#Bereavement

We're All Responsible for Supporting People Through Dying, Death and Bereavement

Andrew Grey | Posted 21.04.2016 | UK
Andrew Grey

By taking time to provide support, we help people when they most need it; we can help improve the health and wellbeing of carers and bereaved people; and we can build compassionate communities which show that - in the words of the Dying Well Community Charter - caring for one another at times of crisis and loss is everybody's responsibility.

Surviving Bereavement by Suicide

Jess Neal | Posted 15.04.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jess Neal

For me personally, the shock of suicide reduced my ability to accept the demands of daily life. I felt like I had lost my connection with the person I had once been. I knew I had to do something with my grief, but I didn't know how to begin.

The Great Grief Identity Crisis

Naomi Barrow | Posted 07.04.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

I don't want to live my life as "Fiona's daughter". There are a few people I know at the moment who think of me this way, and it feels like such a burden. It also doesn't do justice either to me or to Mum. Mum wasn't just a mother: she was so much more than that. And I may be her daughter, but I am so much more than that, too.

Losing My Mum Changed Me for the Better

Jenny Mullinder | Posted 30.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jenny Mullinder

Five days after my 21st birthday my entire world changed. My Mum; the strongest, most vulnerable, most important woman I'd known, was dead. It was the worst day of my life, but it also caused me to finally confront all my demons, and start moving forward from them.

The Digital Afterlife: How Technology Has Changed the Way We Grieve

Philip Ellis | Posted 23.03.2016 | UK Tech
Philip Ellis

There was a time when only two things in life were certain; death and taxes. Now there's a third certainty; that the imprint we leave online will last long after we are gone. By 2012, just eight years after Facebook launched, 30 million profile owners had died. According to some estimates, 8,000 Facebook users die every day, leaving behind profiles, photos, likes, and memories.

How Do You Know That You Hadn't Driven Faster on a Different Day?

Angela Samata | Posted 22.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Angela Samata

Nobody saw it coming. Nobody knew that a day that had started just as any other was going to end so tragically. Like many of us bereaved by suicide, I asked myself many, many questions over and over again. Why didn't I see how Mark was feeling? Why didn't I pick up on the signs? Why didn't I realise that our call was to be our final call?

Some of My Past Died With Mum

Naomi Barrow | Posted 21.03.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

It is really weird knowing that if I lose a memory, and only Mum would have remembered it, it is now a nothing. It's a gap. I don't know where it went or what it turned into but it's not there anymore. It's been replaced by space and silence. For the rest of my life, that gap will always be a gap; there will never again be a piece of memory that perfectly fits.

First Anniversary Blues

Vic Lennard | Posted 18.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Vic Lennard

My father died on 5th April last year. Losing a parent is one of the most painful experiences anyone can go through but for me it's exacerbated by having an almost photographic memory. I remember every moment from him being hospitalised last February until his death two months later.

How to Heal Childhood Loss

Amanda Seyderhelm | Posted 17.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Amanda Seyderhelm

The warning signs for teachers and parents that a child is grieving and struggling with loss can range from their withdrawal from family activities or friends, increased number of angry outbursts, crying one minute, then laughing out loud the next, or a decrease in academic performance.

Life After Tragedy

Victoria Milligan | Posted 08.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Victoria Milligan

The morning of 5 May, 2013, started like any other morning. My husband, our four children and I were staying in our holiday home in North Cornwall for the bank holiday weekend and what a weekend it promised to be, the weather was glorious. After a morning of walking on the beach, sand castle making and splashing in the sea, we decided to go out on our speedboat, a RIB, and had a heavenly afternoon picnicking and driving up and down the stunning Camel estuary. It was the first time that we had been out on the boat all year and everyone was in a good mood, laughing and screaming as we rode the choppy waves. It was only when we were coming back into our mooring that disaster struck.

Motherless Mother's Day

Naomi Barrow | Posted 04.03.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Mother's Day is not the easiest days for those people without a mother. There are big signs in every shop shouting at you to buy things for your Mum, giving those of us without Mums daily reminders that we don't have someone to buy these things for.

Dear Mum With No Mum This Mother's Day

Aimee Foster | Posted 04.03.2016 | UK Parents
Aimee Foster

I'm not sure what's changed this year, but somewhere among the Mother's Day adverts and shop displays I made the decision to stop pretending to ignore it. For the first time in 12 years, I'm going to let it in...

