#Bereavement

What I Learnt About Death In 2016: David Bowie, Cancer, My Dad And Me

Sarah Cretch | Posted 06.01.2017 | UK Entertainment
Sarah Cretch

Bowie made me think differently. He gave me permission to read literature and philosophy and like abstract art. Then later, inspiration to leave my small Northern town and try my luck in the big wide world. Aged thirteen I never anticipated that my schoolgirl hero would have such a huge influence on how I learnt to deal with death and mortality, through a cancer diagnosis and the loss of my father.

Rediscovering Christmas - Life After My Wife's Suicide

Gary Marson | Posted 21.12.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Gary Marson

I opened the box of Christmas decorations as carefully and as nervously as an archaeologist might approach a long lost haul of Anglo-Saxon treasure. This, to me, was much more precious; a collection not of gold but memories, a time capsule of the way things used to be, before.

How To Deal With Christmas When The Magic Has Gone

Juliette Lambert-Heduy | Posted 20.12.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Juliette Lambert-Heduy

Even if it is painful, even if my heart will be tight and heavy, I will wear my sparkling festive clothes, I will smile, and most importantly, I will do all I can to pass on the Christmas magic to my own little bundle of joy, currently growing inside me. And who knows, maybe this little angel will bring me back the magic...

These Families Have Chosen To Cancel Christmas, Here's Why

The Huffington Post | Sophie Gallagher | Posted 19.12.2016 | UK Lifestyle

Cancelling Christmas may seem impossible; whether you’re at work, at home or on your commute - there’s no avoiding the pressure to be cheerful. B...

A Christmas Letter To Parents, From A Kid Who Doesn't Have Any

Jonathan Trotter | Posted 05.12.2016 | UK Parents
Jonathan Trotter

To put it bluntly, there will come a Christmas without you. Hopefully, it'll come much later, but it might come sooner. That's not a morbid thought, it's a centering thought. Your kids will always have stuff. They will not always have you.

Finding Joy Through Pain

Genelle Aldred | Posted 05.12.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Genelle Aldred

Being happy is a transient state, a feeling, I have never met anyone who is happy all the time. Joy on the other hand is more of an emotion it contains happiness but goes deeper. Joyful people are those going through a rough time but not going under.

Standards In Perinatal Bereavement Care: A Geographical Lottery?

Chantal Lockey | Posted 25.11.2016 | UK Parents
Chantal Lockey

Over the years I have met with thousands of bereaved parents who never cease to shock me with their tales of horror and lack of support following the devastation that is the loss of a baby. In some trusts, stillborn babies are still being delivered in delivery suites to the sounds of babies crying, excited visitors arriving with bunches of flowers and congratulation balloons.

Long Time Gone. A Note To My Father

Jane Scott | Posted 22.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jane Scott

I don't know why you have been on my mind so much lately, it's twelve and a half years since you died. Perhaps it is watching your small, wobbly granddaughter achieving her small significant steps, and hurting that you never met her or knew of her struggles. Perhaps seeing her adoration of her own doting Daddy.

Making Time To Listen To Bereaved Children

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 17.11.2016 | UK Parents
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

You see, children, like adults, continue to have a relationship with the deceased. What's often not the same for young kids, though, is that they will have to fill in gaps that their memories don't offer up freely. They have to make believe.

The Reason One Child In Every Classroom May Be Struggling To Open Up

The Huffington Post | Sophie Gallagher | Posted 16.11.2016 | UK Parents

Concerns have been raised about the long-term emotional wellbeing of a child following the death of a parent, as a new study has revealed they are far...

A Happy Day

Pete Wallroth | Posted 31.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Pete Wallroth

I say marks rather than marked because ever since she died I have always found myself in the habit of speaking in the present rather than past tense and despite her tragically no longer being here on this earth, the 27 October will still always be that day of ours. It will never cease to be.

Why Play Therapy Isn't Always Fun

Amanda Seyderhelm | Posted 25.10.2016 | UK Parents
Amanda Seyderhelm

When a child enters the Play Therapy room for the first time, they can choose to play with any of the toys: puppets, sand tray, musical instruments, dressing up clothes, paints, crayons, clay. In non-directive play, the therapist respects the child's choice, and plays along with them, to build up rapport, trust, and attachment.

