Death and Dying

Planning For The End Of My Life, Aged Just 17, Made Me Ensure I Wasn't Forgotten

Lucy Watts MBE | Posted 26.09.2017 | UK
Lucy Watts MBE

life less ordinary banner As my mum, my hospice nurse and I sat going through the plan and documenting my wishes, I suddenly blurted out that I was scared I'd die and be forgotten, that nothing would be different or better because of me and my life wouldn't have meant anything. It even surprised me, what I'd said, as I'd not consciously ever really thought about that. That sudden exclamation would change my life.

Why Trips To The Cemetery Aren't Just For 'Big Fat Goths'

Jessica Hanson | Posted 11.06.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

I'm talking about tomb tourism. Many fellow taphophiles (that's a lover of gravestones and cemeteries) and I regularly take time out of our weekends to wander among the dearly departed, taking in the sights and sounds of the graveyard.

A Long Goodbye: When Dementia Takes Someone You Love

Jessica Hanson | Posted 14.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

Slowly, painfully slowly, the good days were fewer and fewer, and our visits mainly consisted of us trying to make conversation with someone who barely knew we were there. My grandma would dutifully feed him biscuits when we visited. A woman in the corner of the day room, with white hair that stood on end, screamed periodically like a crowing rooster. The nurses seemed kind.

Don't Kid Yourself - You Should Be Planning Your Funeral

Jessica Hanson | Posted 09.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

So why do people make these offhand comments? I think it's a way of denying our mortality. As much as we intellectually know that one day we will die, a deep part of our psyche is fighting that fact. When we say, "It doesn't matter", partly it's because we don't want to admit that one day, inevitably, it definitely will matter.

How Do You Explain Death To Little Children?

J.J. Barnes | Posted 05.05.2017 | UK Parents
J.J. Barnes

Life is terminal.  No matter what you do, no matter where you're from.  No matter if you're rich or poor, white or black, Buddhist or Muslim, man or woman, everyone dies.  It's one thing we all have in common.  And it's something my oldest little girl is slowly learning to understand.

How To Talk About Death

Dr Peter Nightingale | Posted 03.05.2017 | UK
Dr Peter Nightingale

In the time leading up to the end of someone's life, the most important thing you can do is to offer to be there for the person. Be consistent in the time you make available to them and visit as often as you can. This familiarity will foster a comfortable relationship where you can both share your feelings, fears, wishes and hopes.

The Hierarchy Of Suffering

Daloni Carlisle | Posted 22.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Daloni Carlisle

This is what I call the hierarchy of suffering and I want to challenge it. It's a way of thinking that says because I have this cancer, my suffering trumps yours. My friend did not call to tell me about her accident because, in her mind, her suffering is lower down in this pyramid. She is not worthy of my sympathy.

Cheers! To 365 Days Without My Dad!

Tiffannie Roberts | Posted 22.03.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Tiffannie Roberts

Yes, I know I shouldn't really be saying that but it's just when people die, I laugh now and it's not even funny. I know it's not funny, it's just that life feels like a joke.

Livestreaming Funerals Isn't Weird - It's A Vital Service For The Bereaved

Jessica Hanson | Posted 19.10.2017 | UK Tech
Jessica Hanson

Of course, every leap of progress should be accompanied by a little caution, but sometimes it feels as though we're far too willing to miss out on incredible improvements to our lives because we do not want to leave our comfort zone.

The Passing Of A Warrior Woman

Jacqueline Koay | Posted 05.09.2017 | UK Parents
Jacqueline Koay

This morning, I sat at my computer and cried. I had just read the passing of someone called Joyce Tan Siew Ling who lived in Malaysia. Now, I am not the type to mourn the passing of lives from this world to the next. After all, we are all here on borrowed time, and Death was the only thing that was ever promised to us at birth. It comes to us all sooner or later.

We're All Responsible for Supporting People Through Dying, Death and Bereavement

Andrew Grey | Posted 22.04.2017 | UK
Andrew Grey

By taking time to provide support, we help people when they most need it; we can help improve the health and wellbeing of carers and bereaved people; and we can build compassionate communities which show that - in the words of the Dying Well Community Charter - caring for one another at times of crisis and loss is everybody's responsibility.

Happy Endings

Mark Robins | Posted 14.01.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Mark Robins

I wrote in December about doing Christmas brilliantly. I hope everyone did and had a great time. Part of that ramble was saying that Christmas is an opportunity to end the year well and start a new one well. Ending something well has become a bit of a theme over the last few weeks for a number of reasons.

Dying Matters: The Big Conversation

Joe Levenson | Posted 22.12.2016 | UK
Joe Levenson

Every minute someone in the UK dies, but despite some really welcome progress many of us still don't talk to our loved ones about our end of life wishes.

Sometimes There Are No Words, and That's Okay

Louise de Winter | Posted 19.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Louise de Winter

Paul was heartbroken when he heard his wife Susie had been killed in an accident, leaving behind their three small children. He'd been to plenty of funerals before and they just didn't seem to be relevant to the horror of the situation in which he found himself.

'Too Many People Are Dying Without Dignity' Harrowing Report Finds

PA / The Huffington Post | Posted 20.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle

A report into end of life care has offered an insight into "appalling" incidents of patient neglect during the final moments of their lives. These ...

The Seven Reasons to Attend A Death Café

Liberty Forrest | Posted 17.01.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Liberty Forrest

Generally speaking, Western culture shuns, fears and hides from death whenever possible. It is shrouded in mystery, and in fact, in secrecy to some extent. We don't like to discuss it at all, but when we must, we use euphemisms for it. We shield our children from it, we don't let them attend funerals...

Please Don't Tell Me I'm 'Lucky' My Parents Are Already Dead

Emma Clarke | Posted 29.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Emma Clarke

Although it seems a lifetime ago, it feels like yesterday. Time doesn't heal; it just makes grief go out of focus. And anything can bring it sharply back again: a photograph, a scent, a memory or just the endless yearning pall of homesickness so familiar to people who've lost their parents too early.

Dealing With the Death of a Child at Christmas Time

Sharon Dempsey | Posted 21.02.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sharon Dempsey

Living with the death of a child is difficult at any time of the year but Christmas brings extra challenges for bereaved parents. I should know. This will be my ninth Christmas without my son Owen.

Your Dementia Is Killing Me

Karin Sieger | Posted 10.02.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Karin Sieger

While we do not have the disease, our own lives can become overshadowed and change. We may lose part of ourselves (hopes, aspirations, freedom, love and support) and a level of being care-free: without having to worry, without having to care for another.

New End of Life Care Report Shows No Room for Complacency

Imelda Redmond | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Imelda Redmond

Marie Curie works on its own and in partnership with a wide range of NHS, public and voluntary sector organisations to tackle many of the challenges highlighted in today's report. We want everyone, wherever they live to be able to have a 'good death', provided with the care they want and need, with support available for them and their families.

The Cost Of Dying Goes Up By HOW MUCH?

PA/Huffington Post UK | Posted 04.09.2013 | UK

The cost of dying has risen to an average £7,622 - a 7.1% increase on last year, according to a report. The figure, which includes costs such as p...

Death Shouldn't Mean Debt

Simon Cox | Posted 02.12.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Simon Cox

Although too often an afterthought, end of life costs should form a central part of this planning; a loved one passing away is a difficult enough time as it is, unattended and unexpected financial costs should not add further upset at a time when loved ones are grieving.