Dealing With Grief

When Is It Right to Be Sad With Grief?

Janice B Gordon | Posted 24.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Janice B Gordon

If grief is new to you do not think your feelings are wrong or that you should feel any other way or that you should not be feeling whatever you're feeling, it is OK to be sad. You are human and you will work it through in your own time.

Selective Grief

Liza Bel | Posted 19.11.2015 | UK
Liza Bel

My student years in Paris defined who I am today. The streets harboured my surreptitious kisses, those terraces hosted my tears after failed exams and my laughter with my friends who teased me about my Russian accent in French. I wasted my student stipend on Pierre Hermé macaroons consumed between lectures on a random bench at St Germain. It was with a view of the Tour Eiffel that I started my first ever internship at Radio France.

We Need to Talk About Ana

Maliha Reza | Posted 28.08.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Maliha Reza

If you are supporting someone through this then stay strong. They need you to be. They are full of intense regret and self-deprecation, and your support and love will be one thing getting through the barrier and to the starting line of a healthy life.

Fair Weather

Julie Elizabeth | Posted 06.08.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Julie Elizabeth

While engrossed in grief, the seasons sadly don't always represent their metaphorical meanings. Good weather does not always bring with it good times. Relationships that had remained strong and fulfilling in fair weather had turned to destructive depressions in grayer times.

Mark Zuckerberg We Salute You

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 04.08.2015 | UK Parents
Zoe Clark-Coates

Well who knew Mark Zuckerberg talking about his and his wife's miscarriages would cause such a media frenzy?

An Open Letter to a Recently-Bereaved Mother

Leigh Kendall | Posted 28.07.2015 | UK Parents
Leigh Kendall

I am not going to tell you what to do, how to grieve. I cannot do those things, because while we may share a similar experience in common our individual journeys are so very personal. I felt so alone after my son died, and I hope this letter offers even a tiny bit of comfort to you.

Why We Need to Reconsider How We Engage With Bereaved People

Leigh Kendall | Posted 05.07.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

Losing someone you love is difficult enough, living without someone you love is heartbreaking enough, living day by day is exhausting enough without the added frustrations and torments contributed by those who exclude and patronise those living with grief. The patronising comments and exclusion are usually unintended, I know. That knowledge does not make the sting any less, though.

Travel as a Means of Healing

Sarah Wauterlek Pierson | Posted 27.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sarah Wauterlek Pierson

Travel has proven to be a healer and creator of new beginnings. It generously provides varied perspectives on life and teaches us, sometimes gracefully and sometimes with a heavy hand, to see our life within new contexts.

How To Support A Teen Through Zayn Malik Heartbreak

The Huffington Post UK | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 30.03.2015 | UK Parents

Zayn Malik's decision to quit One Direction has left fans shocked and upset. Teenage Directioners in particular have flocked to social media to share ...

Mother's Day After Death of a Child

Sally Hall | Posted 16.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sally Hall

I think any parents with a very sick child on an oncology ward would agree that their mothers have been rocks in terms of practical support. I can only imagine what it must have felt for my mum to have been told the devastating news about Skye's cancer.

The Kissing Booth and the Robot

Julie Elizabeth | Posted 05.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Julie Elizabeth

A road and a pane of glass separated us but I still blushed and swayed in my chair as I tried to hide my noticeable swoon from my friend. A grin spread over my face that didn't depart for the remainder of the afternoon. I was smitten.

A Cup of Tea and a Text Message

Julie Elizabeth | Posted 19.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Julie Elizabeth

Walking into a heavy silent house lit by golden waving glass shadows, one full cup of tea sat on the kitchen counter. It was the cup of tea he never finished when we rushed into hospital two days before. Stale, cold and miserable it had spent 48 hours unaware of its fate.

An Open Letter to Mum, Three Years Since You Passed

Rachael Chadwick | Posted 12.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Rachael Chadwick

I was once torn apart by nightmares that would haunt me night after night. Waking up from those was like losing you all over again. But, in the past year I have started to dream about you - beautiful you. Now there are times when I wake up and I feel like you have been right there beside me.

