Louisa Leontiades
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Louisa lives in an open relationship with her partners and two children in Sweden. She writes full-time on her blog Postmodern Woman and is chairwoman of the National Polyamory Association. She also writes for Huffington Post, Salon, Nerve, Jezebel and the Guardian. She lives a life which makes for a lot of stories.

Entries by Louisa Leontiades

Being an Introvert in a Society Which Demands Your Attention

(0) Comments | Posted 10 July 2015 | (15:15)

I've been called selfish most of my life. A privileged only child, unable to share, I once involuntarily jabbed my friend's hand with my fork when she nicked a french fry from my plate. It was pure instinct (I swear!)

Of course had I grown up with siblings, I would have...

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My Sex Life is Public, No I Won't Have Sex With You

(0) Comments | Posted 19 May 2015 | (12:22)

Huge swathes of publicity and my sex life dissected by Philip Schofield on 'This Morning' following the release of my memoir 'The Husband Swap', has prompted me to think about privacy. Where do I draw the...

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Think of The Children

(0) Comments | Posted 23 April 2015 | (14:18)

Once I was ambivalent about motherhood, my life was beautiful yet terrible, an enormous experience and I needed, wanted nothing else to make it more. But somewhere on my journey, I realized that I was denying myself motherhood not because I didn't want children, but because I didn't...

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Beware of Feeding Sharks

(0) Comments | Posted 31 March 2015 | (12:44)

Over dinner I watched her fill up her glass, one, two, three, four times. And after that I lost count.

'You'll have to join me,' she said. And I laughed because watching her getting drunk was fascinating. Dangerous, but fascinating.

'Fine,' I said.

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Tribes and the Myth of Togetherness

(0) Comments | Posted 9 March 2015 | (14:14)

Self-expression and communication help you find your tribe. By exploring your ideas in a public forum you start to find people who feel resonance with what you say. Many more don't. The hard part is when those people who've been your loyal supporters, even friends over many years...

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Why 'The Breakfast Club' is More Dangerous Than 'Fifty Shades'

(0) Comments | Posted 17 February 2015 | (12:06)

With the tumultuous release of Fifty Shades to coincide with Valentine's day, I like many others went to the cinema to see it. Having read many angry reviews of the movie (but not the book) I feared my buttons would be pushed by Christian Grey, someone who was...

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Why My Mother Hated Grease 2... Along With the Rest of the World

(3) Comments | Posted 28 January 2015 | (11:22)

My parents divorced when I was 11 and whilst it was probably the worst move for my relationship with my mother, it was the best for my relationship with my father. For the first 11 years of my life he'd been writing a Very Important Book because that's what university...

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Mary Poppins & The Attention Seeking Child

(0) Comments | Posted 29 December 2014 | (11:32)

I can stream films all year long on Netflix but when they are part of a Christmas line up they take on a more magical quality. Childhood memories of circling which films I would see in the TV Magazine back when we only had three television channels have...

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The Whole Truth About Lying

(0) Comments | Posted 17 December 2014 | (08:19)

It's the darkest week of the year, nearly Christmas. Stories of Santa Claus and elves abound... but my kids know they're not real. I've never lied about this.

At 10am it's only just light and it will be dark again in 5 hours. And yet the...

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When I Say I Hate Monogamy, What I Really Mean Is...

(4) Comments | Posted 11 December 2014 | (10:27)

Actually I've never come right out and said I hate monogamy. But through viral articles like 'My Problem with Monogamy', it's easily inferred.

But monogamy is not something I hate, at least certainly not as a form...

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What Is a 'Real' Mother?

(0) Comments | Posted 28 November 2014 | (10:59)

King Solomon, so the story goes, ascertained the veracity of two women claiming to be the mother of the same child by suggesting that they do the equitable thing...and cut the child in half. The real mother relinquished her claim on the child in order to prevent its...

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Murder Is Easy

(0) Comments | Posted 24 November 2014 | (11:21)

I kill for my own amusement. Indiscriminately. Out of curiosity. I pull the legs off spiders to see them wiggle. I tear the wings of butterflies, because they won't hold still long enough for me to see their patterns. I take wings from flies and hold them up...

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Five Hard Truths About Adoption Adoptive Parents don't want to Hear

(49) Comments | Posted 10 November 2014 | (07:51)

Adoptees. We're allegedly 16% of America's estimated 500 serial killers whilst we represent only 2-3% of the population1. We're also the heroes of pop culture from Harry Potter and Frodo Baggins, to Superman and Luke Skywalker. In real life we're Nelson Mandela, Steve Jobs, Bill Clinton,...

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Confessions of an Eyelash Puller

(0) Comments | Posted 3 November 2014 | (10:45)

As I stared at myself in the mirror, I thought

'You look like a pig. Pig-girl.'

My eye scrutinised the minutia of my face with a magnified mirror. Up close, it was quite obscene; pores, blemishes and eyelashes 5 times their normal size crawling over my...

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Why Mothers Should Be Selfish

(1) Comments | Posted 27 October 2014 | (08:31)

A newborn son just 12 days old, a two year old daughter and a full time business, it's not often that I get time to myself, nor would it appear rational that I sit down to write an unprompted and unnecessary article after a long night...

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I Thought That Shocking Headlines Didn't Change the World, Boy, Was I Wrong.

(0) Comments | Posted 22 October 2014 | (14:11)

Watch The First 54 Seconds. That's All I Ask. You'll Be Hooked After That, I Swear. ~ Upworthy, 4.6 million views (and counting)

It's official. We've discovered the way to make people click (and stay at least 54 seconds). It's called...

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Five Guilt Trips to Expect on Becoming a Mother

(0) Comments | Posted 16 October 2014 | (20:01)

You might already feel guilty just for getting pregnant if you're not married and you've been brought up by that type of family. Or for ditching your work without an adequate handover when you bugger off for maternity leave (because who cares when your pelvis is falling apart and you...

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You Look Like You're Coping But You're Not - Post Natal Anxiety

(0) Comments | Posted 13 October 2014 | (14:28)

"We promise we'll have her back within the hour." Said my mother in law.

My daughter was 6 weeks old. And my parents in law had come over from Sweden to see their son's first child and to give us some relief. But I couldn't let her out of my...

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What Giving Birth Is Really Like - Birth Trauma

(3) Comments | Posted 8 October 2014 | (00:00)

They say... 'Shitting a football' or 'Squeezing a watermelon through a bagel'...

But it wouldn't be surprising to me if those humorous descriptions were once formulated by men. They're about football and food respectively.

These words give no indication of the fear, trauma and humiliation that I went through...

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If Death Breaks the Glass

(0) Comments | Posted 2 October 2014 | (07:55)

Life has an order that we rarely see and almost never accept. We call it chaos and fight it with rules and restrictions; systems and management. But like water, life will find a way through our man-made blocks, whether it takes hours or centuries. If our systems are in opposition...

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