#BuildingModernMen

Misunderstanding the Black Male

Anthony Lorenzo | Posted 29.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Anthony Lorenzo

Average black men - by this I mean black men who haven't just won gold medals at the Olympics- only see ourselves portrayed negatively. Media imagery zooms in on gang violence, failure at school, our aggressive masculinity and by corollary misogyny.

What Is a Real Man - A 'Mard'?

Farhan Akhtar | Posted 29.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Farhan Akhtar

None of this: Eighteen-inch biceps. A moustache that supposedly proclaims your virility. 'Showing appreciation' by leering at girls on the streets. And stalking and harassing a woman until she 'falls in love' with you or hitting your wife or your partner; none of this defines a 'mard', which is the Hindi word for 'man'.

Two Extremes of Gym Culture as a Metaphor for British Men: Where Do I Fit in?

Liam James | Posted 26.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Liam James

As a former amateur heavyweight boxer, and a current avid gym junky, I've experienced two extremes in modern male gym culture; the 'spit and sawdust' uber-masculine bruiser and the image obsessed, chest waxed Adonis. I, like most men, hover somewhere between the two.

Male Mental Health: The Significance of 'Masculinity'

Professor Steve Robertson | Posted 18.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Professor Steve Robertson

There is a framework showing how men cope with mental health concerns (particularly depression) in ways that escalate - the 'big build'. It is suggested that men initially begin with 'acting in' behaviours, such as 'avoidance' (e.g. overwork), 'numbing it' (through drug or alcohol use) and 'escaping it' (through increased risk-taking behaviours like gambling or having extra-marital affairs).

When Do Men Get Mentioned?

Nicky Mahoney | Posted 16.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Nicky Mahoney

If a man has experienced abuse from another male he may fear people will consider him homosexual, and that he will experience discrimination attached to this assumption. If a male is abused by a female, people often don't recognise this as a traumatic event, and even suggest that the boy or man is 'lucky' for his experience.

Being a Man

Jake Mills | Posted 15.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jake Mills

So many of us go about our lives hiding behind masks of decaying stereotypes and redundant expectations. We pretend to be something we're not and live a lie due to the fear of being judged for being different.

Come on Big Balls... Have the Guts to Check Your Nuts

Jack Broadley | Posted 12.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jack Broadley

A question that keeps running round and round in my mind is - how many other young men like myself are out there worried, not wanting to go to the doctors and unsure what they're checking for/how often do they need to check and what to do if they find something.

Tell Me What Makes a Man?

Alex Reid | Posted 12.11.2016 | UK Entertainment
Alex Reid

I had believed to be a real man you needed to fight, be tough and intimidate others around you in to respecting you, it was the only way to assert your masculinity. It was only when I was around 13 I discovered my father was a Paratrooper who had seen active service and was also a decorated boxer.

Will It Ever Be Masculine to Say You Have Mental Health Issues?

Aaron Gillies | Posted 11.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Aaron Gillies

With so many male voices screaming their opinions into their keyboards, it's easy to see important issues get lost in the cacophony of nonsense. Serious issues become buried in self-important retorts and pissing contests. However, some issues are slowly managing to creep out into the daylight.

Stop Talking About the 'Crisis in Masculinity'

Dr Michael Joseph Richardson | Posted 10.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Dr Michael Joseph Richardson

Labelling events as 'crises' is politically convenient as it deflects responsibility. The absolution of responsibility exists as an absolution of blame and guilt. When considering masculinity (and drawing a parallel to austerity) the discourse of 'crisis' become the focal point of blame. It can be nobody's fault but that of the situation.

I Owe Too Much to Feminism to Call Myself a Male Feminist

Sergio Cortes Allsopp | Posted 09.11.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Sergio Cortes Allsopp

Take in the experiences of all those who identify as women. Reflect on the ways that men perpetuate gender imbalances. If a female feminist friend labels you an ally or indeed a feminist, then I am not in any position to dispute that. I just won't be calling myself one any time soon.

What Does It Mean to Be a Man?

Luke Chandley | Posted 08.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Luke Chandley

Being a man in society, it feels like you mustn't talk about emotions. Well I say f*** that. You're a human. You can do what you want (if legally correct...) You don't need to conform to the cake-cutter world that says men build things and women cook things. Men eat steak and women have salad. You don't need to be sad and quiet. Be sad and be loud. Be unhappy and be in a doctors' clinic demanding professional help. I don't know how, but I demanded it. I found strength in myself and didn't let anyone tell me that "you'll probably just be fine, you know?" Find someone who will listen.

