - Andrea Mann, comedy editor, HuffPost UK

  • "Learn to paint"

    - Sam Parker, culture editor, HuffPost UK

  • "My New Year's resolution for 2013 is to take some holiday. In fact, I'm planning on taking all annual leave, having failed to do so for the last couple of years."

    - Carla Buzasi, editor-in-chief, HuffPost UK

  • "I also want to learn how to maintain/fix my bike properly"

    - Alice Vincent, editorial assistant blogs, HuffPost UK

  • "To finish decorating my flat"

    - Katie Jones, assistant editor, <a href="http://www.MyDaily.co.uk">MyDaily.co.uk</a>

  • "I am giving up alcohol for the whole of January for Cancer Research in honour of my mum who's hopefully just beaten the dreaded disease."

    - Jody Thompson, blog editor, HuffPost UK You can sponsor her <a href="http://www.justgiving.com/jody-thompson">here </a>

  • "Mine is to manage my finances better aka buy less clothes"

    - Ellen Stewart, celebrity writer, <a href="http://www.MyDaily.co.uk">MyDaily.co.uk</a>

  • "Read everything I've downloaded on my kindle"

    - Sarah O'Meara, acting lifestyle editor, HuffPost UK

  • "I'm determined to make packed lunch every day"

    - Alice Vincent, editorial assistant blogs, HuffPost UK

  • "I'm going to start an exercise regime that I actually stick to and don't interrupt mid-way through with a fortnight booze bender thus undoing all my hard work"

    - Chris York, reporter, HuffPost UK

  • "Wean myself off cheese and onion McCoys"

    - Sarah O'Meara, acting lifestyle editor, HuffPost UK

  • "I want to join the Radio 4 books club (clearly incredibly hip n' young right now) - which involves reading a book a month before listening to the programme where the author discusses it"

    - Alice Vincent, editorial assistant blogs, HuffPost UK

  • "Use these books to educate in things I don't understand (economics / religion/ anything not to do with books or football)"

    - Sam Parker, culture editor, HuffPost UK

 

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