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Rihanna & Chris Brown: Why Make Music Together?

Posted: 22/02/2012 01:38

In the recently leaked remix of Rihanna's Birthday Cake - a song lurid enough to make Prince blush - Chris Brown, her former boyfriend, the man who turned her face into a bloodied mess while threatening to kill her, sings lyrics so explicit they make for deeply uncomfortable listening.

The song is a provocative ode to a delicate part of the female anatomy and yet another in Rihanna's canon that purports to fly the flag of female emancipation in the bedroom but scratch the highly sexualised surface and something far more sinister begins to emerge.

If Rihanna is serious about having a lover respect her body and pleasure it accordingly as Birthday Cake's lyrics suggest, then why is the man who bit and beat her sharing vocal duties? For all the controversy, Birthday Cake sounds just like any other pop song dipped in pornography: built for shock value rather than listening pleasure. How better to get it to stand out from the din then by roping in the one male singer on the planet no right thinking individual would consider appropriate in a million years.

Rihanna has excelled as an agent provocateur and her material has grown ever more hedonistic and hyper-sexualised. She has released a staggering six albums in six years and in the rush to sell, sell, sell, she has thrown taboos about like confetti but recording two tracks with her abuser is beyond anything that has come before.

Despite his crime, Brown has a large, devoted female fan base; he still sells records by the bucket load and was awarded a Grammy last week. Clearly, the music industry is a very forgiving place, providing you keep the cash rolling in as Brown has done. Unfortunately, no award or amount of adulation can erase the horror of his actions, actions he still doesn't seem to grasp as completely abhorrent as his now infamous post Grammy tweet illustrates:

"HATE ALL YOU WANT BECUZ I GOT A GRAMMY Now! That's the ultimate FUCK OFF!"

Humble and chastened, young Mr Brown is most certainly not.

If the public take issue with Brown's continued success, what exactly is Rihanna - one of the biggest pop stars on the planet in her own right - hoping to achieve by making music with him? "Hey folks, I'm over it. Can we all move on please?" or "...with yet another new album on the market in the middle of a recession, I'm going to need to crank up the publicity machine tenfold - now, how can I do that in a jiffy? Sing an inappropriate song with the man who bashed me about? Bingo!"

Since the demise of her relationship with Brown, many of Rihanna's songs and videos have been thinly veiled homages to their time together. What her feelings are toward Brown and whether they will reunite romantically remains to be seen. What is clear is that neither they nor their management are particularly troubled by their turbulent history, in fact, they see fit to exploit it.

For two people who are clearly bad for each other not to have the common sense to leave well enough alone is tragic; using their doomed, abusive relationship as a marketing gimmick is a whole other level of wrong. No project featuring Rihanna and Brown can ever escape the lasting horror of her face in that photograph, battered and broken almost beyond recognition. In choosing to work together, they choose to remind us of it.

Rihanna once said she didn't want to be remembered solely for her disastrous relationship with Brown, which makes their duet all the more sickening and bizarrely misguided. Expecting pop stars to be moral guardians is often wishful thinking but in taking Brown to court and rebuilding her life, Rihanna became a hero to many young women, a fact she seemed to embrace. What would she say to them now? And for her fans that gained strength and took heart from her triumph, what explanation could ever be good enough?

 

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In the recently leaked remix of Rihanna's Birthday Cake - a song lurid enough to make Prince blush - Chris Brown, her former boyfriend, the man who turned her face into a bloodied mess while threateni...
In the recently leaked remix of Rihanna's Birthday Cake - a song lurid enough to make Prince blush - Chris Brown, her former boyfriend, the man who turned her face into a bloodied mess while threateni...
 
 
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03:06 PM on 04/18/2012
"rebuilding her life, Rihanna became a hero to many young women", So, by taking care of herself, she took on the burden of women everywhere? I think not. I don't believe, or at least I have see nothing to indicate that she set herself up as a heroine for these young women. I don't recall her calling on young women everywhere to "do as I do", I'm a role model for you. I don't think she owes anyone but herself any explanation at all. People who need heroes and role models are inherently weak and followers. Seek neither to follow, or to be followed.
08:04 PM on 02/27/2012
I'm certainly not suggesting that anyone carry a bitter grudge until they take their last breath..but somehow hearing/reading that Rihanna and Chris Brown are together in any way is unsettling. We all saw the photo(s) of her battered face and we were all made aware of the sordid details..including the fact that Chris Brown was banned from performing at certain venues after the assault against Rihanna.

So, do we pity her or do we take whatever she claims with a grain of salt from now on? This is feeling a bit like when some conniving female fabricates an attack or rape..only to find out she lied. I have a big problem with people who cry wolf. The sympathetic and nurturing types out there will naturally rise to the occasion and feel outrage when hearing and seeing one of our sisters has been harmed. But when it turns out the tale isn't true..or if true, has been exaggerated..then that isn't tolerable. If a woman is abused and then goes back to the abuser it means that all the other REAL victims of domestic violence (or the like) are subject to scrutiny and/or doubt.

