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Confidence Secret Agent 007

22/01/2014 12:14 GMT | Updated 24/03/2014 09:59 GMT

Are you ready to have some fun? Are you ready to go beyond enemy lines in the duty for queen and country?

Okay, I know I'm getting carried away - how about completing a great confidence building exercise instead?

If you are observant you will have noticed that success leaves clues wherever it goes...And if you really notice them you will see what I mean.

In order to boost your confidence levels so that you are living up to your full potential, it pays to be a copycat! To mimic and mirror other people who you know are confident and whose clues you have picked up on.

You may have heard of this when someone has described to you how to copy somebody's behaviour. Another word for this is modelling.

By being observant, using your super sleuth capabilities, and modelling successful behaviours in other people, i.e in this case people with high levels of confidence, you will pick up little golden nuggets of tips, techniques and the strategies that they use.

Spend some time observing how they walk, talk and act and you too can take what they do, model it, include it into your own life and get the same results.

Don't believe me?

Okay, I am going to give you an exercise to try out over the next couple of days and then you will see how you feel!

Your mission...

Over the next 3 days I want you to observe other people, really observe them - pretend that you are undercover! However, no newspapers with two eye-holes cut out are allowed!

I want you to observe all types of people -

confident people,

  • shy people,
  • outgoing people,
  • people talking,
  • people shopping,
  • people being quiet,
  • how people interact with each other.
  • Observe people who know one another,
  • people who are strangers - the whole nine yards!
  • Look closely at what they say and do.
  • How are they moving their body?
  • What do they do with their head?
  • How do they speak?
  • How do others react to them?
  • Would you like to talk to this person?
  • Are they smiling and laughing?
  • How is their body language?
  • Would you like to be this person?

When you have observed and noted behaviours, body language etc., write down 5 behaviours or things that you have noticed over the past 3 days that make you say :

"I want to be like that!"

For your next mission, should you choose to accept it...

For the next 2 days, I want you to take just one of the 5 behaviours that you have written out above, and I want you to act in that way for the duration of those 2 days.

Pretend that you have been given an assignment (because you have!) to just act like that for 2 days.

That's it, no longer, no less.

Pretend it's a game.

After the 2 days you will soon discover the magic of modelling behaviours. You will notice the difference in yourself, and other people will notice the difference in you.

Then you'll move onto the next behaviour and the next and so on. When you have modelled all those behaviours and found the right ones for you, your confidence will grow and grow.