As my youngest daughter approaches her eighth week on this earth and I feel as if the waves of hormonal emotions are levelling out, I've been enjoying taking the time to reflect on all that Aluna Grace's birth brought earth-side. It's really quite amazing when I think about it....Ooh, there go the tear ducts...again....
he number of women whose husbands essentially control the purse strings and need for those women to make the case for superior healthcare who are unsuccessful. It's not just about having the disposable income, but also having to justify why you should want or why you need this type of care when it's available for free.
Many people told me their horror stories of birth. Many people rolled their eyes or laughed at me when I said I wanted a homebirth for my first baby. Many people told me I was being naieve or foolish. And many people close to me thought I wouldn't be able to do it: that I wouldn't stay at home the whole time, not for my first baby, or that I wouldn't cope without strong pain relief.
In my role as fully paid-up member of the smug set, I like to empower parents and share information and strategies that they can use to make decisions that feel right for them at the time. I don't believe that having a good birth is the luck of the draw, but nor do I believe that your baby's mode of exit is really cause for smugness of any kind.
Fear can hold us back in all aspects of our lives and childbirth is no different. If you expect a difficult birth, you're much more likely to get one. If you are positive and have the right tools to help you cope, you're much more likely to have a good experience. In a nutshell, that's what hypnobirthing is all about.
Conversations I have had in the past about the difference between relaxation, self-hypnosis and meditation have always been slightly perplexing. As the universal benefits of all three: reduction in stress, anxiety and low blood pressure were all cited as the reasons pregnant women should choose one discipline over another.
When talking with other birth professionals about how they can grow their business', I frequently notice the passion poured into their work, far outweighs the profits taken out. Alongside how common the same self-limiting beliefs prevent amazing women (I tend to work with women) from stepping up to be viewed as the valuable specialists they are.
One of the biggest misconceptions about hypnobirthing is that, it's all about having babies. Women have heard that if you do everything your teacher tells you to do, you will have a quick, straight forward, pain free, vaginal birth. Now, there's no easy way to say this...but that's all pretty much a nonsense.
Being 'baby ready' is so much more than purchases and the inevitable pushing. You can make heartfelt attempts to sort your self out. You can do a whole lot of growing up. You can deal with your inner issues, your angers, your resentments, your bitterness, your issues with your parents, your addictions etc