The 5th annual Outlaugh Comedy Festival - America's first gay and lesbian comedy festival - is currently being held in Los Angeles and lasts for another two weeks.
"I lost my mind," he told me, "which is the only way to get anything done in the US. At the time, America had no national queer comedy festival and we (the comedians) were all tired of things like Gay Tuesday Night at Mongo's Steakhouse. We wanted something that actually meant something."
I have been to Los Angeles but not San Francisco. I think of the West Coast as being fairly laissez-faire and (in the British use of the word) liberal, but Mike tells me is was not easy for gay comedians even eight years ago:
"In 2004, my comedy group, The Gay Mafia, got kicked out of a club in Hollywood. We were doing a sketch where two retired Navy SEALs were getting married. The straight club owner had a brother who had died in Iraq and he said that portraying Navy SEALs as gay was deeply offensive to him and that he would pull the light cords out if we did the sketch. So, naturally, we did the sketch. We sold out the house and he was too busy helping sell drinks at his bar to pull the plug. But he kicked us out afterwards."
So gay comedy was not totally accepted even eight years ago?
"I can tell you," Mike says, "that The Gay Mafia, was reviewed by the LA Weekly without them mentioning that anything we did in the show had any gay content or that the show was gay at all. I heard the reviewer only showed up for the free meal.
"But," Mike admits, "there was no real resistance to the idea of starting a gay comedy festival. No-one resisted except, oddly, the queer TV and film companies, though we conquered them in the end. The place you find the haters hating Outlaugh is on Netflix where they write homophobic reviews of our movie and TV show."
Because the even more admirable thing - to me - is that Mike managed to get a movie made about the first Outlaugh and then an 8-part TV series The Outlaugh Festival on Wisecrack. I asked him How come?
"I financed the movie with my own money," he told me, "which is amazing because I didn't have any money! But it made all its investment back. With the TV show, for once, I was in the right place at the right time. We had Margaret Cho hanging out with The Gay Mafia and everyone in America worships celebrity more than Jesus. All you have to do is spoon cat food onto a dish in a commercial and people will treat you like you captain a spaceship.
"I was on a conference call with the folks at MTV's LOGO network and Margaret Cho and my production company associates and we all listened in sad horror while a network executive sniveled and begged Margaret to do anything and be on any shows in addition to Outlaugh."
"During the production of our TV series Outlaugh Festival on Wisecrack, conference calls happened every day with the production company I worked with, myself as the artistic director, the network and what they call 'listeners' who are opportunistic network assistants who actually spy on conversations for some network reason - probably to take over the country. LOGO and other networks have to hear a celebrity commit to a project to prevent celebs from backing out. People have to sign agreements and swear on the Bible - or just the parts that don't condemn gays.
"Just like straight people, though, queer people in entertainment are mostly out for themselves. In TV and film, it's all about whose project something is, rather than the merit of the project. I had film people and TV 'suits' fighting over who should get credit over what, more than how to make the idea of Outlaugh good. I had to make sure Outlaugh was good myself."
Even today, Mike tells me, gay comedy in the US is not totally acceptable.
"A lot of the comedy clubs out here," he says, "have 'gay nights' on non-weekend nights and many advertise the comedians as Some Gay and Some Not to get people to attend. I think that's bullshit. Imagine advertising a 'black comedy night' with Some Black and Some Not. There is a sentiment which is fading away that 'gay comedy' is not accessible to everyone. Again, bullshit."
In my British Islander ignorance, I think of San Francisco as being more gay and Los Angeles less so, but Mike tells me I am wrong:
"LA is actually gayer," he says. "There is more gay theatre and comedy going on here than in San Francisco. I think because all the closet cases finally came out and because it's chic to be gay now. I wish John Travolta would realize that."
Inbrook, the New York based entertainment company for which I am a UK consultant, is in discussion about bringing Outlaugh to Britain.
Mike says: "I would steal babies for that to happen!"
"But," I asked him, playing devil's advocate: "why should the UK have a gay comedy festival? Isn't that ghetto-ising gays?"
"No," he argues. "It's centralizing gays. There are gay film festivals and gay pride festivals and gay political organizations. Comedy is another major art form that we can rally around to tell our stories and assert our outrage."
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