Baby Loss

Why I Hope 'EastEnders' Stillbirth Storyline Helps Break the Taboo of Babyloss

Leigh Kendall | Posted 26.08.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

We need to break the taboo - and the only way to break a taboo is by talking about any 'challenging issue' openly. We need bereaved parents to feel able to talk openly about their babies if they so wish.

When Life Gives You Lemons...

Libby Martin | Posted 24.08.2015 | UK Parents
Libby Martin

I know lots of people who have children and most of them are newborns or recentborns. I see them struggling with sleep deprivation and feeding and can't help but feel a little envious. I really would give anything. Anything. I don't want to steal your baby though.

Why I Am Glad To Be Growing Another Year Older

Leigh Kendall | Posted 22.07.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

It's an irony of life that when as children we are eager to be older, to be an adult with responsibilities and to make our own decisions. Yet when we are an adult we wish we could liberate ourselves from those wished-for responsibilities, slow down the clock against ageing.

Lets Get Our Priorities Straight

Libby Martin | Posted 21.07.2015 | UK Parents
Libby Martin

I'd like to think that I won't let my previous experiences taint my decision- last time, my birth plan was to do everything as naturally as possible and I loved the excitement of not knowing when labour would start- but I will definitely be opting for early induction next time because I'm terrified.

What They Don't Tell You

Libby Martin | Posted 17.07.2015 | UK Parents
Libby Martin

They tell you you're going to go to hospital and they'll be able to sort you out there. They don't tell you that it's almost certain that your baby has passed away and that there will be nothing anyone can do.

What I Want the National Maternity Review Team to Know

Leigh Kendall | Posted 13.07.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

That postnatal wards need to have a greater awareness of the needs of mothers whose babies are being cared for in a neonatal unit. It is difficult enough for us being on a ward with women who have their babies with them.

Why We Need to Reconsider How We Engage With Bereaved People

Leigh Kendall | Posted 05.07.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

Losing someone you love is difficult enough, living without someone you love is heartbreaking enough, living day by day is exhausting enough without the added frustrations and torments contributed by those who exclude and patronise those living with grief. The patronising comments and exclusion are usually unintended, I know. That knowledge does not make the sting any less, though.

A Letter to Bereaved Parents

Louise Parry | Posted 30.06.2015 | UK Parents
Louise Parry

Just as I don't have the words to try and help you, you may not have the words to express you grief and that's OK. I'm not expecting anything of you at all, I just want to try and give you the space and support so that when you're ready you can tell me what you need.

Made in Vietnam: The Story of Our Little Star George

Alana Nicholson | Posted 29.06.2015 | UK Parents
Alana Nicholson

I looked over to my husband's face and will never forget the look of utter devastation for the rest of my life. I actually thought that they would use me for medical research, I never in my wildest dreams knew this was even possible.

We Need to Talk About the M-Word

Sarah Pylas | Posted 23.06.2015 | UK Parents
Sarah Pylas

Tears started to fall down my cheeks as she removed the scanning instrument and told me that she could not detect a heartbeat, and the fetus was measuring at only six weeks. I felt dizzy. Sick. Scared. Vulnerable.

#SayTheirName: Bereaved Mum Encourages Everyone To Talk About Baby Loss as Part of #MatExp Campaign

Leigh Kendall | Posted 09.06.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

The loss of my son Hugo in March 2014 has, naturally, profoundly affected me. Nothing could have been done differently in either my or Hugo's care from a clinical perspective. However, better communication, especially at the end of Hugo's life could have made an already heartbreaking situation less stressful.

The Lament of the Mother of a Premature Baby

Leigh Kendall | Posted 29.05.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

I never expected an emergency C-section, under general anaesthetic and accompanied by seemingly most of the hospital's maternity team's staff. I never expected my partner to have to wait, terrified, in a separate room to hear whether I and his baby had survived.

May Is Preeclampsia Awareness Month: Four Reasons Why It Matters to You

Leigh Kendall | Posted 07.05.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

There is nothing that can be done to change what happened to me, or to bring Hugo back. What I can do is to help make sure everyone knows about these devastating pregnancy complications and what to do about it.

How This Empty-Armed Mother Deals With Baby Photos on Facebook

Leigh Kendall | Posted 19.06.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

Other women have every right to share their baby news, their photos, and their updates, just as I share photos of Hugo's life, and his grave garden. I would never dream of asking them to stop sharing photos of their bumps or babies. Rather than continue to torture myself, I have started unfollowing, for now, on Facebook some women...

Grief is Unique

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 15.06.2015 | UK Parents
Zoe Clark-Coates

My first loss was shocking...it was submerged with a host of other feelings, mostly denial. I didn't want to be that one in four who lost a baby; I felt I could almost pretend I hadn't lost a baby, and that would erase the miscarriage.

Creating Precious Memories: The Importance of Baby Bereavement Photography

Leigh Kendall | Posted 09.06.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

Our photos show Hugo's personality - lying back with his legs dangling over his nest, throwing his arms around, playing with the wires, or comfily lying in his favourite position on his tummy. Our videos show him boogying to my singing, and opening his eyes to peek out on the world.

There Are Always Options for Compassionate End-Of-Life Care

Leigh Kendall | Posted 25.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

The distinction in Hugo's care between 'there being no hope' and 'no further treatment' being worthwhile with 'nothing more can be done' is crucial. Nothing more could be done to save Hugo's life, but we were able to give him a good death.

Five Reasons Why All Preemies Are Amazing

Leigh Kendall | Posted 31.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

Many premature babies do eventually go home with their proud and grateful parents. These babies are inspiring, as many stories outline. The proliferation of success stories can give the impression that all preemie babies get to go home and live happily ever after. Sadly, that is not the case.

Living as an Empty-Armed Mother After Surviving HELLP Syndrome

Leigh Kendall | Posted 17.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

Left untreated, both conditions are likely to result in the deaths of both mum and baby. The only cure is for the baby to be born. My partner and I were both utterly devastated - we knew the chances of our baby's survival at that stage were slim.

'Britain's Biggest Family' Mother's Stillborn Grave Robbery 'Shock'

Caroline Thain | Posted 09.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Caroline Thain

The grieving mother of 'Britain's biggest family' has described her "shock and sadness", after her stillborn baby son's shoes were stolen from his grave. It is the latest cruel blow for the Radfords, from Lancashire, who were made famous by Channel 4 television documentary '16 Kids And Counting'.

They Threw Our Baby in the Bin

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 26.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

We wish we had ticked the other box, the box that stated 'yes' we would have our baby back. However, like many parents, we were given minutes to decide, before I was rushed down to theatre. In those few minutes we sat traumatised. We were in shock...

Why We Need to Raise Awareness of Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Chloe Best | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Chloe Best

A truly heartbreaking experience, nothing can compare to the loss of a child. Whether through miscarriage, stillbirth or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), infant loss is something that touches an astonishingly high number of families, yet many of us are still unaware of the facts.

New Movie Being Made to Help Save Babies Lives!

Heidi Eldridge | Posted 26.01.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Heidi Eldridge

Anyone in the world can pledge any amount they would like (min £1) towards the funding of the film and in return can select from a variety of rewards, ranging from a simple social media 'shout out', a copy of the new ebook '24weekers: The Story', through to a non-speaking role in the film and dinner with the director and some of the cast!