#Bereavement

Living With Grief

Caron Kemp | Posted 24.08.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Caron Kemp

I've lost count of the number of times people have told me how strong I am. Considering I rarely set foot in a gym and my body bears the sagging signs of having carried three children, I'd be surprised if they meant physically so. Rather, they're talking about the resilience I've shown since losing my mum to cancer last summer.

Losing A Friend To Cancer

Kim Ormond | Posted 07.08.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Kim Ormond

Since Tanja's death, I have been speaking regularly to her son on the phone. He has only seen me a few times but has always been aware of "auntie Keti" and has made it clear he is always happy to hear from me and that makes me happy. Every time we talk, it feels as if Tanja is still there in the background, making his supper, tidying his room or getting ready for next day at work.

Suicide: Bereaved Families Need Legal Support At Inquests

Joy Hibbins | Posted 24.07.2017 | UK
Joy Hibbins

One by one, the solicitors arrived at the coroner's court. They looked confident and prepared. They clearly knew their way around the court. Four diff...

Employed Parents Who Have Lost A Child Could Soon Be Entitled To 'Paid Leave To Grieve'

The Huffington Post | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 20.07.2017 | UK Parents

Employed parents could soon have their entitlement to paid time off following the death of a child protected by law. MPs discussed the issue as they i...

The Reaction To Patton Oswalt's Engagement Proves We Don't Understand Grief

Jessica Hanson | Posted 10.07.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

For grief counsellors, it's become almost a mantra: "There is no timeline for grief." This idea that there's a neat timeline of 'mourning', 'getting over it' and 'ready to re-marry' is not only wrong, it's directly harmful to those coping with grief. So many bereaved people beat themselves up for not being 'over it' yet, or for moving on too quickly. The truth is that ways of grieving are as diverse and different as the people grieving and it's nobody else's business how someone reacts to the death of their partner.

We've Got The Five Stages Of Grief Wrong

Jessica Hanson | Posted 22.06.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

I am not a bereavement counsellor, but I do spend the vast majority of my waking hours reading, writing and thinking about grief. If Sarah and I were any less close as friends, I probably wouldn't venture to comment on her way of grieving.

Losing A Parent And Losing Yourself In The Process

Adrienne Titley | Posted 04.06.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Adrienne Titley

Of all the inevitabilities in life, death is the scariest one. As a child you grow up thinking your parents are invincible, that they're going to live forever. Then comes a day when a distressing thought invades your mind - "what would I do if I lost one of my parents?".

Five Years Of Blogging

Beth Britton | Posted 18.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Beth Britton

To fulfill this aim, I could only ever have begun a blog about dementia. A very 'uncool' topic maybe, but much like my dad's 19 years with dementia, blogging about dementia has taught me a lot. It's also been an amazing therapy. But why?

Happy Meals Do Not Equal Happy Lives

Dr Shelley Gilbert MBE | Posted 18.05.2017 | UK Parents
Dr Shelley Gilbert MBE

Bereavement is a hugely sensitive subject to tackle in the media, and should be done with upmost sensitivity and respect. The beginning into the middle of the advert headed in the right direction; and viewers were drawn in to the storyline - in fact it reminded me of our own Mother's Day video, which received much support online.

A Long Goodbye: When Dementia Takes Someone You Love

Jessica Hanson | Posted 14.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

Slowly, painfully slowly, the good days were fewer and fewer, and our visits mainly consisted of us trying to make conversation with someone who barely knew we were there. My grandma would dutifully feed him biscuits when we visited. A woman in the corner of the day room, with white hair that stood on end, screamed periodically like a crowing rooster. The nurses seemed kind.

What I Learned About Happiness After Losing My Family To Unhappiness

Leah Sian Davies | Posted 12.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Leah Sian Davies

When I heard the news that my brother had ended his own life, I knew I would never be the same again. In the car journey to my family that night, in the midst of the feelings of shock, fear, sickness and confusion, there was something inside telling me that I had to step up, something that took over me and I knew I would have to be something that I had never been before.

Thirty Months On

Sangeeta Mahajan | Posted 10.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Sangeeta Mahajan

I am his mother. I am also a doctor. I died with him. An amputated heart and a bruised soul somehow keep the tatters of my being together. The undying love between mother and son sustains. It finds expression through writing every day.

