In a city where people are seemingly becoming busier and busier by the minute, do you ever wonder how others around you are managing work and life? Are you rushed in to making decisions on the spot, unable to focus or have a huge mental block that is stopping you from progressing? If so, then read on.
I used to genuinely believe that being happy came from having money, being slim, being in love, but I found out that was SO not the case. Happy people are not always free of doubt, on the contrary, as they do not claim to be perfect, but here's the thing they have a different mindset to other people.
Today is the International Day of Happiness, a day set aside by the UN to recognise that the "happiness and well-being of all peoples" is a fundamental goal of development. This year, as it falls on a workday, it begs the question of whether happiness and well-being are issues that organizations should take seriously.
Our lifestyles often mean we have no reserves of energy to draw on if something happens and we find ourselves in crises. Many of us work flat out for years without taking a break. Our bodies are used to short bouts of effort and stress, but we are simply not designed for it to go on for years. We have to find what makes us happy and add it into our lives now for optimum health.
Albertina- this gentle pensioner had recently lost two grandchildren- one in a road accident and the other from a heart attack. She had just returned from comforting her daughter who is 'coping' with the loss of her two children. Albertina is teaching herself French to take her mind off her lost grand kids...
When I talk about effortlessness, I am really using it to describe FLOW. Have you been in situations where your life has felt in flow? Where you have wanted to create something for yourself and suddenly it shows up? Or you ask a question and its answered in an unexpected form? As a person or as a conversation?
You never step back and take a look inside yourself and ponder your shortcomings, instead you minimise, alter or deny them. You are not vigorously honest with yourself. You never pause and observe your behaviour without judgement. You are too busy taking everyone else's inventory, yet not willing to take your own.
I was sitting in a coffee shop last week with another coach and we were discussing the fact that we both come across many people who settle for a life and lifestyle that they are in fact not at all happy with. You deserve to do more than settle for the life you chose all those years ago if it's not what you love now.
My 12-step manifesto for a happier world calls for change not just from our leaders but from all of us. I'm not pretending these are simple changes or can happen overnight. But if we were to put these ideas into practice I'm certain we could create a society which is not only happier, but also more productive, caring, fair, responsible and sustainable.