Dealing With Grief

Why Coping Is Overrated: How Therapy Helped Me Through My Mother's Death

Angela Brightwell | Posted 10.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Angela Brightwell

Every Wednesday lunchtime, for about a year, I sloped off from my office desk, alone. Away from the shiny soulless glass buildings of Canary Wharf, towards the fishy world of Billingsgate Market, and the little bobbing private narrowboats of the marina.

Why Travel Is Better Than Bereavement Therapy

Caroline Menzies | Posted 02.05.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Caroline Menzies

A couple of months into my trip, it was the anniversary of Laurens' death. It was a difficult day and speaking to his Mother made me long to be commemorating the day with them. That night, I slept in the desert in Jaisalmer, and let myself cry for him and all he was missing out on. But as I gazed up at the stars, I was reminded that whist he'll always be the brightest star in my sky, the universe still has a lot to offer me.

Memorial Tattoos: How Getting Inked Is Helping People Deal With Grief

Jessica Hanson | Posted 27.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

"I wanted to get a tattoo, I think to have a physical connection still with him. Yes, I claimed a hoody and a favourite shirt of his, but I wanted something to represent the fact that our love never spoiled. Something that marked me as his. I think if I was thinking rationally at the time, that's how I would have put my feelings into words."

Not Everybody Rises From The Dead: Why Easter Can Bring Back Grief

Kylie Abreu | Posted 19.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Kylie Abreu

Easter was always a time I dreaded when I was a teenager. It was a time that triggered memories that I did not want to remember. For years after my dad's suicide, I couldn't handle Easter. The very thought of walking into a supermarket and seeing the vast array of coloured eggs and Easter rabbits would send me into an emotional spiral.

How To Cope With Your First Mother's Day After Loss

Claire Crawford | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Claire Crawford

As hard as it was, I still went to visit Mum's grave with flowers and it provided some comfort. Now, five years later, on Mother's Day I do the same. I still miss Mum every day but I want people facing their first Mother's Day after losing their mum to know you are not alone and there are things you can do to help cope with the overwhelming grief.

How Do You Survive?

Beverley Ward | Posted 10.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Beverley Ward

I can still see him standing in my front garden that night writing messages to Hephaestus the blacksmith god with them, releasing paper lanterns into the sky. They loved him. I loved him. He loved me. And that was the last time I saw him. Five days later, he was dead.

Five Things NOT To Say When Someone Has A Family Member With Cancer

Rochelle Bugg | Posted 23.02.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Rochelle Bugg

How do you comfort someone whose world is in the process of spinning off its axis? You want to be supportive but when you open your mouth you realise you have NO IDEA what to say so just blurt something out and hope for the best but worry the whole drive home that you offended them.

Sing Like Your Life Depends On It: How Songwriting Helped Me Through Grief

Ben Westwood | Posted 01.02.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Ben Westwood

What's the worst word in the English language? It's not what you think. It's not four letters, but nine - "malignant". One month shy of her 36th birthday, my wife Carolina handed me the results of her biopsy, which indicated advanced breast cancer. I felt like the earth was swallowing me up. It was October 11, 2011.

Manchester By The Sea: Navigating Through Loss And Grief

Amisha Bhavsar | Posted 27.01.2017 | UK Entertainment
Amisha Bhavsar

As I walked into the screening room with a bunch of seasoned reviewers and critics, to watch Manchester by the Sea - I have to confess, I had seen the...

The Minefield Of Miscarriage

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 12.01.2017 | UK Parents
Zoe Clark-Coates

Well you never know what support, or lack of support, will be offered to you. You have no idea whether those around you will say helpful things or hurtful things, so as you are walking on this uncharted and terrifying path you are constantly waiting for a bomb to be detonated.

Unresolved: Why We Need New Year's Experiments Not New Year's Resolutions

Anna Beecher | Posted 04.01.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Anna Beecher

I think these hurdles were harder to face because I have swallowed the notion at the core of resolution making; that I am project and life, with a few tweaks, should run increasingly smoothly.

Comfort And Joy

Julia David | Posted 18.12.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Julia David

Grief isn't Christmassy. Yet grief is a fundamental part of Christmas for so many people. This may be a despairing, raw grief at a recent death or a silent, lingering grief from a loss suffered long ago. I expected the first Christmas after my Dad passed away to be difficult but I didn't foresee the cauldron of conflicting emotions of the last few weeks.

