Having been through the process twice, I know that these next few weeks or months will be, very likely, shrouded in anger and hurt, and accompanied by a seemingly bottomless bucket of resentment.
The conundrum is, how can marriage be a morally superior course of action on the one hand, and an insurance policy for a statistically high divorce possibility on the other? The two just don't quite fit together somehow.
It's easy to write about domestic violence as statistical figures, as if it's happened to others, possibly those with backgrounds dissimilar to your own. But writing about it as an experience not only of yours, but of others around you, is another matter...
New research from the relationships charity that I work for OnePlusOne has found that a quarter of all parents who live with their partner and children have secretly considered separating or divorcing their partner.
There are two separate times in the year when divorce lawyers ready themselves for an influx of new clients; one of those is the post-Christmas fallout and the other is post-holidays. Both are times when people have typically been hot-housed together with the pressure and anticipation of fun, relaxation and shared jollity.
Christmas is traditionally a time for families to be together. This can heighten emotions, especially loneliness if you are single as the focus is on happy families at this time of year. It can really highlight the fact that you don't have that special someone to share it with and that can be hard to deal with.
How many people have you just 'known' were going to marry the wrong man or woman? But did you take them aside before their big day and quietly ask if they were 'sure' they were marrying the right person? Girl-to-girl, this is code for "You must be NUTS marrying this guy. He's a cheating, unreliable jerk." Or man-to-man, did you simply tell him point-blank "This woman is BAD news. Don't marry her. She will wreck your life."
Hundreds of thousands of people in the UK have divorced parents and I'm one of them. The majority of the year I don't even think about the fact that my parents live in different houses with different people. After all, it's been that way for the last 15 years. But at Christmas time their separation is suddenly significant.
Do remember the next time you are tempted to click away on your iPhone or tablet, think before you click. This could be a click too far.
For many, the initial months following a separation or divorce are some of the most painful and difficult they will experience. When you add children to the equation, it can be difficult to cope with day-to-day life, let alone the enormous task of orchestrating shared childcare arrangements...
"It's my exes turn to have the children for Christmas this year and it's all I can think about. It makes me so sad to think that I won't share Christmas Day with my kids, they are what Christmas is all about. What can I do?"
Sometimes we do not know how much a decision will impact us until it is done. This is the case for me, and my divorce. It has undoubtedly changed my life, and me. But I am not here to retell the horror of divorce. Instead, I would like to share 5 important lessons I have learnt after divorce.
Whichever process is chosen it is a requirement in financial matters for both parties to make a full and frank disclosure of their capital and income. If either party is concerned that this will obligation will not be met voluntary then a non-court based option is not suitable.
Historically, over 60s have always been far less likely to divorce than the rest of the population. But trends are changing and the first decade of the twentieth century has heralded a rising number of over-60s separating - often after years of marriage.
In an ideal world, children would like their parents to live happily ever after together, but for a growing number of families, that fairytale is not a reality. The fact that a child's mum and dad are not together can be particularly upsetting for a child at Christmas time...
Breaking up used to be easy. A big argument, a few weeks of heartbreak - but essentially a clean break and a swift recovery. Nowadays, not so much. Regardless of whether you actually speak to an ex or not, the temptation to 'check in' on them is always there.