On 8 April, Tim Wise gave a lecture at Loyola University New Orleans. The talk was called "Don't Call Me A Racist" and focused on anti-racism and white privilege. Wise is an American anti-racism activist and writer who lectured at over 600 college campuses. One of my tutors advised that our class attend the lecture...
The recent furore over the 'comedy' that Dapper Laughs has been seen to promote is something that's got me thinking. I'm 27 and the idea of this "lad culture" being so popular is terrifying. Teenage boys are already little shits (I know, I was one) they don't need any more ammo to act any worse than they already do.
I felt like an outsider, an imposter, someone who was tolerated, but not really accepted. Awkward. I always felt so unbelievably awkward, like I was taking up too much space. I was afraid to join in. I didn't do societies - walking into a room full of people without actually being required to be there was beyond me, never mind walking in and actually striking up a conversation.
It had been a pretty average day. Tying up the laces of my trainer, ready for an evening run I received an email on my phone. At around 8PM I assumed it was probably another pointless message from some brand I had unwittingly subscribed to, and as my finger poised to sweep it into the virtual rubbish bin; I saw the title "NYU Admissions Decision".
Sex is fantastic, don't get me wrong, but the very reason sex is sought after and enjoyed by so many is because of the exhilaration of self validation that goes along with the knowledge that someone is attracted to you in the same way you are to them... consent is hot. To coerce, force yourself on someone, or drug them just so you can have your way with them is an awful thing for anybody to do.