#Bereavement

Who Wants to Live Forever?

Alex Reid | Posted 02.02.2016 | UK Entertainment
Alex Reid

Obviously the lion's share of my life has been dedicated to training, pushing my body to its physical limits and enduring all that comes with that lifestyle. Not only has this always helped me stay in shape, it has also helped me keep a clear head, to focus my mind when all around me may be chaotic. This, thankfully, has served me well in the last month.

I Was Never Falling in Love Again - No One Was More Surprised Than Me When I Did

Helen Bailey | Posted 01.02.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Helen Bailey

New love doesn't erase old loss and cure grief, but brings with it complicated emotions and painful reminders. It's not easy living in a household that has only come together because of the death of other people, but losing those we love has made us cherish what we have now. I was never going to fall in love again, and no one is more surprised than me that I did.

Two Very Different Moves

Naomi Barrow | Posted 27.01.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

When I ordered new bedding (my new place has a bigger bed), it reminded me of that day I spent with Mum in York. A happy memory, but a memory nonetheless, one that can never be repeated. Packing up my things, I relived moments that have happened in that room. It was my home, my safe place, throughout Mum's illness.

Why Should Anyone Need Convincing That Giving Birth to a Dead or Dying Child is Devastating and Traumatic?

Charlotte Bevan | Posted 25.01.2016 | UK Parents
Charlotte Bevan

As a bereaved parent it's bewildering to me that anyone needs convincing that giving birth to a dead or dying (in my case) child is devastating and traumatic, and therefore worth targeting as a health care priority. Or that the case has to be made that many of these tragedies are potentially avoidable, even when national audits have been telling us this for two decades.

Bereavement Is Just the Beginning

Louise Whitehill-Smith | Posted 19.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Louise Whitehill-Smith

I had never really experienced death until I lost my grandfather in 2014. Four weeks later, my mother was diagnosed as terminally ill, and she passed in March 2015. These were excruciating losses, but little did I know that this was just the beginning of losing people from my life.

The Show Must Go On...

Alex Reid | Posted 08.01.2016 | UK Entertainment
Alex Reid

We knew Dad's illness was terminal, none of us were ready for how quickly it progressed. None of us were prepared to say goodbye quite so soon. When I received the call to say Dad had died, I felt like the air had been sucked out of the room. Nothing you do can steady your soul for that moment, the moment your life changes forever.

If You Make One New Year's Resolution This Year: Make It to Talk About Death

Naomi Barrow | Posted 30.12.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Maybe death isn't something you really want to think about at the start of the New Year (let's face it, there are more fun things to think about). Perhaps you think you're not old enough to discuss it. Maybe it's not the most exciting of topics to chat about over a few pints, or maybe it is, but either way I challenge you to talk about it.

Dying Matters: The Big Conversation

Joe Levenson | Posted 22.12.2015 | UK
Joe Levenson

Every minute someone in the UK dies, but despite some really welcome progress many of us still don't talk to our loved ones about our end of life wishes.

There's a Mess in My Head

Naomi Barrow | Posted 13.12.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

My head is a mess. I want my Mum, I need her, but I also want to not want or need anything. I want to be independent and get my life back and do everything and be everywhere; but I sit here at my desk and just thinking about going to the supermarket feels like planning a trip to the far side of the earth and fills me with panic.

My First Christmas as a Widow

Julia Bryson | Posted 13.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Julia Bryson

I know that when Christmas comes I will be brave, and the actual day will be much better than the build-up. We're going to spend it with my parents, my sister and her family and there will be so many happy kids around I know I'll find it hard to feel too sad - or even have the time! But on Christmas Day I'll be thinking of Rog, wherever his soul may be, and sending him all the love in the world.

You Don't Know How Lucky You Are

Naomi Barrow | Posted 03.12.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Having illness and death enter my life grounded me with somewhat of a bump. In some ways, it has set me apart from most of my peers. I have this weird filter on things in life now; I'm all too aware of how fragile and temporary things are. It affects my life in many ways, some positive and some not so positive.

Lessons From the 27 Club

Ed Green | Posted 27.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Ed Green

Ok, so I'm no musician. And clearly still alive. But I got as near to an insider view of this Club as you can get, because my twin sister Jenny died just days away from our 28th birthday.

