Baby Loss

Why I Haven't Asked About Your Pregnancy

Aimee Foster | Posted 25.11.2015 | UK Parents
Aimee Foster

My bump didn't carry a sign announcing my baby's probable fate to the world. I was still subjected to the usual barrage of questions and comments from well-meaning strangers. Strangers who were blissfully unaware of how hurtful their musings on and queries about my pregnancy were.

The Reality Behind 'Hollyoaks' Stillbirth Storyline

Claire Copland | Posted 29.10.2015 | UK Parents
Claire Copland

I'm too sensitive, it's true - losing my son left me raw to the world. Pick the scab and I still bleed. Watching my reality played out by actors does pick that scab. Even if I know it's in the name of raising awareness.

How Hollyoaks Adapted Stillbirth Storyline After Conversations With Count The Kicks CEO

The Huffington Post UK | Amy Packham | Posted 27.10.2015 | UK Parents

Hollyoaks scriptwriters were persuaded to alter an upcoming stillbirth storyline after consulting with charity Count The Kicks. It was recently rev...

How to Help Your Friend Through Baby Loss

Aimee Foster | Posted 19.10.2015 | UK Parents
Aimee Foster

Baby Loss Awareness Week took place last week. Sadly, one in four mums will suffer miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss at some stage. I am one of them.

Too Afraid to Exercise After Losing a Baby

Karen Laing | Posted 16.10.2015 | UK Parents
Karen Laing

For many women, sickness or shock make any form of activity in the first months of pregnancy impossible. But if you do want to keep active, guidelines state that it is safe to continue to do what you did before pregnancy.

We Need to Open Up About Miscarriage

Lisa Francesca Nand | Posted 16.10.2015 | UK Parents
Lisa Francesca Nand

People rarely talk about the mechanics of miscarriage and in films and on TV you don't get a sense of how physically shocking it can be. After the furious contractions I took a week of waiting to 'pass' the pregnancy sac. A gruesome and painful experience I never wish to repeat.

Next Time You See a Rainbow, Remember a Kiss...

Jill Finch | Posted 13.10.2015 | UK Parents
Jill Finch

It's not just a mother's kiss that can kill, it is anyone who visits a newborn baby. It's not just a death sentence, but for those babies who survive, it can mean acute lifelong disabilities, liver damage and severe brain damage caused by meningoencephalitis. This is entirely preventable if you would share this story and encourage others to do so too.

Learning Through Devastation: Surviving the Loss of a Stillborn Child

Jonathan Bird | Posted 12.10.2015 | UK Parents
Jonathan Bird

Time heals all wounds. I believe this. I'll never forget him but remembering John-Ian in the right way has helped me move on. John Ian formed a big part of who I am but he also gave me so much in such a short period of time

Every Baby Matters

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 06.10.2015 | UK Parents
Zoe Clark-Coates

People constantly ask us 'What can we say to make it all better?' The answer is 'you can't make it all better, but you can be there and you can keep talking about it and let them know you will always be available to listen.'

Recurrent Miscarriage: Where Do I Go From Here?

Lucy Howard | Posted 23.09.2015 | UK Parents
Lucy Howard

My miscarriages remain unexplained. It could be bad luck. It could be a chromosomal issue. We might never know. And that for me is the worst development. I know, it is ridiculous to want something to be wrong. But I wanted there to be something wrong with me so that there was a reason for the miscarriages.

Why I Hope 'EastEnders' Stillbirth Storyline Helps Break the Taboo of Babyloss

Leigh Kendall | Posted 26.08.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

We need to break the taboo - and the only way to break a taboo is by talking about any 'challenging issue' openly. We need bereaved parents to feel able to talk openly about their babies if they so wish.

When Life Gives You Lemons...

Libby Martin | Posted 24.08.2015 | UK Parents
Libby Martin

I know lots of people who have children and most of them are newborns or recentborns. I see them struggling with sleep deprivation and feeding and can't help but feel a little envious. I really would give anything. Anything. I don't want to steal your baby though.

