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Five Top Things to Find the Love of Your Life in 2014

10/01/2014 12:32 | Updated 12 March 2014

1. Stop wishing - be on a mission!

Are you dreaming, hoping, wishing and longing for love to come along? Stop. Instead be on a mission to create the relationship you want.

You see you can go for years wishing and dreaming. Like most of us, you were probably brought up to believe in fairytales - that one day (if you wait long enough) your prince will come and you will live happily ever after!

You may also think that you're at the mercy of love coming your way - maybe it will, maybe it won't. Or perhaps only lucky people have love. Or maybe you think that that because relationships have not gone so well up until now you will never meet your true love.

The good news is that none of this is true. You can have the love you want. You have the power to attract the love you want. It starts with you.

So instead of passively waiting for love to come along, commit to doing the inner work necessary to become your very best YOU and be on a mission to magnetise the love of your life now!

2. Believe in yourself and others will too

We've all heard the saying "You are what you believe you are." Your beliefs actually run your love life. So if you are walking around thinking you're not good enough or are not lovable, then guess what? You will probably meet men who don't think you are either.

A confident, radiant woman who knows her worth is incredibly attractive to a man.

Start to catch those negative voices and begin telling your self what you would like a man to tell you; that you're beautiful, lovable and so worthy of love.

3. Live your best life to find your best love

Are you waiting for a man to come along before you really start living? Are there things you have put on hold until you meet someone?

When you are enjoying your life and doing things you love, you give out an energy that says: "I love myself and I love my life." This will draw people to you, including your ideal partner.

When you do meet your true love, he'll want to be a priority, but he won't want the pressure of being your sole source of happiness 24/7!

So start now. Enroll in that class you have wanted to take. Go on that trip you've been thinking about. Then watch as love appears!

4. Stop "doing" and start "being"

Our society teaches us to depend on external factors for love. In other words if only you were slimmer, younger, fitter, had more money, had better hair and teeth or joined the next dating site then maybe just maybe you would "get" love.

But love has less to do with what you're doing and everything to do with the person you are being. When you stop focusing on finding the right person and instead focus on being the right person, magically the right person comes along.

So rather than looking at the external obstacles to love, look at the inner you. Concentrate on becoming the most delicious version of yourself you can be and watch as people just want to be around you, including a man who finds you totally irresistible.

5. Write an Irresistible Online Dating Profile

So now that you've focused on the inner you, it's time to put out your love signal!

This kind of profile will eliminate the kinds of men you don't want and only attract good matches for you.

You want your profile to state clearly and confidently who you are, what you need and what you're looking for, while also being receptive, open, engaging and welcoming to another person.

Here are some tips:

• Write about your life-values and your life-vision

Shared life-values and life-vision are essential for lasting love so get clear on yours now.

• Use sensory language

Describe how it feels to do the things you love and enjoy to give the reader an experience of you.

• Ask a friend to write about their experience of being your friend

Then use some of these elements in your profile. This gives the reader an insight into what it's like to be in relationship with you.

• Know the top three things you must have for it to work

Get clear on the things you MUST have.

• Be honest!

Don't lie about your age or use false photos! If you want children, state it clearly. If you don't, state it clearly.

• Your Photos

Use photos that convey warmth, confidence and radiance.

Follow these top five things now and draw towards you the love of your life in 2014 - like a magnet.