#Bereavement

Standards In Perinatal Bereavement Care: A Geographical Lottery?

Chantal Lockey | Posted 25.11.2016 | UK Parents
Chantal Lockey

Over the years I have met with thousands of bereaved parents who never cease to shock me with their tales of horror and lack of support following the devastation that is the loss of a baby. In some trusts, stillborn babies are still being delivered in delivery suites to the sounds of babies crying, excited visitors arriving with bunches of flowers and congratulation balloons.

Long Time Gone. A Note To My Father

Jane Scott | Posted 22.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jane Scott

I don't know why you have been on my mind so much lately, it's twelve and a half years since you died. Perhaps it is watching your small, wobbly granddaughter achieving her small significant steps, and hurting that you never met her or knew of her struggles. Perhaps seeing her adoration of her own doting Daddy.

Making Time To Listen To Bereaved Children

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 17.11.2016 | UK Parents
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

You see, children, like adults, continue to have a relationship with the deceased. What's often not the same for young kids, though, is that they will have to fill in gaps that their memories don't offer up freely. They have to make believe.

The Reason One Child In Every Classroom May Be Struggling To Open Up

The Huffington Post | Sophie Gallagher | Posted 16.11.2016 | UK Parents

Concerns have been raised about the long-term emotional wellbeing of a child following the death of a parent, as a new study has revealed they are far...

A Happy Day

Pete Wallroth | Posted 31.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Pete Wallroth

I say marks rather than marked because ever since she died I have always found myself in the habit of speaking in the present rather than past tense and despite her tragically no longer being here on this earth, the 27 October will still always be that day of ours. It will never cease to be.

Why Play Therapy Isn't Always Fun

Amanda Seyderhelm | Posted 25.10.2016 | UK Parents
Amanda Seyderhelm

When a child enters the Play Therapy room for the first time, they can choose to play with any of the toys: puppets, sand tray, musical instruments, dressing up clothes, paints, crayons, clay. In non-directive play, the therapist respects the child's choice, and plays along with them, to build up rapport, trust, and attachment.

Dear Mum, It's Been A Year Since You Died

Naomi Barrow | Posted 23.10.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

The world is a little darker without you in it. A little duller. Your laugh no longer bounces off the walls of the house. Your arms no longer gather me into a hug when I walk through the door. Your smile doesn't greet me as I come up the drive.

Livestreaming Funerals Isn't Weird - It's A Vital Service For The Bereaved

Jessica Hanson | Posted 19.10.2016 | UK Tech
Jessica Hanson

Of course, every leap of progress should be accompanied by a little caution, but sometimes it feels as though we're far too willing to miss out on incredible improvements to our lives because we do not want to leave our comfort zone.

How Do You Celebrate A Dead Person's Birthday?

Naomi Barrow | Posted 27.09.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

24th September, Mum's 54th birthday (or do you stop counting when someone dies?) passed, just as every other day has. People often say that they hope their loved ones are celebrating wherever they are but I'm not sure I believe in heaven, or an afterlife. I'm not sure I believe that Mum is alive in another world, space or time. I think she's probably just dead. But her spirit and everything she's taught us will live on in us.

Life, The Universe And Everything: Five Things I Learnt At A Death Cafe

Jessica Hanson | Posted 19.09.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

I was open minded, but couldn't help but feel that the whole experience would be incredibly awkward. Thankfully, Aly and her co-host, Gina Awad of Exeter Dementia Action Alliance, made it relaxed, friendly and thought-provoking. Here are just a few things I learnt in my two hours discussing all things death, dying and bereavement.

Autism Life Skills

James Christie | Posted 14.08.2016 | UK
James Christie

Adult Life Skills hit the cinematic trail recently. Starring Jodie Whittaker, it's about a young woman who can't cope with a bereavement and retreats...

Surviving the Loss of a Child

Jennifer Reid | Posted 14.08.2016 | UK Parents
Jennifer Reid

thriving families.jpg The pain of losing Eddie will always be with us. I don't believe grief every goes away, it just changes shape over time. We will always work tirelessly on Teddy's Wish to keep our promise to Eddie. He may not be here but he is here in spirit and I will always be a parent to both of my boys..

Who Would You Like to Be There When You Die?