Making Time To Listen To Bereaved Children

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 17.11.2016 | UK Parents
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

You see, children, like adults, continue to have a relationship with the deceased. What's often not the same for young kids, though, is that they will have to fill in gaps that their memories don't offer up freely. They have to make believe.

Making Time To Grieve

Mark Oborn | Posted 14.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Mark Oborn

When Claire died in 2013 I found myself struggling to focus on work, family and running the house. I was always fighting off the urge to fall apart, continuously struggling with being alert and focused.

Life, The Universe And Everything: Five Things I Learnt At A Death Cafe

Jessica Hanson | Posted 19.09.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

I was open minded, but couldn't help but feel that the whole experience would be incredibly awkward. Thankfully, Aly and her co-host, Gina Awad of Exeter Dementia Action Alliance, made it relaxed, friendly and thought-provoking. Here are just a few things I learnt in my two hours discussing all things death, dying and bereavement.

The Colours Of Grief - Ten Years Without You!

Lizzie Jones | Posted 08.09.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Lizzie Jones

I'll never forget the most concerned look that I've ever been given as I got led to a private room and got made to sit down as three teachers had to explain to me all over again that you were dead.

Who Would You Like to Be There When You Die?

Karin Sieger | Posted 09.08.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Karin Sieger

Currently, the three people I would like to reach out to, say goodbye to and make peace with before I die, they have gone before me. They are dead. No more explanations. But I am taking their memories with me into every new day. I am trying to avoid repeats by speaking the truth and asking for the truth, even if I do not get an answer, even if the answer hurts.

I Lost My Dad to Suicide a Year Ago, Here's What Happened in 12 Months

Adrienne Titley | Posted 28.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Adrienne Titley

I never thought I would lose my dad at a young age, let alone to suicide. To anyone reading this who may be going through the same grief, you're not alone. Don't let anyone tell you that grief has a time frame... it absolutely does not. Take all the time you need. It's ok to be selfish.

Father's Day Without a Dad

Julia Bryson | Posted 17.06.2016 | UK Parents
Julia Bryson

The rows of cards all about Dads made him smile and reminded him of Roger, but when I said to him why they were all there he fell silent and look tearful. 'What are we going to do if we haven't got a dad?' he asked me. 'I don't know love' is all I could say, wondering what on earth we would do when the day came around.

60 Postcards in Australia: The Relaunch

Rachael Chadwick | Posted 10.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Rachael Chadwick

I'm hitting Australia at the weekend for a 3-week trip, travelling around Melbourne, Adelaide, Cape Tribulation, Whitsunday and with a final night in Brisbane. There was absolutely no way I could head to the other side of the world for an adventure and not use this opportunity to scatter postcards as I go.

Cancer Surviour Guilt? How to Stop it Now

Karin Sieger | Posted 03.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Karin Sieger

Having a social, cultural and religious heritage that is well saturated with guilt (at least when I grew up), shame and guilt would be a constant companion and shadow that would weigh heavily on me. The essence of the intuitive and conscious belief was that 'I am bad'.

Life Goes On...

Nadine Marshall | Posted 05.04.2017 | UK Parents
Nadine Marshall

Conner was put on life support machine in intensive care: We knew the situation was very serious and grave. However, despite the horrendous circumstances we were in, Richard and I, and both our children, drew a lot of comfort from the way the hospital managed everything.

My Five Year Wedding Anniversary as a Widow

Julia Bryson | Posted 22.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Julia Bryson

Five years ago that weekend was one of the happiest days of my life. It was the day I married Roger, my best friend and the man who made me laugh, made me feel spacial, made me feel safe. The father of my children, the one who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

Who Wants to Live Forever?

Alex Reid | Posted 02.02.2017 | UK Entertainment
Alex Reid

Obviously the lion's share of my life has been dedicated to training, pushing my body to its physical limits and enduring all that comes with that lifestyle. Not only has this always helped me stay in shape, it has also helped me keep a clear head, to focus my mind when all around me may be chaotic. This, thankfully, has served me well in the last month.

Finding Joy After the Tears

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 28.01.2017 | UK Parents
Zoe Clark-Coates

First let me state this...by being happier that does not mean I don't miss my children, as I do. It also does not mean I am glad to have gone through loss, as I am not. I wish with my whole heart they were now with me and I would gladly hand back the lifelong journey of grief.