Emotional Wellness

Read This if You Are Tired of Procrastinating

David Mochel | Posted 04.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
David Mochel

Each time you engage in a habitual behaviour, you are rewarded with a small amount of a brain chemical called dopamine. This chemical produces the internal experience of "this is how it is supposed to be." The more you do something, the more likely it is to become an unconscious habit.

Make a Friend...Any Friend...

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 28.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

I've been thinking about friendship a lot recently. Because friendship is a weird thing in recovery. Any recovery. From anything. Recovery teaches you that you can never assume how a friend will act.

Living With Social Anxiety Disorder (Social Phobia) My Daily Struggles

Olga Levancuka | Posted 28.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Olga Levancuka

Today I am feeling extra brave. More surprised than impressed with my own bravery, I decide to leave the queue and explore the rest of the food stalls. 'Fish and Chips' was the first one on the corner and on my way home.

Chiva Som. Hua Hin, Thailand

The Spa Spy | Posted 27.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
The Spa Spy

Situated on a long beach in Hua Hin district, this holiday resort-come-health spa makes you acknowledge your surroundings, live in the present, slow down and smell the lotus flowers. Be prepared to abandon your mobile, disown your laptop and shun your camera. Even tablets and kindles are kindly forbidden in communal areas, so I had been warned.

Are You Leading (and Living) From the Most Useful Part of Your Brain?

David Mochel | Posted 24.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
David Mochel

The skill of dropping a ruminative cycle about what is wrong and putting attention on what is possible and what works is invaluable in any circumstance. When it comes to taking useful action, you can count on your survival brain to produce convincing reasons to procrastinate.

Reach Your Potential and Be Happy? Be Mindful of These Two Beliefs?

David Mochel | Posted 24.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
David Mochel

Your survival brain is constantly storing patterns of associations so that it doesn't miss something potentially threatening. When it recognises a pattern, then it creates feelings - a combination of sensations and thoughts - to trigger a behaviour that "worked" in the past. This is why you find yourself waiting until you feel like doing something to do it.

Does Psychotherapy Need a Facelift?

Sunita Pattani | Posted 12.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sunita Pattani

I believe it does. I am a Psychotherapist. My aim is to help individuals attain a greater sense of inner peace and I get to glimpse (very personally), into the lives of others on a daily basis. I observe their pain and obstacles, and in many cases during the process of therapy, I also witness the beginnings of a shift in their consciousness.

The Practice of Happiness

David Mochel | Posted 14.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
David Mochel

Stand up straight. Smile. Say hello to strangers. Do something kind. Appreciate experiences, not stuff. Say thank you. Set clear, concrete goals. Pay attention to the small daily pleasures. If this sounds like advice your grandmother might give you -she would be right in line with what scientific research has to say about happiness.

How to Change the World 10 Seconds at a Time - and How Your Brain Tells You Not To

David Mochel | Posted 29.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
David Mochel

There is a survival system in your brain that is designed to see the world through the lens of problems and limitations. It assumes that past behavior has led to survival, so it creates thoughts and sensations to get you to behave as you always have, and it rewards you for doing so.

The Cure for Unhappiness

Maite Baron | Posted 16.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Maite Baron

It shouldn't come as any surprise to learn that children are for the most part pretty happy. After all, they have lots of play time, get everything done for them and don't have to worry about paying the bills.

Loosen the Pulling Power of Food in Your Life

Dr. Bernadette Rock | Posted 16.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Dr. Bernadette Rock

A firm focus on numbers, such as calories, points, the number of pounds you've lost (or gained!), can be quite a narrow view of your progress. A rigid focus on numbers can be very much linked to a diet mentality, where you're either 'good' or 'bad', in control or out of control

A School Intervention Proven to Improve Performance, Intelligence, and Self-control?

David Mochel | Posted 10.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
David Mochel

If you knew of a method to help students improve their grades, their self-discipline, their focus, and their ability to manage stress, would you consider offering it in schools? If the side effects included stronger interpersonal relationships and increased intelligence, would you still consider it?

