At some time or another we've all experienced our share of emotional hurt. And often when we're hurt, we dump our feelings on others or speak harshly. But this doesn't always work. Getting stuck with the hurt and moping around feeling sorry for ourselves also doesn't work. Suppressing hurt also doesn't work. Why?
What you wear affects you psychologically. It can profoundly alter your mood. It also influences how others respond to you. And the visual illusion created by cut and fabric dramatically changes the appearance of your body. Your clothes can affect your job prospects, your love life and even your self-image.
Foxes are cute, fox cubs particularly cute, it's understandable that they get a lot of attention and attract compassion. But that compassion should be encouraged for all of our natural world, and all of our human world. The potential is there in all of us, but at the moment our political rhetoric and policies are all discouraging, repressing that.
That feeling of fear. What is it? Describe it? When I ask this of myself and others, the replies are the thoughts people have about fear and not a description of the "feeling" of fear. That is not unexpected, after all it is the left brain's, rational/analytical job to put into words feelings that arise from somewhere in our bodies, the subconscious.
For robots to make highly specialized tasks, sometimes it is needed to embed affective behaviour that have not been associated traditionally with intelligence. Indeed, emotions play a critical role in human's way of reasoning and its decision-making activities. In other words, emotions have a critical impact over intelligence.
For me, right now, it is walking in my beloved Brockwell Park in Brixton. As a psychotherapist, I tell my clients that happiness is the purpose of life. But it is not possible - or helpful - to be happy all the time. For balance, we need to experience a range of emotions (including difficult ones that popular culture seems so adverse to).
In a way I do envy those that are childless and about to embark on a relationship that will see them marry and have kids as the years progress. Single parents like us do the best they can for ourselves and for our kids - but the best time to get it right is before you've got it wrong, but some people need to get it wrong before they are ready to get it right!
I had always expected I would have kids. As a child you dress dollies and give them names. Mine were two girls, just like my sister and I. Charlotte and Helena. Then you start dating boyfriends and imagine what your children would look like. Then life happens. Career, divorce, loss of a parent, sadness.
Many people experience feelings of sadness, depression and lethargy once the winter months kick in, often due to the change in weather, the shorter days and long periods of being cooped up indoors. If the winter blues are starting to set in, check out these 10 ways to boost your happiness this winter.