Children of Divorce

I Am My Mother's Daughter

Chayya Syal | Posted 04.05.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Chayya Syal

I have always believed that the act of writing is, and always will be, an act of courage and defiance - regardless of how long you've been writing for...

Blame and Divorce

Mary Banham-Hall | Posted 23.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Mary Banham-Hall

On the grieving cycle following death, loss or divorce, after the first shock and denial, people become angry and blaming, they may get depressed as they gradually detach from the other person and old life. Only then are they ready to move to dialogue and bargaining to sort everything out. Finally they will reach acceptance of the new life and be able to move on.

The Madonna Complex: What Not to Do in Post Separation Parenting

Karen Woodall | Posted 16.03.2016 | UK Parents
Karen Woodall

Madonna will miss her son but she can remain his mother if she understands that what is going on is not personal and not permanent, but part of his journey to adulthood. A state of being which lasts far longer than childhood and in which her role as his mother will form a place in his heart and mind forever.

Lessons Learnt From Divorce

Emily Beatrice Morris | Posted 19.01.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Emily Beatrice Morris

9th April 2012 was the day my parents decided to separate. The date of their separation will always stay with me as my life rapidly changed after. Decisions such as 'What shall we have for dinner tonight?' suddenly changed to decisions concerning whether me and my sisters will still be able to live together...

It May Come as a Big Surprise to Discover That You Are a Better Parent Post-Divorce

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 02.10.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Single parenting brings a flexibility which allows going to the cinema on the spur of the moment or indulging in an impromptu picnic. I do not have to check with the other parent or plan events far in advance.

Children of Divorce Becoming Caregivers

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 25.06.2015 | UK Parents
Soila Sindiyo

It is important for them to know that you too are hurting because by knowing this and by showing your emotions, you are inadvertently giving them permission to feel the pain and hurt that the divorce process gives rise to and also just to show them that you are indeed human after all.

Should Single Mothers Automatically Be Made Main Carer of Their Children?

Michael Collier | Posted 19.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Michael Collier

Following divorce proceedings, they gain residency of the 'object' that both parents probably care most about. She has one up on the father who is forced to resign his fatherly duties to alternate weekends. But what strain does this then put on the mother?

Divorce and Helping Children Cope - Six Essential Steps

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 24.05.2015 | UK Parents
Soila Sindiyo

You will make mistakes no doubt about that. You will say things and do things with your child in the room that you wish you hadn't. Then you will spend time worrying that you have somehow permanently damaged him/her.

Parental Rights and Wrongs in Divorce

Ayesha Vardag | Posted 17.05.2015 | UK
Ayesha Vardag

No doubt it will become more usual for both parents to take on more equal roles in parenting in the future - particularly given the changes in parental leave at work that are set to come into force in the UK in the coming weeks.

What My Mother Taught Me

Lotte Lane | Posted 12.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Lotte Lane

I longed to be like her. A rebel, an artist, free-thinking, chaotic, always centre stage. She commanded attention: we were all drawn to her, like moths, as she shined out, enveloping us with her light.

Children of Divorce - When to Be Concerned

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 15.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Divorce will be a watershed moment in your child's life no matter how amicable it is. I often say, that the divorce is in itself important, but what is even more important is how it's handled as this can end up being the primary trauma.

When Divorce Happens

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 10.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Having been through the process twice, I know that these next few weeks or months will be, very likely, shrouded in anger and hurt, and accompanied by a seemingly bottomless bucket of resentment.

Children of Divorce - Making Sure They're Alright

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 25.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

One of the most important bits of advice that I was given when going through my divorces was not to go it alone. It's not worth the hassle and risk to your health and wellbeing nor that of your children.

Divorce and the Lies We Tell Our Children

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 29.12.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

What is the point of lying to our children about their other parent while going through a divorce? How does that benefit them? I know how it benefits you but forget you for a moment and tell me how your child benefits from this.

Co-Parenting - Are You the Toxic Parent?

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 04.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Ok, most of us know how difficult and hurtful divorce can be but when coupled with having to come up with a shared parenting plan, this then pushes the whole experience to the next level. This is when toxic parenting may seep through. Could this be you?

Divorce - How to Tell the Children

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 18.08.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Depending on the age of the child, this moment might be something that they will always remember - the time you told them that you, mummy and daddy, were going to live separately. It is therefore critical that the news is conveyed with caution.

Co-Parenting - It's really not about you.

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 12.07.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

I'm not going to create a tip sheet for you on what to do to be successful in your co-parenting arrangement because no matter what I or anyone else says, the one thing that you need to constantly keep in mind is your child. That's it.

Three Shocking Divorce Statistics

Marina Pearson | Posted 30.05.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Marina Pearson

It is quite incredible to think that you have 42% chance of your marriage lasting when you get that ring on your finger.

Shared Parenting: Where the Heart But Not Necessarily the Home Is

Somaya Ouzzani | Posted 20.01.2013 | UK
Somaya Ouzzani

Shared parenting means giving both parents (and sometimes more than two parents, for example in three parent families) the opportunity to have an equal role in their child's life. Very importantly, that does not mean shared residence in the 50/50 sense, which tends to afford both parents generous overnight contact with their child.

How Could They Kill Their Children?

Mandy Saligari | Posted 05.12.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Mandy Saligari

Thus here is some advice: if you have seen your husband or wife regularly behave in an emotionally volatile way that is loaded with depression or self pity maybe a bitter desire to punish, perhaps drug or alcohol fuelled, beware.

Do Lawyers Really Want More Friendly Divorces?

Suzy Miller | Posted 02.12.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Suzy Miller

Innovative law firms like Family Law In Partnership who focus on non-adversarial routes such as mediation and collaborative law, are putting packages together for clients offering parenting and wellbeing support as they recognise the huge role that such support can play in increasing the success of alternative dispute resolution.  

Let Parents do the Job of the CSA? Are You Crazy?

Suzy Miller | Posted 11.09.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Suzy Miller

The Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) will shortly be launching a new £14m Innovation Fund across Great Britain. It will support separated families and help them to collaborate in the best interests of their children.

Preposterous Proposals Over Divorced Dads' Access to Children

Ed Owen | Posted 03.01.2012 | UK Politics
Ed Owen

While it is nonsensical to force a feckless or disruptive father on to a family that is better off without him, it is equally myopic to leave good fathers without any access to their children, ignoring their positive influence.

My Kids Re-Write of the 10 Commandments

Suzy Miller | Posted 22.10.2011 | UK Lifestyle
Suzy Miller

My three children have often despaired of their mother's attempts at 'dating' post break up from their dad. One evening I asked them to give me 10 Co...