A heatwave had descended on Portland and the irony that I left NYC to escape its steaming sidewalks did not elude me. But here we were with a real bed to sleep in, a kitchen in which to cook our 89 cent broccoli rice and a shower heaving under the weight of copious bottles of shampoo and conditioner..score!
Yes it may look a bit messy when you pop round for a cuppa but that isn't because I have sat on my backside watching day time tv all day. It is because I have spent time playing with my kids, helping them with their homework, or preparing a family meal for us all to sit round the table and eat later.
Housework is one of those necessary evils. It has to be done even if the amount is negotiable. So negotiate about it. Argue about it. Decide on what you are and are not willing to put up with, for your sake and for the sake of the relationship. It should be the level you can take without resentment.
Headline news this week: in relationships where men do more housework, couples tend to have less sex. That was the groundbreaking insight from experts at the University of Washington, and later published in the American Sociological Review. Having spent three years nursing large volumes of Shakespeare (and the odd hangover) around my university, coming out at the end with essentially a degree in reading, it's always interesting to read what spurious statistics come out of the 'serious' part of college campuses.
It may seem that I am stating the obvious here, but judging by things I've heard recently a reminder may be in order.
Whether it's Chris Evans saying that women are much better at making beds than men or a woman's voice suddenly rising above the murmur on the bus, saying "well duuuh, all women love shoes", everyone seems to have an opinion on what women are like.