Why Everyone Will Suffer If We Don't Start Looking at Mental Health Differently

Beth Burgess | Posted 07.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Beth Burgess

It's World Mental Health Day 2014 this Friday, and despite the fact that one in four people will suffer from mental health issues in their lifetime, there still exists a damaging stigma towards having problems located in the mind.

What to Do If a Child Says 'I Want to Kill Myself'

Alexandra Massey | Posted 23.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Alexandra Massey

For any parent, teacher or carer, hearing a child say 'I want to kill myself' is a heart stopping moment. In the following seconds, time either stands still or comes rushing at you like a speed train. It might seem impossible to find the right words.

What Are We Missing?

David Mochel | Posted 21.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
David Mochel

The sentence "how can I help?" never fails to warm my heart, even when it is expressed by people thousands of miles away. What a wonderful reaction to another human being. I love this question because it is an offer that can just be met with gratitude without any obligation.

Screw Positive Thinking

Asha Patel | Posted 15.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Asha Patel

This is a call for authentic listening. Instead of verbalising that emotion, be quiet. Listen to it. See what fears and foes lurk beneath what you're feeling. It's about listening to oneself and one's own emotional state and then being wholly responsible for it.

Na-Nu Na-Nu

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 12.10.2014 | UK
Zoe Clark-Coates

What a tragic loss to the world of comedy. Without writing any more words you know who I am speaking of....the legend that is Robin Williams.

Why Mindfulness Is Just the Beginning

David Mochel | Posted 10.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
David Mochel

Knowing the benefits of exercise is not the same as going for a run, and thinking about mindfulness is not the same as practicing mindfulness. Several years ago, while getting ready to brush my teeth, I was thinking about presenting mindfulness to a group I was going to see later in the day.

Why Do We Lay Awake at Night Dreaming of a Better Life?

Benjamin Bonetti | Posted 10.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Benjamin Bonetti

The emotions of want are heavily related to the emotions of connection, the more we are able to connect with others the less likely we are going to stand out and be alone - sadly this fake reality is something most will live up to, often failing to live life by their own consciously aware path, but more-so to comply with another's ideal of how life should be designed and lived.

How Wonder Can Save Your Life

David Mochel | Posted 03.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
David Mochel

Wonder, a combination of curiosity and appreciation, is a powerful experience that is good for your physical and psychological health as well as your relationships, creativity, and work performance... Not only is wonder good for you, it could actually save your life.

Is There a Weekend Anymore and What the Hell Can I Do to Switch Off?

Mark McCulloch | Posted 01.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Mark McCulloch

Like most of you reading, this I am on the professional treadmill of getting around four hours real sleep a night whilst juggling your iphone, kids and personal lives with any of the proverbial plates crashing at any possible moment.

Goodbye Life, Hello Child: Why It Took Me Time to Love My Son

Caroline Keetch | Posted 24.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Caroline Keetch

This loss of everything I took for granted in my adult life was much more overwhelming to me than the love I felt for my baby. I know, I said it, shoot me world - and what a world we live in when it comes to 'views' on mothers. How we should feel, how we should look, how we should react... the expectations are real and they are fired at a new mother like arrows from a bow.

How to Sleep Well

Rachel Kelly | Posted 22.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Rachel Kelly

Our bodies are cleverer than our minds. When we are truly tired, we will fall asleep. Sleeping is a natural action. You don't have to do anything to get to sleep. It is not humanly possible to stay awake forever. The one topic that mustn't be on one's list of worries is sleep itself. That is what can stop you from sleeping and make you ill, both physically and psychologically.

Why My Trauma Is Relevant

Emma Letessier | Posted 21.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Emma Letessier

During the really rough period of my marriage, where we separated for around three months, there was someone I knew that was receiving treatment for cancer. While talking to a friend one day, she asked me how I was and I told her something along the lines of "I'm fine".

Memories of My Mother

Caroline Keetch | Posted 17.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Caroline Keetch

Thirteen years ago today my mum died. It all feels like a lifetime ago, and actually I can't really remember what life looked and felt like with her in it. I wish I had been given the chance to get to know her, to appreciate her and, of course, I would do anything to thank her for all the things I can now see she did for me and my sister, and all the little ways in which she showed us that she loved us.