I can't say that I understand the thought process of any woman who has been victimized by an abusive mate..to rekindle the relationship in that way. Whether they are coupled up again or simply collaborating on a musical project together..I STiLL don't get it.
03:05 AM on 02/25/2012
Rihanna climbs ever higher on my list of damaged celebs. Sad to see that she would rather sacrifice her self-respect in the name of money. :(
08:35 PM on 02/27/2012
or..
Rihanna wants to believe that he will never do it again..as many victims of domestic violence believe. Generally, blaming themselves for having been struck. How many abuse victims go back to their abusers..because they can't afford their own place..or have no where else to go?

Abusive people have an innate ability to manipulate their victims. Ala OJ Simpson, who informed Nicole Brown-Simpson that she was to blame for his having beaten her, since he had warned her not to say/do/dress a certain way..she got what she had coming = she asked for it.

The statistics are alarming. Abusers are not known to stop..on the contrary, abusers will continue to abuse and their behavior will escalate over time without intervention. Hearing/reading that anyone who has been physically/verbally/emotionally abused opts to rekindle a relationship with their abuser is disturbing. Whether the person in question is a pop star, ones relative, friend or neighbor.
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12:07 AM on 02/25/2012
Why would she do it, simple Money and notoriety, its all a money making scheme, good for him, good for her, end of. People are going to listen to it for the lyrics, but it leaves a sour taste when she was left beaten and bloodied by Chris Brown, tbh they are as bad as each other, and in that respect deserve each other.
03:39 AM on 02/23/2012
This is perfectly written. Thank you so, so, so much. My friends and I are sharing this article all over the place. Thank you for expressing my own thoughts better than I ever could have! You're a genius!!!!
09:03 PM on 02/22/2012
You have your facts wrong. You say and I quote 'by her taking Brown to court' Hold it right there:

Rihanna DID not take Chris Brown to court. She refused to press charges--that is why it wasn't a Domestic Abuse case but an assault case. Had she pressed charges he would have been charged with misdemeanor assault rather than a felony assault charge. CB is being labeled a convicted domestic abuser and he wasn't even charged with that particular crime.

That is the problem with the media they don't care if they have the facts just their opinions yet, they want people to agree with them even if their facts are wrong.
07:23 PM on 02/24/2012
California law says that even when the victim refuses to press charges they can still be charged with domestic violence. [http://www.shouselaw.com/domestic-violence243e1.html#1] A battery, by CA's definition, is the same as a domestic battery minus the requirement that the two people involved are in some sort of relationship (dating, married, living together, even previously dating)-- yet they WERE dating at the time

So why wasn't Chris Brown charged with domestic battery??.. perhaps you have better insight into this? Whether or not he was actually convicted, he still COMMITTED the act of domestic battery, which is the same in my mind, minus the fact that he got a much lesser sentence than if he actually was convicted.
I agree, the media needs to get their facts straight, but I think the issue with these types of cases is that people don't fully understand the laws and the difference between these charges (myself included).
08:17 PM on 02/27/2012
There are many abuse victims that will recant and insist they were not abused..therefore, the authorities will investigate and the matter goes to the District Attorney's office. If a gf/wife/mate is abused and the authorities are dispatched..it is irrelevant (to them) if the victim claims nothing happened because that happens quite often. Abuse victims may stand there with fresh lacerations and bruises..and insist nothing happened out of fear. In cases of child abuse and domestic violence, many victims are afraid to go forward..it is common for victims to not press charges. Many will refuse to press charges. The authorities KNOW this..which is why it is (generally) out of the victim's hands at that point.

Rihanna and Chris Brown were a couple at the time when he abused her. Pictures were taken and there was an investigation. He obviously can afford a high-priced defence attorney, who could/would/did plead this down so that he would not have a felony on his record is my guess.
02:58 PM on 02/22/2012
I am living my life, go ahead and live yours? why does she even have to explain. Do we have a patent on her or what?
07:32 PM on 02/24/2012
We do not have a patent on her and normally I would agree with you that we should butt out of her personal life. But because so many young girls look up to and are following her every move she is setting a terrible example and sending a sick and misguided message to young women. Like the author put so well,
"Rihanna became a hero to many young women, a fact she seemed to embrace. What would she say to them now? And for her fans that gained strength and took heart from her triumph, what explanation could ever be good enough?"
01:41 PM on 02/27/2012
Love is good enough explanation for me. Note that no money is being made from this song. It was posted free for download. as for the young women who want to do everything a rock star does, I would refer them for counselling to a church, their parents, counsellors or the government. I personally am very inspired by this woman because she is a trail blazer, she goes her own way, and is confident and courageous enough in herself not to bow to all the bitching, moaning and bullying that's been going on for too long. A very admirable trait.