In the recently leaked remix of Rihanna's Birthday Cake - a song lurid enough to make Prince blush - Chris Brown, her former boyfriend, the man who turned her face into a bloodied mess while threatening to kill her, sings lyrics so explicit they make for deeply uncomfortable listening.
The song is a provocative ode to a delicate part of the female anatomy and yet another in Rihanna's canon that purports to fly the flag of female emancipation in the bedroom but scratch the highly sexualised surface and something far more sinister begins to emerge.
If Rihanna is serious about having a lover respect her body and pleasure it accordingly as Birthday Cake's lyrics suggest, then why is the man who bit and beat her sharing vocal duties? For all the controversy, Birthday Cake sounds just like any other pop song dipped in pornography: built for shock value rather than listening pleasure. How better to get it to stand out from the din then by roping in the one male singer on the planet no right thinking individual would consider appropriate in a million years.
Rihanna has excelled as an agent provocateur and her material has grown ever more hedonistic and hyper-sexualised. She has released a staggering six albums in six years and in the rush to sell, sell, sell, she has thrown taboos about like confetti but recording two tracks with her abuser is beyond anything that has come before.
Despite his crime, Brown has a large, devoted female fan base; he still sells records by the bucket load and was awarded a Grammy last week. Clearly, the music industry is a very forgiving place, providing you keep the cash rolling in as Brown has done. Unfortunately, no award or amount of adulation can erase the horror of his actions, actions he still doesn't seem to grasp as completely abhorrent as his now infamous post Grammy tweet illustrates:
"HATE ALL YOU WANT BECUZ I GOT A GRAMMY Now! That's the ultimate FUCK OFF!"
Humble and chastened, young Mr Brown is most certainly not.
If the public take issue with Brown's continued success, what exactly is Rihanna - one of the biggest pop stars on the planet in her own right - hoping to achieve by making music with him? "Hey folks, I'm over it. Can we all move on please?" or "...with yet another new album on the market in the middle of a recession, I'm going to need to crank up the publicity machine tenfold - now, how can I do that in a jiffy? Sing an inappropriate song with the man who bashed me about? Bingo!"
Since the demise of her relationship with Brown, many of Rihanna's songs and videos have been thinly veiled homages to their time together. What her feelings are toward Brown and whether they will reunite romantically remains to be seen. What is clear is that neither they nor their management are particularly troubled by their turbulent history, in fact, they see fit to exploit it.
For two people who are clearly bad for each other not to have the common sense to leave well enough alone is tragic; using their doomed, abusive relationship as a marketing gimmick is a whole other level of wrong. No project featuring Rihanna and Brown can ever escape the lasting horror of her face in that photograph, battered and broken almost beyond recognition. In choosing to work together, they choose to remind us of it.
Rihanna once said she didn't want to be remembered solely for her disastrous relationship with Brown, which makes their duet all the more sickening and bizarrely misguided. Expecting pop stars to be moral guardians is often wishful thinking but in taking Brown to court and rebuilding her life, Rihanna became a hero to many young women, a fact she seemed to embrace. What would she say to them now? And for her fans that gained strength and took heart from her triumph, what explanation could ever be good enough?
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So, do we pity her or do we take whatever she claims with a grain of salt from now on? This is feeling a bit like when some conniving female fabricates an attack or rape..only to find out she lied. I have a big problem with people who cry wolf. The sympathetic and nurturing types out there will naturally rise to the occasion and feel outrage when hearing and seeing one of our sisters has been harmed. But when it turns out the tale isn't true..or if true, has been exaggerated..then that isn't tolerable. If a woman is abused and then goes back to the abuser it means that all the other REAL victims of domestic violence (or the like) are subject to scrutiny and/or doubt.
I can't say that I understand the thought process of any woman who has been victimized by an abusive mate..to rekindle the relationship in that way. Whether they are coupled up again or simply collaborating on a musical project together..I STiLL don't get it.
Rihanna wants to believe that he will never do it again..as many victims of domestic violence believe. Generally, blaming themselves for having been struck. How many abuse victims go back to their abusers..because they can't afford their own place..or have no where else to go?
Abusive people have an innate ability to manipulate their victims. Ala OJ Simpson, who informed Nicole Brown-Simpson that she was to blame for his having beaten her, since he had warned her not to say/do/dress a certain way..she got what she had coming = she asked for it.
The statistics are alarming. Abusers are not known to stop..on the contrary, abusers will continue to abuse and their behavior will escalate over time without intervention. Hearing/reading that anyone who has been physically/verbally/emotionally abused opts to rekindle a relationship with their abuser is disturbing. Whether the person in question is a pop star, ones relative, friend or neighbor.
Rihanna DID not take Chris Brown to court. She refused to press charges--that is why it wasn't a Domestic Abuse case but an assault case. Had she pressed charges he would have been charged with misdemeanor assault rather than a felony assault charge. CB is being labeled a convicted domestic abuser and he wasn't even charged with that particular crime.
That is the problem with the media they don't care if they have the facts just their opinions yet, they want people to agree with them even if their facts are wrong.
So why wasn't Chris Brown charged with domestic battery??.. perhaps you have better insight into this? Whether or not he was actually convicted, he still COMMITTED the act of domestic battery, which is the same in my mind, minus the fact that he got a much lesser sentence than if he actually was convicted.
I agree, the media needs to get their facts straight, but I think the issue with these types of cases is that people don't fully understand the laws and the difference between these charges (myself included).
Rihanna and Chris Brown were a couple at the time when he abused her. Pictures were taken and there was an investigation. He obviously can afford a high-priced defence attorney, who could/would/did plead this down so that he would not have a felony on his record is my guess.
"Rihanna became a hero to many young women, a fact she seemed to embrace. What would she say to them now? And for her fans that gained strength and took heart from her triumph, what explanation could ever be good enough?"