Christmas is traditionally a time for families to be together. This can heighten emotions, especially loneliness if you are single as the focus is on happy families at this time of year. It can really highlight the fact that you don't have that special someone to share it with and that can be hard to deal with.
If you are in the middle of divorce, you can get pretty low. Let's face it, the whole divorce process is exhausting, there is so much new info to take on board, with advice from your lawyer, financial advisor, friends and colleagues. Plus you are carving a new pathway for yourself and your family and learning to live a new life.
The worst thing is the backsliding. It happens, and you just have to accept it. This is apparently one of the things that hits a lot of people the hardest: you're chugging along doing fine, and then it kicks you in the guts, as visceral as it is emotional. It's a cruel intrusion into your belief that you were doing well, and stirs up all kind of worries...
You're divorcing your spouse, not divorcing your kids. Separation is hard to swallow for children that have a loving relationship with both parents, and usually, a divorce leaves emotional damage behind. You may be eager to move on, but for your children, it's important that divorce is handled delicately and with them in mind - stability is crucial.
My daughter finished by saying something that we could all apply to our own lives including in divorce and separation situations and experiences. She said, "Lives are full of accidents Mama and we need to learn from them. It would be really boring if everything was perfect and we had ice cream everyday."
Innovative law firms like Family Law In Partnership who focus on non-adversarial routes such as mediation and collaborative law, are putting packages together for clients offering parenting and wellbeing support as they recognise the huge role that such support can play in increasing the success of alternative dispute resolution.