Karin Sieger | Posted 09.08.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Karin Sieger

Currently, the three people I would like to reach out to, say goodbye to and make peace with before I die, they have gone before me. They are dead. No more explanations. But I am taking their memories with me into every new day. I am trying to avoid repeats by speaking the truth and asking for the truth, even if I do not get an answer, even if the answer hurts.

I Wish the Doctors Had Told Us He Was Going to Die

Alexandra Massey | Posted 09.08.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Alexandra Massey

It's only in hindsight I can see that Pete, my husband, wasn't going to survive. Whether it was alternative treatments or getting him to the right doctor or hospital, I was 'running on empty' frantically trying to find ways of helping him stay alive.

In Praise of Fear

Anna Beecher | Posted 09.08.2016 | UK Entertainment
Anna Beecher

If anyone asks this August how my play about fearlessness is going, I happily tell them I'm terrified.

I've Lost My Anchor

Naomi Barrow | Posted 08.08.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

I'm floating around. Bouncing backwards and forwards like a ball stuck in a pinball machine. I feel like I'm flying away and losing control and there is nobody to catch me and bring me back. I try to communicate things, but my words get stuck and lost and float away, unheard.

I Lost My Dad to Suicide a Year Ago, Here's What Happened in 12 Months

Adrienne Titley | Posted 28.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Adrienne Titley

I never thought I would lose my dad at a young age, let alone to suicide. To anyone reading this who may be going through the same grief, you're not alone. Don't let anyone tell you that grief has a time frame... it absolutely does not. Take all the time you need. It's ok to be selfish.

Here's to Those of Us Who Aren't Graduating This Week

Naomi Barrow | Posted 18.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Here's to those of us whose lives got blown off course. Those who are continuing to get up and face the world every single day, despite seeing how far life will go to try and make sure we can't. Who are in new jobs, making new friends, creating a different life from the one we had always planned.

I Don't Want to Become 'Hardened', I Just Want to be Me.

Naomi Barrow | Posted 30.06.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Lots of things have happened in the news this week. Lots of things have happened in other people's lives this week. There is a lot of stress, upset and anger in the air. Facebook is a melting pot of unkind exchanges, arguments, and blame. It's not a nice environment to be in and I find myself shrinking away from it and burying myself in other things.

After the Funeral, When Everyone has Gone Home

Maggy Whitehouse | Posted 28.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Maggy Whitehouse

If you want to help Brendan Cox, or any bereaved friend, remember that the pain goes on for them. And on, and on, and on. You can help. Just be there. Take them out, let them cry, realise that they are a newborn trying to find out who they are going to become now that the world has ended. They will remember your kindness (or your stupidity) forever.

How Do You Explain to Your Children Their Father Has Died?

Tracy Ogali | Posted 23.06.2016 | UK Parents
Tracy Ogali

How do you tell your 10-year-old son and 3-year-old daughter that their father has died? Is there a specific way? How can you make it sound right or even believable? It had happened suddenly. It was 15th July 2010 a warm summer's evening...

Dad: Picking Up Where We Left Off?

Naomi Barrow | Posted 20.06.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Working out how we all relate to each other as a family is just one more difficulty in the mountain of change that occurs when someone dies. I know that we will get there and I'm really glad we're close enough to work through these things together.

Why We Need National Pet Remembrance Day

Marie Carter | Posted 15.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Marie Carter

The death of a beloved companion animal can leave a massive hole in a family's life. But, unlike the death of a human family member, the death of a precious pet can leave a caring and devoted animal lover in emotional turmoil for other reasons, aside from the very real sense of grief experienced.

What to Do When Your Friend's Child Dies

Samir Dawlatly | Posted 13.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Samir Dawlatly

Deprived of the time, due to family and work commitments as well as logistics, to be of practical help to Chris and Jane, Charlotte's mum and dad, we struggled to think of what we could do to support them and their wider families. In the end we decided to do what came naturally; be creative, bossy and try to organise people.

Sadness. Relief. Guilt. Repeat. Losing My Father

Nick King | Posted 06.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Nick King

We saw my Dad every day. He came to dinner with us each Sunday. If we were away we phoned daily. He spent Christmas with us. Came to birthday teas. Attended school plays. He engaged with our family. Laughed at the children's antics. Enjoyed our successes, commiserated when we failed.