I often say that we seem to live our lives based on a magical book of what 'Should or Shouldn't Happen' and that to do so is ridiculous.
Law practitioners who were interviewed for the study also reported that dominant characters, usually professional men, often deliberately chose mediation because they believed that they would be able to control their partners best in this process.
If we want gender equality then this is the reality and women must be prepared for independence.
The term 'conscious uncoupling', coined by Dr Habib Sadeghi and Dr Sherry Sami, revolves around society's idea that marriage is forever. They suggest that humans have failed to adapt to the fact that nowadays we live longer. One needs to look inside oneself and identify emotional scars from their past.
A Judge has recently ruled in the case of Tracey Wright that she should go out and get herself a job rather than rely on her ex-husband to provide maintenance for her to live on. This has caused huge ripples as there is now expected to be a huge rush to the courts to renegotiate divorce settlements.
Men seek a resumption of a private life - they want someone to 'come home to', whereas women seek a public life - they want someone to 'go out' with.
If you were one of the lucky couples to get engaged over Valentine's Day weekend, congratulations! This is a special and exciting time, and no doubt thoughts of engagement parties and wedding preparations are already providing hours of anticipation and joy.
If we are always projecting, and reflecting, then the people we are surrounded by, should give us an indication of the type of love that surrounds us. Of what we put out into the universe, we get back.
Whilst this may be a time where you feel like doing nothing more than shutting yourself away from the rest of the world, you will need the support of others in both a formal and informal way to get through this. The challenge is choosing who can support you, and in what way?
Telling the children is the part that many parents fear the most. The last thing that they want to do is hurt their children and it's a really difficult conversation to have as the consequences are life changing for the whole family. However there are some guidelines that will make it a little easier if you follow them.
I had two children and no family around to help. I had to drop out of courses during divorce number one and had to quit one full-time job during divorce number two and opt for a part-time position that was paying me not only a fraction of my previous salary but that was also mind-numbingly dull.
Being with friends and family feeds the primal human need for connection and boosts oxytocin (the happy hormone). Before they leave they'll stack the dishwasher and tell you about the salsa dancing classes they've organised for both of you. Don't argue. Just go.
After the initial January fresh start, how many people who are now in the process of divorce actually start thinking, have I made a mistake? Is it really worth it? How do I stay focused not he future? Will I ever move on?
Broken hearts don't mean a separation shouldn't happen. When a relationship has run its course it's likely the children will have felt the tension or the fading of one or both of you, and that's not good for anyone.
Most affairs are rarely just about the desire to get steamy with someone else. They are far more often about people's inability to negotiate the relationship they are in. "People usually have affairs to cope with a marriage rather than end it," says Janet Reibstein.
If truth be told, it's about time I put myself back in the shop window for real now. No more excuses. No more "it's too soon", or "I've got to put the kids first", or even "I'll write a book about it instead of doing it for real".