Why The Differences Between Empathy and Sympathy Matter

Leigh Kendall | Posted 22.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

Grief is entirely individual, and the grieving person has to respond to their grief in a way that is relevant to them. How they respond may change over time. The difficulty with the platitudes detailed above is that they infer a judgement about how the person is grieving, the time they are taking over their grief, or how they are feeling.

I Couldn't Say Goodbye to Irene

Jonatan Bosque | Posted 10.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Jonatan Bosque

Today it has been exactly a week since some bastards ran over Irene and I from behind while we walked on the sidewalk, just feet from our home. The tragedy ended with the death of my girlfriend from the strong impact of the accident...

Baby Loss Awareness Week

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 10.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

You secretly weep when you see pregnant women, as it's a reminder of what you no longer have. However if you envy that woman, it's always tinged with guilt, as you are acutely aware that she might be one of the one in four- expecting a baby following loss.

There Is Healing in the Weeping

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 04.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

When babies are born we hope they come out crying so we know they are OK. However, somewhere along the line, tears stop showing the world we are healthy and that we are fine. Instead, the tears seem to start telling people that we are emotionally unstable and suggest that we aren't coping.

Please Don't Tell Me I'm 'Lucky' My Parents Are Already Dead

Emma Clarke | Posted 29.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Emma Clarke

Although it seems a lifetime ago, it feels like yesterday. Time doesn't heal; it just makes grief go out of focus. And anything can bring it sharply back again: a photograph, a scent, a memory or just the endless yearning pall of homesickness so familiar to people who've lost their parents too early.

They Threw Our Baby in the Bin

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 26.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

We wish we had ticked the other box, the box that stated 'yes' we would have our baby back. However, like many parents, we were given minutes to decide, before I was rushed down to theatre. In those few minutes we sat traumatised. We were in shock...

Pyschoda Seeks Cuckoo Pint

Samantha van Dalen | Posted 22.07.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Samantha van Dalen

I have observed the Cuckoo Pint for several years now. This year, the flowers appeared later than usual but were pollinated faster than 2013. The pollination of the flowers occurred in June last year and the fruit ripened in August. We are still in May and the flowers have been pollinated already.

Writing Helped Me to Overcome Grief of Double Epilepsy Loss

Mindy Gibbins-Klein | Posted 16.07.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Mindy Gibbins-Klein

It is scary to think that epilepsy can strike the old or young and at any time. According to Epilepsy Action, there are currently 600,000 people across the UK living with epilepsy.

The Things No One Tells You About Losing a Loved One

Andreea Groenendijk-Deveau | Posted 22.04.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Andreea Groenendijk-Deveau

My best friend, my ex-boyfriend of 5 years, passed away suddenly. I was stunned. And the experience of the two days leading up to the funeral made it all so much worse.

Living on The Edge

Mark Oborn | Posted 10.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Mark Oborn

The toughest thing is doing all this alone, not alone in the sense that there is no one around me, but alone in the sense that I'm not complete without Claire. We faced these trials in life together, it was always 'Mark and Claire' - that was how we lived.

Continuing the Good Fight for Dad

Anders Lorenzen | Posted 12.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Anders Lorenzen

At 34 years of age, I'm the eldest of the four kids he left behind and should feel privileged that I had him for the longest of all of us. But two weeks after his death and a week after his funeral, I am struggling to feel positive about anything at all.

Surviving the Death of My Wonderful Husband

Beth Phillips | Posted 24.09.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Beth Phillips

On 25 April 2013, shortly after his 39th birthday, Dunc went to his weekly game of football, and suffered a cardiac arrest. Prolonged attempts at resuscitation were unsuccessful. By 8pm, my gorgeous, dedicated, loving husband had died and I was officially a widow. Not just a widow, but a widow with two little boys at home.