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5 Reasons No Woman Is 'Out of Your League'

21/08/2014 12:08 BST | Updated 20/10/2014 10:59 BST

If you're a single guy, chances are you've met a woman and thought to yourself "I really like her, but she's out of my league" and therefore took yourself out of the game before giving her a chance to reject you...or not.

Declaring yourself out of a woman's league isn't doing you any favors. In fact, I will go out on a limb and say that no woman is ever out of your league. Here's why.

1. You're quite a hot commodity yourself.

Time and time again, confidence is determined to be the number one thing women look for in a man, so if you're a confident fellow, you're already winning. Of course, if you're the type of man who thinks women are out of your league, you might be struggling in the confidence department. Instead of holding your head down, lamenting all the women you assume won't give you the time of day, boost your confidence! Start focusing on the things about yourself that are awesome. Do you have a hilariously witty sense of humor? Impeccable style? A warm and caring personality? Are you just really hot? Whatever you've got, embrace it. Remember though, there is a fine line between confidence (sexy!) and arrogance (not sexy!), so don't pat yourself on the back for too long.

2. Beautiful women are everywhere, it's really no big deal.

Just about everywhere you go, from the market to the pub, it's likely you'll bump into a woman you find attractive. Beautiful women are everywhere, it's just how the world works,soinstead of considering this a bad thing, put a positive spin on it! These women, if they are single, are looking for a funny, charming, intelligent man...could he be you? Play the numbers game in your favor!

3. Women are just people.

I should know, I am one. Sometimes I like to get all dressed up in something lowcut and sexy and do my hair and makeup, and other times (much more often, let's be real), you can find me on the couch in an old pair of sweats and a ponytail watching Friends reruns. Moral of the story? She might be sexy/hot/insanely intimidating...but she's still just a person. People like other people.

which brings me too...

4. You don't know her full story.

When you base your chances with a woman on snap judgements, you're not only selling yourself short but you're putting her at an end of a battle she just can't win. So what if she's the sexiest woman in all of the land? Did you also know that she is obsessed with Indiana Jones films and extra spicy Thai food? Yep-Just like you! Did you know that you went to the same University and that you both enjoy traveling the world? No, no you don't....because you didn't give her a chance to tell you all about it! You benched yourself before anyone threw out the first pitch-a sports analogy for the guy readers.

Conversely, what if it were to turn out that you have absolutely nothing in common? Or worse, that when you get past her good looks you realize that you can't stand her at all? All of a sudden, she's not so out of your league anymore, is she?

Ultimately, it all comes down to perception. If you perceive a woman to be totally out of your league, well then she definitely will be. If you perceive her to be an attractive woman you'd like to get to know better, there will be nothing stopping you from buying her a drink and saying hello.

5. Other men feel the same way, and leave you a big opening!

Nine times out of ten, if you are too shy to approach a woman because you feel she's out of your league, there are probably other men in the room who feel the exact same way. Meaning now there is an attractive woman in the room who nobody will talk to, and she's probably wondering what is wrong with her. This is your chance! Would you rather hang back with the rest of the boys or take a step forward like the confident, charming man you are? You know what to do!