Male Infertility Is a Real Issue All Men Need to Be Comfortable Talking About

Ewan McTeir | Posted 06.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Ewan McTeir

I had a number of tests which came back showing that I had a low sperm count. I felt devastated that this was happening to us and we had no control over it. We were told we would not be able to have children and advised to go down the donor route.

When Dad Becomes Your Best Mate

Greg James | Posted 02.11.2016 | UK Entertainment
Greg James

When you get your 'dream job' you never think of the sh*t bits of it. I won't list them here, but I do list them to my dad regularly. And that is incredibly helpful. He has become so much more than the bloke I went down the park to play cricket with as a kid. He has become my closest confidant. He knows everything. 've told him everything. Whether it be a relationship that I've messed up, someone I'm jealous of, a bad show I've done, a person I've accidentally killed... (just checking you're still paying attention)... I tell him everything is my point. And that is a wonderful feeling. And I'd be lost without it.

Separating Men and Masculinities

Lewis Turner | Posted 30.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Lewis Turner

Many men reject behaviours typically associated with people who 'share the same body', and many thrive and delight in performing femininity. It's not like all men are, or want to be, masculine, nor is it the case that everything men do is somehow an expression of their masculinity.

Should Men Wear Makeup?

Jake-Jamie Ward | Posted 30.10.2016 | UK Style
Jake-Jamie Ward

I'm a man, and I wear makeup. Why you ask, because it makes me feel good, complete, confident and ready to take on the world! I started experimenting with makeup around the age of 19 when I began having terrible acne breakouts...

Do Boys Need Male Role Models?

Sandy Ruxton | Posted 30.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Sandy Ruxton

It is important to ask what kind of male involvement is healthy for boys. Some boys and young men suffer not from an absence of male role models, but from an excess of limiting and destructive models. We shouldn't therefore assume that any male role model is better than none.

When We Use the Abuser's Voice

Tom Meagher | Posted 29.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Tom Meagher

At times, voices come back claiming that violence against women is in no way tolerated by most of our society, and some claim (perhaps condescendingly) that I am a victim of my own tragic loss, that I may be more prone to see violence where there is none, because my life has been shattered by it, after the violent death of my wife.

How to be an Alpha Omega-3 Man

Chris Sav | Posted 29.10.2016 | UK Comedy
Chris Sav

Some time ago I was given some advice: that because I was nearly 30, it was about time that I sort my life out and man up for once. The term 'man up' has always perplexed me, as I don't really know how one would increase their masculinity levels, and to what standard. For instance, is there a chance that I could man up so much that I became too manly?

Male Sexual Abuse: If It's Still a Taboo Let's Do Something About It

Duncan Craig | Posted 29.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Duncan Craig

Talking about the sexual abuse, rape and sexual exploitation of boys and men is an everyday occurrence for me (including my own survivorship), but standing in front of these audiences reminded me how difficult this subject is for much of society to hear and still very much a taboo to talk about.

Men - It's Time to Talk

Tom May | Posted 29.10.2016 | UK Sport
Tom May

For 17 years I was meant to "man up and get on with it" and that tends to instil itself in life outside of rugby too... The 21st Century man is under constant pressure to demonstrate strength at the expense of being able to offload troubles.

Why Sensitivity Is a Vital Part of Masculinity

Krishnan Guru-Murthy | Posted 29.10.2016 | UK
Krishnan Guru-Murthy

What you discover when you make TV programmes about brave, apparently macho men such as the Baghdad Bomb Squad or Yemeni death row convicts or Sunni militants in Lebanon is that they are not the two-dimensional masculine clichés you expect. They have fears, doubts and crises of confidence. They deep down care most about their children, partners and parents. They cry, often quite easily...

I Guarantee to Make You a Better Dad By the End of This Blog Post

Jeff Brazier | Posted 29.10.2016 | UK Entertainment
Jeff Brazier

We are often the father we are because of the father we had. Intergenerational conditioning is one to watch out for because a lot of what you and I experienced is dated and has less relevance in modern fatherhood. Be the father you wish to be instead of what you were raised to be.

Since Identifying As a Man, I've Found It So Hard to Be Myself

Sabah Choudrey | Posted 29.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Sabah Choudrey

How could I move into masculinity that was all about dominating women and fitting into the patriarchy, whilst opening my eyes to a world that is patriarchal, and embracing feminism at the same time? Can these two things co-exist? Can I exist?

I'm a Single Father Raising My Son to Be a Feminist

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 29.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

What father raising his male child without a mother would feel like he'd succeeded in raising him the way his mother would have wanted, if he grew up to believe he was somehow superior to the opposite sex?