Talking Openly About Children's Grief

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 19.11.2015 | UK Parents
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

When my wife was killed my son had just turned two. For the three years that followed I often worried about how he would fit in at school. What would the other children say when they found out his mum had died? How would the teachers handle his loss? What would it be like to be the 'odd one out'?

Why We Need to Talk About Bereavement: The Importance of Kevin Wells and Grief Encounter

Lydia Suffield | Posted 13.11.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Lydia Suffield

When I think of the people we grieve for, I'm always reminded of a quote from John Green's novel, Looking For Alaska, that seems to sum up my feelings on the subject: "Thomas Edison's last words were "It's very beautiful over there." I don't know where there is, but I believe it's somewhere, and I hope it's beautiful."

Google Can't Tell You How to Grieve

Dawn Vance | Posted 10.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Dawn Vance

When she only had a few hours left I desperately Googled the dying process so that I'd be prepared for what was happening to her. I'm not sure anyone could be prepared for that.

Goodnight Dad: The Call That Changes Your Life

Alison Bloomer | Posted 06.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Alison Bloomer

The tears came then. Along with the first of many gut blows that left my abdomen searing with pain, yet feeling hollow at the same time. It was like my stomach was a thousand steps ahead of my brain. Preparing me for the psychological pain to come - a pain nothing physical has ever come close to.

Slow Down, Your Mum Died Last Week

Naomi Barrow | Posted 05.11.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Last week, I sat down with someone and was airing some of my frustrations, they looked at me and basically said "Naomi, your Mum died last week". Mum died and my body is grieving. It's why some days feel like sludge. It's why I'm so tired all the time no matter how much I sleep. It's frustrating and annoying but it's how my life is.

The First Days of Grief

Naomi Barrow | Posted 28.10.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Mum died on Friday. She had a 'good death'. Those in palliative medicine define a 'good death' as one where the dying person is symptom free, in the place they want to be, with the people they want to be with. Mum died symptom free, in our lounge, with Dad by her side. Saying 'Mum died' might seem blunt to some, but that's what happened. Mum worked in palliative medicine all of her life and as a family we've always spoken about death and end of life care openly and honestly, so it seems only appropriate that we continue that when discussing Mum's death.

Three Months on and Some Magical Thinking

Julia Bryson | Posted 20.10.2015 | UK Parents
Julia Bryson

Yesterday was some strange kind of anniversary. It marked three months since my husband died. Three months - where has that gone? Who would have thought I would have survived three months without him. Well I have, I am here, and although I'm getting by I'm certainly carrying round a huge, huge sadness that Roger isn't here too...

Prince William Reveals What His Mother And Children Have Taught Him About Grief

The Huffington Post UK | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 16.10.2015 | UK Parents

Prince William, has said "grief is the most painful experience that any child or parent can endure." The Duke of Cambridge, who was 15 when his mo...

Thinking Out Loud

Naomi Barrow | Posted 18.09.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Somebody asked me last week if each time I said goodbye to my Mum I thought about whether or not it would be our last. The very quick answer to that question would be 'no'. When Mum was first diagnosed, I did for a while, but not anymore.

Where Have the Past Five Years Since Jack Died Gone?

Lucy Herd | Posted 17.09.2015 | UK Parents
Lucy Herd

I often look back to the day it all started for me, the day I decided I had to find a positive way to honour Jack's memory, I can honestly say if I hadn't started my petition just six months after his death, I have no idea what I would be doing.

What I Learned About Parenting When My Son Started School

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 16.09.2015 | UK Parents
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

A lesson I learned a long time ago was that the build up to what one might classify as a challenging calendar date, tends to be far more challenging than the calendar date itself. Christmas, anniversaries, birthdays, each seeming to grow a little less painful as the years go by. I asked myself, Why would this be any different? It really was, though.

Ten Things You Need To Know Before You Get Old

Suzi Godson | Posted 08.09.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Suzi Godson

Although retirement is viewed as an individual experience, it has an enormous impact on marital relationships. In the initial stages of retirement there is a kind of honeymoon period where couples rate their marriages more favorably, they have better sex lives, and feel their relationships have actually improved. It doesn't last.

Things I Learned From My Parents' Deaths

Gill Paul | Posted 03.09.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Gill Paul

No one loves you like a mother. One of the things that preyed on my mind after Mum's death was that I'd lost the person who loved me most, but then it came to me in a powerful flash of insight that I still have her love and always will do.