Sad news this week of two City bankers who committed suicide, both in the prime of their lives. We have all visited that dark place where we have contemplated whether life continues to be worth living. Just this week, a friend send me a plaintive message that read something like this: 'life, job, love, all suck'.
It was love. Beautiful but weighted with the knowledge that it wouldn't last forever. It generated desperate need but was fragile and could be choked off by need itself. It was insecure making and led to jealousy because without him, it felt like I would die. It's what Hollywood preached and what Auden captured in heartrending simplicity.
One of the regular themes of divorces which I have handled over the years is communication. Spouses either seem to talk to little or too much and, when they do, they are frequently failing to grasp what the other is really saying.
I wonder sometimes what it would be like living with the Dalai Lama - because, even though he's probably about the most saintly guy on earth, I'll bet he's got some really irritating habits. You know the sort of thing - hogging the TV remote control; stinking out the lavatory and not opening the window; constantly losing his keys.
For the first time ever, a new study has found that marriage is good for a man's bones; it is the first time too that marital histories and marital quality have been linked to bone health.
Affairs get a negative press in Anglo-Saxon countries, where they are discussed in terms of infidelity, adultery, cheating, dishonesty, and betrayal. Four-fifths of people in Britain condemn affairs as always wrong - even though two-thirds do not regard sex as a central part of marriage.
The Marriage Foundation, founded by the High Court Judge Sir Paul Coleridge, has claimed that cohabitation, i.e living together without marrying, is the key driver of family breakdown. The report urged the Government to reverse the trend away from marriage, by "distinguishing, encouraging, promoting and incentivising marriage."
At the age of 26 my wife had walked out the door on our three year marriage. As I sat in our apartment surrounded by the life that we had built together my thoughts turned to a dark bleak future that I did not want to face. In a severe state of depression I turned to google and typed in the search term 'most painless and quickest way to die'.
This may seem a controversial statement to make after the recent newspaper scandals, but when it comes to his marriages and (ultimately) divorces, Rupert Murdoch has definitely learned from his mistakes.
In the past, the statutory child maintenance service has always been free for parents to access. However, parliament is about to debate a series of changes which could actually make it harder for parents to get help with collecting the child maintenance their children are owed.
Fiona Bruce MP recently stated that the breakdown of marriage was a "public health emergency". She couldn't be further from the truth. The real public health emergency in the UK is domestic violence, from which two women die per week. MPs like Bruce should be supporting women for leaving abusive marriages, not judging them.
A faltering sex life, tensions over finances, and different goals in life, tend to be the biggest causes for conflicts with a spouse, but in most cases no one willingly wants to end their marriage, they simply want something extra for themselves, without causing hurt to anyone else.
In the past five years, we've seen an almost 50 per cent rise in the number of cases where one party in the marriage is left claiming they're "picking up the tab" for debts they didn't build up. This can happen for two reasons.
Privacy laws aside, the French love a sex scandal just like the rest of the world. They try to pretend that as a country they tolerate affairs, powerful men are somehow entitled to take lovers and the rest of the world is somewhat immature not to understand. The hypocrisy lies in the fact they seriously believe these relationships have no impact on the ability to do their jobs.
January not only sees the most depressing month of the year because of tighter clothes and maxed credit cards but it also holds the record for most couples filing for divorce. THOUSANDS of warring couples will have made Monday 'Divorce Monday' as their relationships hit the buffers.
Would you want to ensure that if something happens to you there is sufficient financial support in place to support your family? For a minute consider the following: If you were to die who would pay the mortgage? Who would pay the bills? Who would cover the loss of your income?