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International Women's Day: Blog From Women for Women International, DRC Graduate

07/03/2014 15:54 GMT | Updated 07/05/2014 10:59 BST

I am a 26-year-old married mother of five children, including 4 boys and one girl. Growing up, my family was very poor. My father was unemployed, and my mother cultivated land for other people. My mother had 12 children, including myself, but six of my older siblings died. Because my parents could not afford tuition fees for me, I stopped school after 4th grade. Instead, I worked to cultivate my family's fields.

I married my husband, Habamungu, ten years ago at sixteen. At the time, I was completely financially dependent on him, and I did not earn an income on my own. We barely had enough money for our family's needs, and life became harder when I started having children. I had no idea how to manage household finances.

In September 2012, one of my neighbours told me that Women for Women International was enrolling new program participants in our community. She had recently started the program, and I knew another woman whose life improved after participating in the program. I decided to try to enroll, but when I arrived at the training center, there was a sea of women already waiting to enroll. Fortunately, I was selected to join the program and began classes in October 2012.

At the beginning, I was very shy and frustrated because my health was poor, but the atmosphere at WfWI made me feel at home. There was no segregation, women were respected and made to feel secure.

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Participants in the Women for Women International training in DRC credit: Fijona Hill

The trainings have opened my mind to new ideas, particularly our discussions of household financial management, savings, and women's decision-making. I began to apply the advice I received from my trainer, such as how to make merchandise attractive to customers, to my work selling kasiksi, a local banana-based drink. I also joined a rotating credit group with several of my classmates, which has enabled me to grow my business. My income is increasing little by little, and I have been able to provide food for my family, pay tuition fees for my children, and increase my savings to $100.

Through WfWI, I also received training in agribusiness and learned how to grow various crops and to make my farming efforts more sustainable through techniques such as composting and growing hedges and trees to prevent erosion. I currently grow squash and amaranths near my house to feed my family.

I am already improving my life and that of my family, and my husband is very happy to see my success. He works with me to help sell my products. I am happy that my family lives off of my income, and I am now respected by my neighbors. My relationship with my husband has also been strengthened by this. For example, after learning about how women can stand up for their rights, I talked with my husband about making our common-law marriage official. He agreed with me, and we are currently planning to have an official religious ceremony by the end of the year.

Several weeks ago, I had the chance to use the advice I had received through WfWI about women's rights and the law. My brothers-in-law, who were jealous of my increasing income, tried to expel my husband and me from the family house. We decided to consult a local chief, who told my husband's relatives that it is our right to live in the house. We agreed to split the family house in two to accommodate them.

In the future, I want to buy a plot of land with my savings and build a house of our own. This way, my husband will have space to reopen the beauty salon he used to run. I am grateful to WfWI for all that it has done for me, and all the advice I have received. My involvement in the WfWI program was a salvation to me.

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