Why I Am Glad To Be Growing Another Year Older

Leigh Kendall | Posted 22.07.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

It's an irony of life that when as children we are eager to be older, to be an adult with responsibilities and to make our own decisions. Yet when we are an adult we wish we could liberate ourselves from those wished-for responsibilities, slow down the clock against ageing.

Lets Get Our Priorities Straight

Libby Martin | Posted 21.07.2015 | UK Parents
Libby Martin

I'd like to think that I won't let my previous experiences taint my decision- last time, my birth plan was to do everything as naturally as possible and I loved the excitement of not knowing when labour would start- but I will definitely be opting for early induction next time because I'm terrified.

What They Don't Tell You

Libby Martin | Posted 17.07.2015 | UK Parents
Libby Martin

They tell you you're going to go to hospital and they'll be able to sort you out there. They don't tell you that it's almost certain that your baby has passed away and that there will be nothing anyone can do.

What I Want the National Maternity Review Team to Know

Leigh Kendall | Posted 13.07.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

That postnatal wards need to have a greater awareness of the needs of mothers whose babies are being cared for in a neonatal unit. It is difficult enough for us being on a ward with women who have their babies with them.

Why We Need to Reconsider How We Engage With Bereaved People

Leigh Kendall | Posted 05.07.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

Losing someone you love is difficult enough, living without someone you love is heartbreaking enough, living day by day is exhausting enough without the added frustrations and torments contributed by those who exclude and patronise those living with grief. The patronising comments and exclusion are usually unintended, I know. That knowledge does not make the sting any less, though.

A Letter to Bereaved Parents

Louise Parry | Posted 30.06.2015 | UK Parents
Louise Parry

Just as I don't have the words to try and help you, you may not have the words to express you grief and that's OK. I'm not expecting anything of you at all, I just want to try and give you the space and support so that when you're ready you can tell me what you need.

Made in Vietnam: The Story of Our Little Star George

Alana Nicholson | Posted 29.06.2015 | UK Parents
Alana Nicholson

I looked over to my husband's face and will never forget the look of utter devastation for the rest of my life. I actually thought that they would use me for medical research, I never in my wildest dreams knew this was even possible.

We Need to Talk About the M-Word

Sarah Pylas | Posted 23.06.2015 | UK Parents
Sarah Pylas

Tears started to fall down my cheeks as she removed the scanning instrument and told me that she could not detect a heartbeat, and the fetus was measuring at only six weeks. I felt dizzy. Sick. Scared. Vulnerable.

#SayTheirName: Bereaved Mum Encourages Everyone To Talk About Baby Loss as Part of #MatExp Campaign

Leigh Kendall | Posted 09.06.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

The loss of my son Hugo in March 2014 has, naturally, profoundly affected me. Nothing could have been done differently in either my or Hugo's care from a clinical perspective. However, better communication, especially at the end of Hugo's life could have made an already heartbreaking situation less stressful.

The Lament of the Mother of a Premature Baby

Leigh Kendall | Posted 29.05.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

I never expected an emergency C-section, under general anaesthetic and accompanied by seemingly most of the hospital's maternity team's staff. I never expected my partner to have to wait, terrified, in a separate room to hear whether I and his baby had survived.

May Is Preeclampsia Awareness Month: Four Reasons Why It Matters to You

Leigh Kendall | Posted 07.05.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

There is nothing that can be done to change what happened to me, or to bring Hugo back. What I can do is to help make sure everyone knows about these devastating pregnancy complications and what to do about it.

How This Empty-Armed Mother Deals With Baby Photos on Facebook

Leigh Kendall | Posted 19.06.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

Other women have every right to share their baby news, their photos, and their updates, just as I share photos of Hugo's life, and his grave garden. I would never dream of asking them to stop sharing photos of their bumps or babies. Rather than continue to torture myself, I have started unfollowing, for now, on Facebook some women...

Grief is Unique

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 15.06.2015 | UK Parents
Zoe Clark-Coates

My first loss was was submerged with a host of other feelings, mostly denial. I didn't want to be that one in four who lost a baby; I felt I could almost pretend I hadn't lost a baby, and that would erase the miscarriage.