#Bereavement

I Lost My Dad to Suicide a Year Ago, Here's What Happened in 12 Months

Adrienne Titley | Posted 28.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Adrienne Titley

I never thought I would lose my dad at a young age, let alone to suicide. To anyone reading this who may be going through the same grief, you're not alone. Don't let anyone tell you that grief has a time frame... it absolutely does not. Take all the time you need. It's ok to be selfish.

Here's to Those of Us Who Aren't Graduating This Week

Naomi Barrow | Posted 18.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Here's to those of us whose lives got blown off course. Those who are continuing to get up and face the world every single day, despite seeing how far life will go to try and make sure we can't. Who are in new jobs, making new friends, creating a different life from the one we had always planned.

I Don't Want to Become 'Hardened', I Just Want to be Me.

Naomi Barrow | Posted 30.06.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Lots of things have happened in the news this week. Lots of things have happened in other people's lives this week. There is a lot of stress, upset and anger in the air. Facebook is a melting pot of unkind exchanges, arguments, and blame. It's not a nice environment to be in and I find myself shrinking away from it and burying myself in other things.

After the Funeral, When Everyone has Gone Home

Maggy Whitehouse | Posted 28.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Maggy Whitehouse

If you want to help Brendan Cox, or any bereaved friend, remember that the pain goes on for them. And on, and on, and on. You can help. Just be there. Take them out, let them cry, realise that they are a newborn trying to find out who they are going to become now that the world has ended. They will remember your kindness (or your stupidity) forever.

How Do You Explain to Your Children Their Father Has Died?

Tracy Ogali | Posted 23.06.2016 | UK Parents
Tracy Ogali

How do you tell your 10-year-old son and 3-year-old daughter that their father has died? Is there a specific way? How can you make it sound right or even believable? It had happened suddenly. It was 15th July 2010 a warm summer's evening...

Dad: Picking Up Where We Left Off?

Naomi Barrow | Posted 20.06.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Working out how we all relate to each other as a family is just one more difficulty in the mountain of change that occurs when someone dies. I know that we will get there and I'm really glad we're close enough to work through these things together.

Why We Need National Pet Remembrance Day

Marie Carter | Posted 15.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Marie Carter

The death of a beloved companion animal can leave a massive hole in a family's life. But, unlike the death of a human family member, the death of a precious pet can leave a caring and devoted animal lover in emotional turmoil for other reasons, aside from the very real sense of grief experienced.

What to Do When Your Friend's Child Dies

Samir Dawlatly | Posted 13.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Samir Dawlatly

Deprived of the time, due to family and work commitments as well as logistics, to be of practical help to Chris and Jane, Charlotte's mum and dad, we struggled to think of what we could do to support them and their wider families. In the end we decided to do what came naturally; be creative, bossy and try to organise people.

Sadness. Relief. Guilt. Repeat. Losing My Father

Nick King | Posted 06.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Nick King

We saw my Dad every day. He came to dinner with us each Sunday. If we were away we phoned daily. He spent Christmas with us. Came to birthday teas. Attended school plays. He engaged with our family. Laughed at the children's antics. Enjoyed our successes, commiserated when we failed.

Silence is Noisy

Naomi Barrow | Posted 03.06.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Time is moving forward, life is changing, and good things are happening. None of it makes the absence disappear, and sometimes it makes the absence even more noticeable, but it's also essential. My life can't remain in 2015, it can't get stuck in a time when Mum was still alive - it's got to carry on, and that means that I've got to keep on doing what I can to live in the present.

Woman Denied Bereavement Payout Because She Wasn't Married To Partner Of 16 Years

The Huffington Post | Louise Ridley | Posted 22.05.2016 | UK

A woman is taking the Government to court for breaching her human rights after being denied bereavement damages when her partner died - because they w...

#MentalHealthAwarenessWeek

Jess Neal | Posted 19.05.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jess Neal

So why am I passionate about contributing to mental health awareness? It would not be my first choice to talk so openly about my story if I am honest with you, but I feel since I lost my dad to suicide three years ago, I have learnt so much about the crippling disease that is depression that I have to pass on what I have learnt....

Eighteen Months On...

Sangeeta Mahajan | Posted 16.05.2016 | UK Parents
Sangeeta Mahajan

One sunny autumn afternoon 18 months ago, two policemen showed up at my doorstep to tell me that my son's body had been found nearby. Apparently Saagar had ended his own life. They handed me his belongings but I was convinced they had made a mistake. This was not within the realm of possibilities. He is a handsome talented young man of 20 with a fabulous education and everything to live for. How could this be? He had a recent diagnosis of bipolar disorder but the doctors had me believe that he was getting better. No one ever mentioned the word 'suicide' to me.

