Life After Divorce

Divorce: Whose Problem Is It?

Emily Beatrice Morris | Posted 08.09.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Emily Beatrice Morris

The enormity of divorce scares me to the core every time. Every time I meet someone who is lonely after divorce, or speaks about the effects of divorce or even see it on a soap opera, the challenges divorce presents shocks every time.

Don't Give Up on Love!

Jolene Setterfield | Posted 14.08.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jolene Setterfield

Don't ever give up on love. One thing I believe to be true is that, life is ALWAYS conspiring on our behalf, and I have absolutely no regrets in any of it, no matter how hard it got (and boy did it get hard!!). Keep the faith, keep looking ahead and allow your heart to soften, and your dreams to blossom. Don't let life toughen you too much, often when there is a heartbreak it can be a blessing in disguise to allow an even better match in to your life.

What Lies Behind TV's 'Mr v Mrs: Call The Mediator'

Jane Robey | Posted 28.06.2016 | UK Parents
Jane Robey

Millions of TV viewers are currently seeing a glimpse of a hidden, private side of divorce, as BBC Two's 'Mr v Mrs: Call The Mediator' lifts the lid on separated couples trying to sort future arrangements.

Mediation or Solicitors? Which Is the Best for a Fast, Cost-Effective Divorce?

Mary Banham-Hall | Posted 23.06.2016 | UK
Mary Banham-Hall

If you are thinking about a divorce, your head will be full of worries about the future. Will you be able to afford two households? Who gets what? And how on earth do you "share the children"? The last thing you want is uncertainty about the divorce procedure. Do you instruct a solicitor or do you come to a mediator? Here is a brief overview of the best possible use of both since the two approaches complement each other.

Divorce With Dignity: Don't Throw Daggers

Adele McCormack | Posted 27.04.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Adele McCormack

The hardest part of letting go of a relationship is actually accepting that you had a part to play in the demise of it. This may seem like a really difficult thing to do if you are in the early stages of a break up but it will be the most freeing thing you will do to move on.

Lessons Learnt From Divorce

Emily Beatrice Morris | Posted 19.01.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Emily Beatrice Morris

9th April 2012 was the day my parents decided to separate. The date of their separation will always stay with me as my life rapidly changed after. Decisions such as 'What shall we have for dinner tonight?' suddenly changed to decisions concerning whether me and my sisters will still be able to live together...

How to Let Go of Your Ex After a Break-Up

Sara Davison | Posted 07.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

She was completely overwhelmed with sadness and an acute sense of loss. She had a high flying career and was angry at herself for falling apart yet she had no control over the crying or the obsessing over what she might have done wrong.

Soul Groups and the Psychologist

Jacqueline Koay | Posted 22.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Jacqueline Koay

A soul group is simply a collection of people who gravitate and travel through life - or part of life - together. They could be from completely different histories, social backgrounds, age groups and interests, who happen to meet under the most extraordinary or the most nondescript circumstances.

Bumping Into Your Ex!

Sara Davison | Posted 24.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

The reality is that life goes on and if your ex chose to end your relationship then they are not the person you hoped they were. It's better to find out now rather than later. Sometimes good things come to an end so better things can come together so it's not all doom and gloom.

It May Come as a Big Surprise to Discover That You Are a Better Parent Post-Divorce

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 01.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Single parenting brings a flexibility which allows going to the cinema on the spur of the moment or indulging in an impromptu picnic. I do not have to check with the other parent or plan events far in advance.

September Is Boom Time for Divorce

Sara Davison | Posted 27.09.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Families with kids will have their term time routine thrown into chaos as the children are off school for 6-8 weeks at a time. Partners often have different expectations of holiday time. I often hear that mum's need a break from the children and Dad's need a break from work. So arguments arise when nobody wants to do the mundane housework or entertain the kids all day long.

Heal Your Broken Heart

Sara Davison | Posted 08.06.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

It's important not to "stuff down" negative emotions and to face then head on. The more we face our fears the faster they will dissipate and the quicker we can be free from them. It's not always easy to do but there is a lot of help available these days to help us through these times.

Spring Clean Your Ex Out of Your Life

Sara Davison | Posted 23.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Many of us get stuck in a rut after a break-up and find it hard to move forward. It can be hard to get over someone when they are constantly in your thoughts. Confidence and self-esteem always take a hit when it's not your choice to end the relationship and hiding away can be a good way of avoiding having to face up to this.

Ex-wife Wins Right to Claim Against Her Wealthy Ex-Husband 23 Years Later

Sara Davison | Posted 12.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Is it fair? Well yes if they did not finalise their financial arrangements at the time of the divorce they have left themselves open to future debate. It is a clear warning to those getting divorced now and in the future to firmly bolt the financial gate behind them.

Get a Job Ruling

Sara Davison | Posted 29.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

A Judge has recently ruled in the case of Tracey Wright that she should go out and get herself a job rather than rely on her ex-husband to provide maintenance for her to live on. This has caused huge ripples as there is now expected to be a huge rush to the courts to renegotiate divorce settlements.

Time to Tell the Kids That You Are Getting Divorced

Sara Davison | Posted 04.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Telling the children is the part that many parents fear the most. The last thing that they want to do is hurt their children and it's a really difficult conversation to have as the consequences are life changing for the whole family. However there are some guidelines that will make it a little easier if you follow them.

Is Divorce a Career Killer for Mums?

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 04.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

I had two children and no family around to help. I had to drop out of courses during divorce number one and had to quit one full-time job during divorce number two and opt for a part-time position that was paying me not only a fraction of my previous salary but that was also mind-numbingly dull.

The Breakup Survival Guide (That Doesn't Include Positive Thinking)

Karen Young | Posted 29.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Karen Young

Being with friends and family feeds the primal human need for connection and boosts oxytocin (the happy hormone). Before they leave they'll stack the dishwasher and tell you about the salsa dancing classes they've organised for both of you. Don't argue. Just go.

Have I Made a Mistake Choosing Divorce?

Sara Davison | Posted 28.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

After the initial January fresh start, how many people who are now in the process of divorce actually start thinking, have I made a mistake? Is it really worth it? How do I stay focused not he future? Will I ever move on?

January Break-Ups: How to Cope With the Early Stages of a Break-Up or Divorce

Sara Davison | Posted 11.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

There are numerous research studies out this month that show that January is the boom month for relationship break-ups. Apparently if you are married there is a one in five chance that you have considered breaking up this month.

When Divorce Happens

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 10.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Having been through the process twice, I know that these next few weeks or months will be, very likely, shrouded in anger and hurt, and accompanied by a seemingly bottomless bucket of resentment.

Should I Get Back With My Ex For Christmas ?

Sara Davison | Posted 15.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Christmas is traditionally a time for families to be together. This can heighten emotions, especially loneliness if you are single as the focus is on happy families at this time of year. It can really highlight the fact that you don't have that special someone to share it with and that can be hard to deal with.

Christmas Without the Children

Sara Davison | Posted 02.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

"It's my exes turn to have the children for Christmas this year and it's all I can think about. It makes me so sad to think that I won't share Christmas Day with my kids, they are what Christmas is all about. What can I do?"

The Stigma of Divorce

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 17.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

I don't know why this is. I don't know why divorce still ends up defining who you are while in reality it's a journey, an experience you have been through - it's not you, it's something that happened. Just like being laid off is something that you once went through at some point in your life.

Divorce, Perception and Reality

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 16.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

When Princess Diana was going through her divorce and her settlement was made public (I believe it was in the millions of pounds) there was a radio discussion going on and people where calling into lamenting that the settlement was too much and saying that she needs to get a grip on reality.