Dad's world was simpler than mine. Those he considered cowards were bullies and wife beaters. His idiots were layabouts, the intentionally uneducated and the spineless. My cowards are racists and homophobes. My idiots are the intolerant and the close-minded. People too scared to even try and understand anything that makes them look at their own lives.
If I am a 'Man' - let alone a HuffPost Man - why do I spend my time playing with toys for a living? Why are two of the three tabs on my browser open to Lego.com? Why do I so enjoy watching cartoons featuring comical dogs and signing up for pointless feats of strength? And why am I holding, as I write this blog, a lime-green NERF SlingFire Anti-Zombie shotgun - in the office?
The recent furore over the 'comedy' that Dapper Laughs has been seen to promote is something that's got me thinking. I'm 27 and the idea of this "lad culture" being so popular is terrifying. Teenage boys are already little shits (I know, I was one) they don't need any more ammo to act any worse than they already do.
The controversial video aims to encourage men with eating disorders to seek help by showing a young man vomiting up his testicles in a pub. We believe that the campaign is misguided, inept, and offensive.
I get family loyalty but don't pretend someone is infallible when they are not. Owning your mistakes is one of the most powerful things you can do in life. He cheated; she left. Action, reaction. It's the past but before you move on, learn from it.
The landscape for today's man is one apparently in a shift from 'metrosexual' to 'spornosexual' while at the same time being a feminist and managing the anxieties and stresses that modern life brings. Or as one of our readers succinctly put it: "A balancing act that very few achieve." So here' a (firmly tongue-in-cheek) look at where HuffPost Men stands in the market of men's mags.
Simons is also the man who named the iconic Harrington jacket. Originally known as the G9 jacket as sold by the Baracuta brand, John sold it in his shop as the 'Harrington' after Rodney Harrington, the character played by Ryan O'Neal in the TV soap opera Peyton Place.
I feel like as men we are often pretty unaware of these defaults, which is maybe why some people don't "get" that the Hollaback video is simply a broader indication of the way it seems society places different value on the way men interact with other men and with women. It also hits home how lucky we are to be operating without constraint
What is the point of creating new laws when the ones we already have are not being used effectively? A law is only as good as its implementation. It is already possible to prosecute non-physical forms of abuse - including psychiatric injury, threats, stalking and harassment. We need to get the basics right first... I agree that the law needs to be strengthened - but not by criminalising coercive control. Instead, the government needs to abandon its gender-neutral approach to tackling domestic violence and start addressing violence against women for what it truly is - a deeply gendered crime.
For the first time in my life, I find myself putting family before (or at least on the same level as) work. It's a truly uncomfortable feeling. At first, there's the realisation that things will never be the same again, and then there's the even more awkward, mid-life crisis-inducing emotion that for the past 15 years, I've likely had my priorities wrong.
Many ex servicemen and women have found it difficult to get a job and others to support themselves financially. In many cases, they don't have friends or even family to turn to and this has resulted in them becoming homeless. The challenge to get their lives back on track seems impossible and many of them just don't know where to turn.
We all need to change the way we talk about men because not only does it benefit how they see themselves, but because it will change how they view women. If we can prevent the problems of the past that men have created for women then both sexes win.
It's a devastatingly harsh condition to live with and one that leads to severe isolation, especially in my experience, for men. We often struggle to talk about our feelings and often when I've explained my circumstances, people simply don't know what to say.
Three out of four suicides in the UK are men. Every two hours somewhere across the UK a man will take his life. It is about time we started to address this. It is a complex issue but we want to bring it out of the shadows, strip down the stigmas that surround this challenge and start to look at it from a gendered and male perspective. At Movember, we believe that by applying a male lens on men's mental health issues, we will be better able to support men in seeking help and treatment earlier.
That's certainly the case for prostate cancer screening in men, according to researchers in Canada who last week recommended scrapping PSA (prostate-specific antigen) testing, even for those considered high risk.
Overwhelmed by emotions, I hid in an adjacent office. I broke down, my sadness manifesting itself in floods of tears. I was frightened in case anyone walked in and found me crying, potentially resulting in the discovery of my illness. The next week, preceding my initial appointment at the HIV clinic, was one of fear and, to a limited degree, suspense...