The most important thing I want to teach you is that you don't have to write long essays to get a reply. You'll be contacting lots of people every day, so sending long messages can really zap your energy and motivation. If they are popular they won't have time to read everything anyway, so short messages will get their attention.
The day has finally arrived, where we can all openly admit that we're active Internet daters and not be embarrassed about it. I myself first started doing it when it was desperately uncool - in the days when it was just for people who wore ill-fitting jeans and national health glasses without any sense of irony. I was one of those people, but at least I had the decency to have lenses in my glasses.
The key to a successful date is simple, expect nothing, and you wont be disappointed. I'm all for a short conversation pre-date, but email tennis for 3 week prior? Endless whatsapping and texts to and fro? Forget it. The only way to know you're on to a winner is to meet. Chemistry cannot be photographed, written or whatsapped it can only be felt.
It seems like online dating has its own set of rules, some of them more obscure than you might think. For example, apparently you are likely to get more hits if you wear red in your profile picture. Also, and this is not research, just anecdotal, you are less likely to get hits if your profile pic is a selfie (no friends).
Call me a Luddite but I remember the good old days. When you fancied someone and wanted to 'go out' with him or her you'd have to actually ask him or her out. i.e. pluck up the courage to talk to them in person. Yes, actually ask them verbally. This often meant you would soon have to meet their parents, or perhaps worse, their brothers and sisters. But things have changed.
When people find out I work for an international online dating site, one of the most common things I hear is, "online dating doesn't work!" Then they go into some story about how either they or someone they know used to have a profile online but never met anyone they liked. Here are three reasons why online dating isn't working for you and what to do differently.