It's Horrible Feeling Ill, and Worse When You Can't Even Text Your Mum

Naomi Barrow | Posted 18.02.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

On Friday night I started crying because I felt so rubbish and all I wanted was Mum. I'm really lucky to have some amazing women in my life who frequently fill in as 'stand-in Mum' when a situation calls for it. But I think being ill is one of those times where you just want your 'real' Mum...

Who Wants to Live Forever?

Alex Reid | Posted 02.02.2016 | UK Entertainment
Alex Reid

Obviously the lion's share of my life has been dedicated to training, pushing my body to its physical limits and enduring all that comes with that lifestyle. Not only has this always helped me stay in shape, it has also helped me keep a clear head, to focus my mind when all around me may be chaotic. This, thankfully, has served me well in the last month.

I Was Never Falling in Love Again - No One Was More Surprised Than Me When I Did

Helen Bailey | Posted 01.02.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Helen Bailey

New love doesn't erase old loss and cure grief, but brings with it complicated emotions and painful reminders. It's not easy living in a household that has only come together because of the death of other people, but losing those we love has made us cherish what we have now. I was never going to fall in love again, and no one is more surprised than me that I did.

Two Very Different Moves

Naomi Barrow | Posted 27.01.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

When I ordered new bedding (my new place has a bigger bed), it reminded me of that day I spent with Mum in York. A happy memory, but a memory nonetheless, one that can never be repeated. Packing up my things, I relived moments that have happened in that room. It was my home, my safe place, throughout Mum's illness.

Why Should Anyone Need Convincing That Giving Birth to a Dead or Dying Child is Devastating and Traumatic?

Charlotte Bevan | Posted 12.02.2016 | UK Parents
Charlotte Bevan

As a bereaved parent it's bewildering to me that anyone needs convincing that giving birth to a dead or dying (in my case) child is devastating and traumatic, and therefore worth targeting as a health care priority. Or that the case has to be made that many of these tragedies are potentially avoidable, even when national audits have been telling us this for two decades.

Bereavement Is Just the Beginning

Louise Whitehill-Smith | Posted 19.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Louise Whitehill-Smith

I had never really experienced death until I lost my grandfather in 2014. Four weeks later, my mother was diagnosed as terminally ill, and she passed in March 2015. These were excruciating losses, but little did I know that this was just the beginning of losing people from my life.

The Show Must Go On...

Alex Reid | Posted 08.01.2016 | UK Entertainment
Alex Reid

We knew Dad's illness was terminal, none of us were ready for how quickly it progressed. None of us were prepared to say goodbye quite so soon. When I received the call to say Dad had died, I felt like the air had been sucked out of the room. Nothing you do can steady your soul for that moment, the moment your life changes forever.

If You Make One New Year's Resolution This Year: Make It to Talk About Death

Naomi Barrow | Posted 30.12.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Maybe death isn't something you really want to think about at the start of the New Year (let's face it, there are more fun things to think about). Perhaps you think you're not old enough to discuss it. Maybe it's not the most exciting of topics to chat about over a few pints, or maybe it is, but either way I challenge you to talk about it.

Dying Matters: The Big Conversation

Joe Levenson | Posted 22.12.2015 | UK
Joe Levenson

Every minute someone in the UK dies, but despite some really welcome progress many of us still don't talk to our loved ones about our end of life wishes.

There's a Mess in My Head

Naomi Barrow | Posted 13.12.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

My head is a mess. I want my Mum, I need her, but I also want to not want or need anything. I want to be independent and get my life back and do everything and be everywhere; but I sit here at my desk and just thinking about going to the supermarket feels like planning a trip to the far side of the earth and fills me with panic.

My First Christmas as a Widow

Julia Bryson | Posted 13.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Julia Bryson

I know that when Christmas comes I will be brave, and the actual day will be much better than the build-up. We're going to spend it with my parents, my sister and her family and there will be so many happy kids around I know I'll find it hard to feel too sad - or even have the time! But on Christmas Day I'll be thinking of Rog, wherever his soul may be, and sending him all the love in the world.

You Don't Know How Lucky You Are

Naomi Barrow | Posted 03.12.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Having illness and death enter my life grounded me with somewhat of a bump. In some ways, it has set me apart from most of my peers. I have this weird filter on things in life now; I'm all too aware of how fragile and temporary things are. It affects my life in many ways, some positive and some not so positive.

Lessons From the 27 Club

Ed Green | Posted 27.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Ed Green

Ok, so I'm no musician. And clearly still alive. But I got as near to an insider view of this Club as you can get, because my twin sister Jenny died just days away from our 28th birthday.