Dear Mum, It's Been A Year Since You Died

Naomi Barrow | Posted 23.10.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

The world is a little darker without you in it. A little duller. Your laugh no longer bounces off the walls of the house. Your arms no longer gather me into a hug when I walk through the door. Your smile doesn't greet me as I come up the drive.

Livestreaming Funerals Isn't Weird - It's A Vital Service For The Bereaved

Jessica Hanson | Posted 19.10.2016 | UK Tech
Jessica Hanson

Of course, every leap of progress should be accompanied by a little caution, but sometimes it feels as though we're far too willing to miss out on incredible improvements to our lives because we do not want to leave our comfort zone.

How Do You Celebrate A Dead Person's Birthday?

Naomi Barrow | Posted 27.09.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

24th September, Mum's 54th birthday (or do you stop counting when someone dies?) passed, just as every other day has. People often say that they hope their loved ones are celebrating wherever they are but I'm not sure I believe in heaven, or an afterlife. I'm not sure I believe that Mum is alive in another world, space or time. I think she's probably just dead. But her spirit and everything she's taught us will live on in us.

Life, The Universe And Everything: Five Things I Learnt At A Death Cafe

Jessica Hanson | Posted 19.09.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

I was open minded, but couldn't help but feel that the whole experience would be incredibly awkward. Thankfully, Aly and her co-host, Gina Awad of Exeter Dementia Action Alliance, made it relaxed, friendly and thought-provoking. Here are just a few things I learnt in my two hours discussing all things death, dying and bereavement.

Autism Life Skills

James Christie | Posted 14.08.2016 | UK
James Christie

Adult Life Skills hit the cinematic trail recently. Starring Jodie Whittaker, it's about a young woman who can't cope with a bereavement and retreats...

Surviving the Loss of a Child

Jennifer Reid | Posted 14.08.2016 | UK Parents
Jennifer Reid

thriving families.jpg The pain of losing Eddie will always be with us. I don't believe grief every goes away, it just changes shape over time. We will always work tirelessly on Teddy's Wish to keep our promise to Eddie. He may not be here but he is here in spirit and I will always be a parent to both of my boys..

Who Would You Like to Be There When You Die?

Karin Sieger | Posted 09.08.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Karin Sieger

Currently, the three people I would like to reach out to, say goodbye to and make peace with before I die, they have gone before me. They are dead. No more explanations. But I am taking their memories with me into every new day. I am trying to avoid repeats by speaking the truth and asking for the truth, even if I do not get an answer, even if the answer hurts.

I Wish the Doctors Had Told Us He Was Going to Die

Alexandra Massey | Posted 09.08.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Alexandra Massey

It's only in hindsight I can see that Pete, my husband, wasn't going to survive. Whether it was alternative treatments or getting him to the right doctor or hospital, I was 'running on empty' frantically trying to find ways of helping him stay alive.

In Praise of Fear

Anna Beecher | Posted 09.08.2016 | UK Entertainment
Anna Beecher

If anyone asks this August how my play about fearlessness is going, I happily tell them I'm terrified.

I've Lost My Anchor

Naomi Barrow | Posted 08.08.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

I'm floating around. Bouncing backwards and forwards like a ball stuck in a pinball machine. I feel like I'm flying away and losing control and there is nobody to catch me and bring me back. I try to communicate things, but my words get stuck and lost and float away, unheard.

I Lost My Dad to Suicide a Year Ago, Here's What Happened in 12 Months

Adrienne Titley | Posted 28.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Adrienne Titley

I never thought I would lose my dad at a young age, let alone to suicide. To anyone reading this who may be going through the same grief, you're not alone. Don't let anyone tell you that grief has a time frame... it absolutely does not. Take all the time you need. It's ok to be selfish.

Here's to Those of Us Who Aren't Graduating This Week

Naomi Barrow | Posted 18.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Here's to those of us whose lives got blown off course. Those who are continuing to get up and face the world every single day, despite seeing how far life will go to try and make sure we can't. Who are in new jobs, making new friends, creating a different life from the one we had always planned.

I Don't Want to Become 'Hardened', I Just Want to be Me.

Naomi Barrow | Posted 30.06.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Lots of things have happened in the news this week. Lots of things have happened in other people's lives this week. There is a lot of stress, upset and anger in the air. Facebook is a melting pot of unkind exchanges, arguments, and blame. It's not a nice environment to be in and I find myself shrinking away from it and burying myself in other things.