Guilt

Living With Postnatal Depression

Sarah Caldwell | Posted 15.05.2017 | UK Parents
Sarah Caldwell

Nearly nine years ago I was induced and gave birth to my son. Then he turned three. That's all I remember. I missed three years. I remember parts, but I couldn't tell you what his first words were, when he first rolled over, what his favourite food was, or what we did together.

Guilt And The Pet Owner

Susan Leigh | Posted 13.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Susan Leigh

Here I am again, once more in the terrible situation of having to decide whether or not to euthanize one of my beloved animals. This time it's one of my cats. He was born on my porch, his little feral mother having decided that I looked like I'd provide them with a suitable home.

I Feel Guilty For Feeding My Baby Formula... But Not For The Reason You Think

Madeleine Morris | Posted 20.03.2017 | UK Parents
Madeleine Morris

The guilt started on day four.  Weeping, a heart that literally hurt with pain.  As I put the bottle of formula to my beautiful new baby's lips I felt overcome with regret.  But not for the reason you think.

Do You Suffer From 'Mum Guilt'?

Roxanne Louise | Posted 30.01.2017 | UK Parents
Roxanne Louise

I believe as parents we are programmed to feel more guilt towards our children, it's important so we can love and raise our precious creations well. So, although it can be positive, the 'mum guilt' I have experienced in the past and still sometimes do now is RIDICULOUS.

"Some People Would Give Anything To Be Pregnant"

Maddy Matthews | Posted 24.11.2016 | UK Parents
Maddy Matthews

This probably seems more like a rant than a reasonable, balanced blog post. I've tried to keep it from becoming a stream of consciousness, but it's hard when you're angry. Three years ago, having people tell me how lucky I am was probably the least useful piece of advice I ever received.

Dear First-Time Mum Me,

Deborah Pryn | Posted 18.11.2016 | UK Parents
Deborah Pryn

My second baby reaches the 8-week mark this week and I can't believe how much faster it's gone this time round. Although I feel a bit guilty saying this, I'm enjoying having a baby so much more this time round.

I'm Not The Mother I Want To Be, But I Am The One My Children Need

Lucy Wigley | Posted 14.11.2016 | UK Parents
Lucy Wigley

I had gotten to the point where the only days I enjoyed, were the days my children were at nursery. On those days, I'd feel a prickle of dread about having to go and collect them at the end of the day. I'd scramble around on the other days in between, desperately trying to get my mum, my brother, my dad, anyone, to come over, so that I didn't have to be alone with them.

The Rise Of The "Guilty" Parent And How To Grow Your Confidence And Trust Yourself More

Dalice Kennedy | Posted 08.11.2016 | UK Parents
Dalice Kennedy

Often we undervalue the power of listening to our intuition, but being in tune with your intuition and being able to listen to what isn't being said (also known as the song behind the words) is in fact very powerful and important in feeling confident in our parenting choices.

Coping With Tears At Nursery Drop Off

Jaki Jelley | Posted 04.11.2016 | UK Parents
Jaki Jelley

Needless to say, Tuesday and Thursday mornings are fast becoming my least favourite times of the week. I wake up anxious and I know that in turn, that probably makes him anxious, but I'm not a robot and I can't switch off my emotions. It's something we will just have to get through together.

Ditch The Guilt

Natalie Savvides | Posted 04.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Natalie Savvides

Yes it's great to have goals, aspirations, aims, to want be the best version of ourselves and even to keep improving but we have to cut ourselves some slack too. There has to be an off switch, moments where the 'conscience police' are off duty.

We Must Keep Talking About Breastfeeding Until We Get The Investment New Mothers Deserve

Amy Brown | Posted 02.11.2016 | UK Parents
Amy Brown

Breastfeeding is sold to pregnant women as straightforward, easy and rewarding but many do not find that description matches their experience. But the reason for this difficulty should rarely be to do with breastfeeding itself, but instead because society in the UK is not set up to support women to breastfeed

The Big Issue - Hard Sell

Lisa Ives | Posted 26.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Lisa Ives

For a couple of months now there has been a young woman selling the Big Issue magazine outside my local supermarket. Small shop on the High Street, you know the kind of thing. During these months my feelings towards her have spun out of control, from rational to downright, certifiably crazy. And I ask myself why?