This Simple Journal Lets You Leave A Lasting Legacy When You Die

The Huffington Post | Natasha Hinde | Posted 04.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle

When Verna Scott-Culkin’s father and mother-in-law passed away, her family was left with a huge void to fill. It was then that Verna, a swimming tea...

Grief Is Not A Mental Illness

Naomi Barrow | Posted 03.05.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

It's important to go to your GP if we feel as though you're struggling with mental illness. But it's also important to remember that feeling is normal, feeling is okay. It's normal to feel sad, upset or low at times, especially if someone close to use has died.

Why Travel Is Better Than Bereavement Therapy

Caroline Menzies | Posted 02.05.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Caroline Menzies

A couple of months into my trip, it was the anniversary of Laurens' death. It was a difficult day and speaking to his Mother made me long to be commemorating the day with them. That night, I slept in the desert in Jaisalmer, and let myself cry for him and all he was missing out on. But as I gazed up at the stars, I was reminded that whist he'll always be the brightest star in my sky, the universe still has a lot to offer me.

Memorial Tattoos: How Getting Inked Is Helping People Deal With Grief

Jessica Hanson | Posted 27.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

"I wanted to get a tattoo, I think to have a physical connection still with him. Yes, I claimed a hoody and a favourite shirt of his, but I wanted something to represent the fact that our love never spoiled. Something that marked me as his. I think if I was thinking rationally at the time, that's how I would have put my feelings into words."

Can We Please Talk About Death?

Naomi Barrow | Posted 16.04.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

The only way we can start to break down the walls that death puts up, is to talk about it. The only way we can begin to 'trial and error' our way through the language surrounding death, is to begin to try, experience a few errors, and slowly work out the best way for these conversations to happen. Death and grief aren't a big black hole that needs to be avoided at all costs. Talking to someone about it won't make you fall in the hole and keep falling until you can't get up.

Taking Away Support When Widowed Parents Need It Most

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 13.04.2017 | UK Parents
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

Last week a clock started ticking for widowed parents and bereaved children when the UK Government introduced some of the most indecent and unnecessary benefits cuts imaginable, cutting the support provided to widowed parents and grieving children at a time when they're likely to need it most.

Guilt And The Pet Owner

Susan Leigh | Posted 13.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Susan Leigh

Here I am again, once more in the terrible situation of having to decide whether or not to euthanize one of my beloved animals. This time it's one of my cats. He was born on my porch, his little feral mother having decided that I looked like I'd provide them with a suitable home.

Dating After Death

Beverley Ward | Posted 11.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Beverley Ward

I started gently, casually, by reactivating Tinder and adjusting my personal statement to reflect my change in circumstances. I made it clear that I was not ready for a relationship but would like some male company. It was a clumsy beginning. The first person who approached me got short shrift when he asked me about my taste in books, films and music.

Being Mum And Dad

Dr Diahanne Rhiney | Posted 04.04.2017 | UK
Dr Diahanne Rhiney

She died so suddenly that Rio expressed that he barely had time to absorb the news before she had already 'slipped away' from them leaving him with the huge task of raising three small children alone. He has risen to the challenge and has discovered that he is doing well considering he is being Mum and Dad. As a viewer you think, thank God those children have him.

Jeff Brazier Shares Heartbreaking Insight Into How Sons Are Coping With Mother's Day And Jade Goody's Death Anniversary

The Huffington Post | Sophie Gallagher | Posted 28.03.2017 | UK Parents

Jeff Brazier has taken to Twitter to praise his sons for their “resilience” following a week that marked both the anniversary of their mum’s dea...

Behind The Scenes With Rio Ferdinand And Other Widowers

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 23.03.2017 | UK Parents
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

On this particular occasion we had invited someone else who was suffering into the fold. The former England captain and widowed father of three, Rio Ferdinand, was joining us to find out more about how we processed our loss and helped our kids through theirs.

How To Explain The Westminster Attacks To Your Children

Scott Salter | Posted 23.03.2017 | UK Parents
Scott Salter

Talk to children using words they understand and are appropriate for their age. It's best to use honest, clear language if possible. It's probably best to tell children information a bit at a time, giving them the opportunity to come back with more questions. Older children will want and be able to handle more information.

Ten Things Losing My Mother Taught Me

Melanie Swan | Posted 22.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Melanie Swan

Losing her was indeed the hardest thing I have encountered during my life and anything challenging since I lost her has become, in some respects, more minor since dealing with that, but in others, doubly challenging as I lost the one person in whom I could trust without judgement, bias or prejudice.