This Is What Happens Inside London's Death Cafe

The Huffington Post | Nitya Rajan | Posted 13.05.2016 | UK Lifestyle

"I was in shock. I was numb with shock," Josefine Speyer tells The Huffington Post UK. In 2001, the psychotherapist lost her mother within three month...

The Conversation No One Wants to Have

Clare Periton | Posted 13.05.2016 | UK
Clare Periton

We have to learn to open up about the only true inevitability in life. Dying Matters Awareness Week is a reminder that opening up doesn't have to be painful and doesn't have to happen at the worst of times - lets recognise that death is part of life and stop running from it.

We're All Responsible for Supporting People Through Dying, Death and Bereavement

Andrew Grey | Posted 21.04.2016 | UK
Andrew Grey

By taking time to provide support, we help people when they most need it; we can help improve the health and wellbeing of carers and bereaved people; and we can build compassionate communities which show that - in the words of the Dying Well Community Charter - caring for one another at times of crisis and loss is everybody's responsibility.

Surviving Bereavement by Suicide

Jess Neal | Posted 15.04.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jess Neal

For me personally, the shock of suicide reduced my ability to accept the demands of daily life. I felt like I had lost my connection with the person I had once been. I knew I had to do something with my grief, but I didn't know how to begin.

The Great Grief Identity Crisis

Naomi Barrow | Posted 07.04.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

I don't want to live my life as "Fiona's daughter". There are a few people I know at the moment who think of me this way, and it feels like such a burden. It also doesn't do justice either to me or to Mum. Mum wasn't just a mother: she was so much more than that. And I may be her daughter, but I am so much more than that, too.

Losing My Mum Changed Me for the Better

Jenny Mullinder | Posted 30.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jenny Mullinder

Five days after my 21st birthday my entire world changed. My Mum; the strongest, most vulnerable, most important woman I'd known, was dead. It was the worst day of my life, but it also caused me to finally confront all my demons, and start moving forward from them.

The Digital Afterlife: How Technology Has Changed the Way We Grieve

Philip Ellis | Posted 23.03.2016 | UK Tech
Philip Ellis

There was a time when only two things in life were certain; death and taxes. Now there's a third certainty; that the imprint we leave online will last long after we are gone. By 2012, just eight years after Facebook launched, 30 million profile owners had died. According to some estimates, 8,000 Facebook users die every day, leaving behind profiles, photos, likes, and memories.

How Do You Know That You Hadn't Driven Faster on a Different Day?

Angela Samata | Posted 22.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Angela Samata

Nobody saw it coming. Nobody knew that a day that had started just as any other was going to end so tragically. Like many of us bereaved by suicide, I asked myself many, many questions over and over again. Why didn't I see how Mark was feeling? Why didn't I pick up on the signs? Why didn't I realise that our call was to be our final call?

Some of My Past Died With Mum

Naomi Barrow | Posted 21.03.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

It is really weird knowing that if I lose a memory, and only Mum would have remembered it, it is now a nothing. It's a gap. I don't know where it went or what it turned into but it's not there anymore. It's been replaced by space and silence. For the rest of my life, that gap will always be a gap; there will never again be a piece of memory that perfectly fits.

First Anniversary Blues

Vic Lennard | Posted 18.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Vic Lennard

My father died on 5th April last year. Losing a parent is one of the most painful experiences anyone can go through but for me it's exacerbated by having an almost photographic memory. I remember every moment from him being hospitalised last February until his death two months later.

How to Heal Childhood Loss

Amanda Seyderhelm | Posted 17.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Amanda Seyderhelm

The warning signs for teachers and parents that a child is grieving and struggling with loss can range from their withdrawal from family activities or friends, increased number of angry outbursts, crying one minute, then laughing out loud the next, or a decrease in academic performance.

Life After Tragedy

Victoria Milligan | Posted 08.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Victoria Milligan

The morning of 5 May, 2013, started like any other morning. My husband, our four children and I were staying in our holiday home in North Cornwall for the bank holiday weekend and what a weekend it promised to be, the weather was glorious. After a morning of walking on the beach, sand castle making and splashing in the sea, we decided to go out on our speedboat, a RIB, and had a heavenly afternoon picnicking and driving up and down the stunning Camel estuary. It was the first time that we had been out on the boat all year and everyone was in a good mood, laughing and screaming as we rode the choppy waves. It was only when we were coming back into our mooring that disaster struck.