Life After Divorce

Spring Clean Your Ex Out of Your Life

Sara Davison | Posted 24.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Many of us get stuck in a rut after a break-up and find it hard to move forward. It can be hard to get over someone when they are constantly in your thoughts. Confidence and self-esteem always take a hit when it's not your choice to end the relationship and hiding away can be a good way of avoiding having to face up to this.

Ex-wife Wins Right to Claim Against Her Wealthy Ex-Husband 23 Years Later

Sara Davison | Posted 13.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Is it fair? Well yes if they did not finalise their financial arrangements at the time of the divorce they have left themselves open to future debate. It is a clear warning to those getting divorced now and in the future to firmly bolt the financial gate behind them.

Get a Job Ruling

Sara Davison | Posted 27.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

A Judge has recently ruled in the case of Tracey Wright that she should go out and get herself a job rather than rely on her ex-husband to provide maintenance for her to live on. This has caused huge ripples as there is now expected to be a huge rush to the courts to renegotiate divorce settlements.

Time to Tell the Kids That You Are Getting Divorced

Sara Davison | Posted 03.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Telling the children is the part that many parents fear the most. The last thing that they want to do is hurt their children and it's a really difficult conversation to have as the consequences are life changing for the whole family. However there are some guidelines that will make it a little easier if you follow them.

Is Divorce a Career Killer for Mums?

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 03.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

I had two children and no family around to help. I had to drop out of courses during divorce number one and had to quit one full-time job during divorce number two and opt for a part-time position that was paying me not only a fraction of my previous salary but that was also mind-numbingly dull.

The Breakup Survival Guide (That Doesn't Include Positive Thinking)

Karen Young | Posted 29.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Karen Young

Being with friends and family feeds the primal human need for connection and boosts oxytocin (the happy hormone). Before they leave they'll stack the dishwasher and tell you about the salsa dancing classes they've organised for both of you. Don't argue. Just go.

Have I Made a Mistake Choosing Divorce?

Sara Davison | Posted 28.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

After the initial January fresh start, how many people who are now in the process of divorce actually start thinking, have I made a mistake? Is it really worth it? How do I stay focused not he future? Will I ever move on?

January Break-Ups: How to Cope With the Early Stages of a Break-Up or Divorce

Sara Davison | Posted 11.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

There are numerous research studies out this month that show that January is the boom month for relationship break-ups. Apparently if you are married there is a one in five chance that you have considered breaking up this month.

When Divorce Happens

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 10.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Having been through the process twice, I know that these next few weeks or months will be, very likely, shrouded in anger and hurt, and accompanied by a seemingly bottomless bucket of resentment.

Should I Get Back With My Ex For Christmas ?

Sara Davison | Posted 15.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Christmas is traditionally a time for families to be together. This can heighten emotions, especially loneliness if you are single as the focus is on happy families at this time of year. It can really highlight the fact that you don't have that special someone to share it with and that can be hard to deal with.

Christmas Without the Children

Sara Davison | Posted 02.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

"It's my exes turn to have the children for Christmas this year and it's all I can think about. It makes me so sad to think that I won't share Christmas Day with my kids, they are what Christmas is all about. What can I do?"

The Stigma of Divorce

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 17.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

I don't know why this is. I don't know why divorce still ends up defining who you are while in reality it's a journey, an experience you have been through - it's not you, it's something that happened. Just like being laid off is something that you once went through at some point in your life.

Divorce, Perception and Reality

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 16.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

When Princess Diana was going through her divorce and her settlement was made public (I believe it was in the millions of pounds) there was a radio discussion going on and people where calling into lamenting that the settlement was too much and saying that she needs to get a grip on reality.

Keep Going

Trevor Silvester | Posted 18.08.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Trevor Silvester

I press play on the CD player and the opening bars of Madonna's 'Holiday' suddenly filled the car. Instantly my two sons, Mark, 7, and Stuart, 5 burst into excited song. I sing along too. It's 1991, we're on our way to Majorca, and I've never felt so lost and alone.

Create a Divorce Retreat in the Comfort of Your Own Home

Liz Copeland | Posted 22.07.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Liz Copeland

If you are in the middle of divorce, you can get pretty low. Let's face it, the whole divorce process is exhausting, there is so much new info to take on board, with advice from your lawyer, financial advisor, friends and colleagues. Plus you are carving a new pathway for yourself and your family and learning to live a new life.

"Single Mum's Survival Guide" - Would It Have Helped Me?

Suzy Miller | Posted 25.05.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Suzy Miller

I remember my hands shaking at the greengrocers and time seeming to move more slowly than seemed naturally possible. It was much later that I started using writing as a way to get a different perspective on what had happened to me.

Divorce Recovery Time and Why You Can't Cheat the Clock

Maria Chiorando | Posted 12.03.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Maria Chiorando

The worst thing is the backsliding. It happens, and you just have to accept it. This is apparently one of the things that hits a lot of people the hardest: you're chugging along doing fine, and then it kicks you in the guts, as visceral as it is emotional. It's a cruel intrusion into your belief that you were doing well, and stirs up all kind of worries...

Divorce Day in the UK

Katie Hopkins | Posted 04.03.2014 | UK Entertainment
Katie Hopkins

Friday is D-Day; the day where most marriages hit the rocks and the process of salvaging the wreckage begins. One of the most profitable times of year for solicitor firms specialising in divorce is also one of the most lucrative for a range of firms that make their money from separation..

How to Improve Your Life Pre and Post Divorce

Maggie Currie | Posted 27.02.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Maggie Currie

I found the fear of making mistakes to be so overwhelming, and I thought that those mistakes were going to affect me for evermore. That was very scary. I found the way to stop it being so overwhelming was to get professional help.

Divorce: Remember the Kids

Tom Rokins | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Tom Rokins

You're divorcing your spouse, not divorcing your kids. Separation is hard to swallow for children that have a loving relationship with both parents, and usually, a divorce leaves emotional damage behind. You may be eager to move on, but for your children, it's important that divorce is handled delicately and with them in mind - stability is crucial.

Divorce Revenge - Does It Work?

Liz Copeland | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Liz Copeland

Revenge in divorce is always an interesting topic. It provides some of the most entertaining, and extreme, stories around divorce.

What Not To Say To Someone Who Is Remarrying

The Huffington Post UK | Posted 18.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle

When a friend or family member is getting divorced, it's far easier to chat about that than the minefield of remarrying and second weddings. It tu...

Why Divorce Could Be The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You

Liz Copeland | Posted 29.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Liz Copeland

This grieving stage at the end of a relationship is very common and it is the pits. You are, of course, going through a transformative process and you will be substantially changed at the end of it. Older - a bit, wiser - a lot, poorer financially - most likely. But how will you feel?

How To Cope With Life After Divorce: 15 Common Misconceptions

The Huffington Post UK | Posted 07.08.2013 | UK Lifestyle

Marriages come and go, but divorce is forever - at least that's the message from HuffPost Divorce, our colleagues across the pond, and we're inclined ...

"Lives are Full of Accidents Mama."

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 03.08.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

My daughter finished by saying something that we could all apply to our own lives including in divorce and separation situations and experiences. She said, "Lives are full of accidents Mama and we need to learn from them. It would be really boring if everything was perfect and we had ice cream everyday."