How Do We Live With The Guilt?

Sarah Pool | Posted 20.09.2016 | UK Parents
Sarah Pool

We all know that being a parent comes with a mahoussive load of guilt. I remember being sat in my Ante Natal Class, pregnant with my first child and being told that when we bring our babies home we also bring home a big ol' bag of guilt.

How to Be a 'Good Enough' Parent

Ursula Brunetti | Posted 27.07.2016 | UK Parents
Ursula Brunetti

We all worry about whether or not we're a good parent. You only have to go onto instagram to see the hoards of inspirational quotes proclaiming 'you're good enough', to realise we're a little bit obsessed. Are we doing enough? Are we giving them enough?

The Day I Stopped Feeling Guilty and Everybody Won

Katie Gregory | Posted 25.06.2017 | UK Parents
Katie Gregory

This week, please, try it for yourself. Because if there's one thing I figured out last Friday, it's this: guilt doesn't change the end result one bit. It just makes the process of getting there a whole lot harder.

Guilt When You're a Special Needs Parent

Laura Rutherford | Posted 07.06.2017 | UK Parents
Laura Rutherford

Being a parent isn't easy for anyone. Being a parent in our world - where you battle your way through some days (most likely sleep deprived), watching the most precious person go through some things that no child should go through - is bloody tough.

31 Ways to Say No

Karen Pine | Posted 02.03.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Karen Pine

Becoming a people-pleaser may keep the peace - even win you friends - but is the personal cost really worth it? Often resentment, dissatisfaction and loss of self-esteem are the result of not being able to say No.

Working Mum or Stay at Home Mum?

Louise Gillett | Posted 27.01.2017 | UK Parents
Louise Gillett

I do usually manage to fit in some writing during the day but it is sometimes hard to find the motivation as well as the time. So by last weekend, after a whole week of not writing, it was tempting to think that perhaps I should find a job and contribute to the family in a more measurable way - i.e. financially.

To the Mama of a Highly Functioning Autistic Child

Reneé Davis | Posted 25.10.2016 | UK Parents
Reneé Davis

Sometimes you feel like a fraud, because your autistic child is high functioning, and you question whether you even have the right to complain when other families have it so much worse.

Mummy Guilt, Schmummy Guilt

Emma Porcelli | Posted 28.09.2016 | UK Parents
Emma Porcelli

We choose to go to work to earn money for them, to give them more. For them to have more hobbies, a bigger house, more holidays in a year. If you look at what you do, ask yourself, "Is this for my child?" I bet most of the time it is. I hear people all the time feeling bad they miss children's assemblies, but it is because you are working for them.

10 Things You Need to Know Before You Feel Threatened By Your Partner Masturbating

Suzi Godson | Posted 15.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Suzi Godson

Couples rarely talk about private masturbation, but not talking about it doesn't mean its not happening. Most people do not stop masturbating when they're in a sexually satisfying relationship.

Five Guilt Trips to Expect on Becoming a Mother

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 16.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

You might already feel guilty just for getting pregnant if you're not married and you've been brought up by that type of family. Or for ditching your work without an adequate handover when you bugger off for maternity leave (because who cares when your pelvis is falling apart and you can't pull your pants up properly).

Grieving From a Distance: Another Perspective

Sonja Lewis | Posted 22.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sonja Lewis

Expat-living raises many questions... coping with loss from a distance is one of the most challenging aspects of expat-living.

Feeling like a Shit Mum? Welcome to the World of Mummy Guilt!

Olivia Siegl | Posted 25.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Olivia Siegl

We spend nine months trying to live like organic angels verging on born again virgins, doing everything we can to grow a healthy little human. Buying into every miracle cream, vitamin and birthing class and book going. What keeps us committed through all the dry parties, the charcoaled steaks and inedible non runny eggs?

Guilt Is Part Of The Job

Sheila Bayliss | Posted 14.07.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sheila Bayliss

I haven't eradicated anxiety - and I still overreact to things sometimes. But instead of feeling guilty, I try to feel proud of myself. I share mindfulness with my son, so hopefully he'll be better equipped than I was as a child.