Children of Divorce

Three Reasons Why Father's Day Should Be Abolished

Jeremy Davies | Posted 14.06.2017 | UK Parents
Jeremy Davies

The last thing dads need, therefore, is LESS time being hands-on parents. If dads were given a day off work on Father's Day, it might be worth celebrating. So if you're an employer who wants to keep your workforce happy, let your dads go home early on Friday...or give them a day off on Monday. Otherwise, let's see Father's Day for what it is: a wasted opportunity.

How To Make A Hard Divorce Easier On Your Kids

Quora | Posted 26.04.2017 | UK Parents

Try to do this with mediation rather than litigation. If you can manage it this way, you're more likely to be able to have an amicable relationship afterwards, which is pretty mission critical to coparenting. It also just costs far less money. If money isn't really an issue, then litigation might be necessary, but if you can mediate, I recommend trying it.

A Mum's Experience Of Abuse

Jennifer Gilmour | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Parents
Jennifer Gilmour

Having children changes your life in so many ways, not least because you acquire a protective instinct that makes you want to protect them from harm or hurt. I remember feeling this protectiveness instantly when my first child was born.

A Few Thoughts About Divorce And Children: A Picture Speaks Louder Than Words

Mary Banham-Hall | Posted 09.11.2016 | UK Parents
Mary Banham-Hall

Parents have to find a way to discuss these and other parentings issues and protect their children from acrimony and avoidable hurt and loss. Mediation creates a safe and neutral place for these conversations to take place. Furthermore, the mediator is highly trained and experienced in facilitating their much needed conversations and can help with formulating new boundaries and ways of communicating and planning that work.

What Lies Behind TV's 'Mr v Mrs: Call The Mediator'

Jane Robey | Posted 28.06.2017 | UK Parents
Jane Robey

Millions of TV viewers are currently seeing a glimpse of a hidden, private side of divorce, as BBC Two's 'Mr v Mrs: Call The Mediator' lifts the lid on separated couples trying to sort future arrangements.

Mediation or Solicitors? Which Is the Best for a Fast, Cost-Effective Divorce?

Mary Banham-Hall | Posted 24.06.2017 | UK
Mary Banham-Hall

If you are thinking about a divorce, your head will be full of worries about the future. Will you be able to afford two households? Who gets what? And how on earth do you "share the children"? The last thing you want is uncertainty about the divorce procedure. Do you instruct a solicitor or do you come to a mediator? Here is a brief overview of the best possible use of both since the two approaches complement each other.

How Not to Mess Up Your Children in Divorce

Adele McCormack | Posted 09.06.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Adele McCormack

I honestly don't think people are intending to mess up their children when going through divorce and certainly if you are reading this then I applaud you for wanting to make the best out of a bad situation for your kids. However, 9 times out of 10, people mess up and the children are the ones who get the brunt of it. Here are some basic No-No's to avoid.

I Am My Mother's Daughter

Chayya Syal | Posted 04.05.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Chayya Syal

I have always believed that the act of writing is, and always will be, an act of courage and defiance - regardless of how long you've been writing for...

Blame and Divorce

Mary Banham-Hall | Posted 23.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Mary Banham-Hall

On the grieving cycle following death, loss or divorce, after the first shock and denial, people become angry and blaming, they may get depressed as they gradually detach from the other person and old life. Only then are they ready to move to dialogue and bargaining to sort everything out. Finally they will reach acceptance of the new life and be able to move on.

The Madonna Complex: What Not to Do in Post Separation Parenting

Karen Woodall | Posted 16.03.2017 | UK Parents
Karen Woodall

Madonna will miss her son but she can remain his mother if she understands that what is going on is not personal and not permanent, but part of his journey to adulthood. A state of being which lasts far longer than childhood and in which her role as his mother will form a place in his heart and mind forever.

Lessons Learnt From Divorce

Emily Beatrice Morris | Posted 18.01.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Emily Beatrice Morris

9th April 2012 was the day my parents decided to separate. The date of their separation will always stay with me as my life rapidly changed after. Decisions such as 'What shall we have for dinner tonight?' suddenly changed to decisions concerning whether me and my sisters will still be able to live together...

It May Come as a Big Surprise to Discover That You Are a Better Parent Post-Divorce

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 01.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Single parenting brings a flexibility which allows going to the cinema on the spur of the moment or indulging in an impromptu picnic. I do not have to check with the other parent or plan events far in advance.

Children of Divorce Becoming Caregivers

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 24.06.2016 | UK Parents
Soila Sindiyo

It is important for them to know that you too are hurting because by knowing this and by showing your emotions, you are inadvertently giving them permission to feel the pain and hurt that the divorce process gives rise to and also just to show them that you are indeed human after all.

Should Single Mothers Automatically Be Made Main Carer of Their Children?

Michael Collier | Posted 19.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Michael Collier

Following divorce proceedings, they gain residency of the 'object' that both parents probably care most about. She has one up on the father who is forced to resign his fatherly duties to alternate weekends. But what strain does this then put on the mother?

Divorce and Helping Children Cope - Six Essential Steps

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 24.05.2015 | UK Parents
Soila Sindiyo

You will make mistakes no doubt about that. You will say things and do things with your child in the room that you wish you hadn't. Then you will spend time worrying that you have somehow permanently damaged him/her.

Parental Rights and Wrongs in Divorce

Ayesha Vardag | Posted 17.05.2015 | UK
Ayesha Vardag

No doubt it will become more usual for both parents to take on more equal roles in parenting in the future - particularly given the changes in parental leave at work that are set to come into force in the UK in the coming weeks.

What My Mother Taught Me

Lotte Lane | Posted 12.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Lotte Lane

I longed to be like her. A rebel, an artist, free-thinking, chaotic, always centre stage. She commanded attention: we were all drawn to her, like moths, as she shined out, enveloping us with her light.

Children of Divorce - When to Be Concerned

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 15.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Divorce will be a watershed moment in your child's life no matter how amicable it is. I often say, that the divorce is in itself important, but what is even more important is how it's handled as this can end up being the primary trauma.

When Divorce Happens

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 10.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Having been through the process twice, I know that these next few weeks or months will be, very likely, shrouded in anger and hurt, and accompanied by a seemingly bottomless bucket of resentment.

Children of Divorce - Making Sure They're Alright

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 25.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

One of the most important bits of advice that I was given when going through my divorces was not to go it alone. It's not worth the hassle and risk to your health and wellbeing nor that of your children.

Divorce and the Lies We Tell Our Children

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 29.12.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

What is the point of lying to our children about their other parent while going through a divorce? How does that benefit them? I know how it benefits you but forget you for a moment and tell me how your child benefits from this.

Co-Parenting - Are You the Toxic Parent?

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 04.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Ok, most of us know how difficult and hurtful divorce can be but when coupled with having to come up with a shared parenting plan, this then pushes the whole experience to the next level. This is when toxic parenting may seep through. Could this be you?

Divorce - How to Tell the Children

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 18.08.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Depending on the age of the child, this moment might be something that they will always remember - the time you told them that you, mummy and daddy, were going to live separately. It is therefore critical that the news is conveyed with caution.

Co-Parenting - It's really not about you.

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 12.07.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

I'm not going to create a tip sheet for you on what to do to be successful in your co-parenting arrangement because no matter what I or anyone else says, the one thing that you need to constantly keep in mind is your child. That's it.

Three Shocking Divorce Statistics

Marina Pearson | Posted 30.05.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Marina Pearson

It is quite incredible to think that you have 42% chance of your marriage lasting when you get that ring on your finger.