As a divorce lawyer I am often asked what my general advice is for people contemplating or going through divorce. I thought it might be helpful for me to provide a brief summary via my blog in the hope it will prove helpful for people in this situation.
To censor myself, or adapt my Blog, to remove mention of the maternal, would amount to succumbing to the taboo of mentioning - let alone promoting - mothering and maternal care, and to the unease with which women often feel in proclaiming their rights or protecting the interests of themselves or their families.
We're brought up and encouraged to explore our own individualities, to forge our own opinions, to make our own judgements on the world, and yet, even in this day and age, we're often discouraged when we genuinely want to explore our own routes.
We need to be having the type of conversation that we are happy to have on our blogs and in forums and Facebook groups in the big wide world face to face with people. More than that though do we need to talk to people who are not already on our wave length, we need to stop preaching to the converted and start preaching to the masses.
It was a good look and quite easily put him in the running for best dressed Chancellor in the past 50 years. Admittedly the competition from Ken Clarke, John Major, and Alistair Darling isn't exactly that strong, and the only thing Gordon Brown wore well was a scowl.
The Call To Men UK programme is nationally ground-breaking - a 10 week curriculum for teenage lads, delivered in school, in how to unpick language, media images, historical beliefs and their own attitudes towards women and girls and themselves as developing men.
Unfortunately, in this case a process which is of huge public interest has gone on behind closed doors rather than adopting the transparent and inclusive approach that was promised by politicians and civil servants alike. It fuels suspicion that the decision was made on a muddle of flawed criteria.
It wouldn't be hard to fit a fold down table in most male rest-rooms (not sure I'd want to rest in one), provide a plastic yellow bin (with those special lids) and allow men the dignity of changing their baby in their own sexes toilet.
I know I'm not the only one who finds it frustrating that a man simply has to decide to lose weight and it drops off (or so it appears), while so many women have a constant battle with their weight - struggling to lose a few pounds, only to then end up gaining it all back!
I'm sorry I've been such an ungrateful son all these years Mum. I'm sorry for the cheap flowers on Mother's Days gone by. I'm sorry I have normally been the one to eat the chocolates rather than to provide them.
Football socks. Tracksuit bottoms. Old t-shirt. No this isn't the attire of someone languidly sat on the sofa on a Sunday. This is the uniform I have suggested my Male Adult Beginner wears for his first ballet class with me!
This is something I have heard many times before. When people hear I have two girls they say something along the lines of "Oh, would you like to try for a boy?" or "Thats a shame, it would have been nice to have one of each." I have no idea why people say this.
As we know prevention of depression is vitally important before the situation gets to crisis point. If we can educate everyone, both male and female on the same even level, this can reach out and help more fathers come forward to seek help and end the stigma of the illness which is depression.
When I realised I was in trouble, I found there wasn't much help out there for me. It would take months for me to gather the courage to open a browser window, only to find when I type the words "Abuse" or "Violence", I would only find services and campaigns catered to women.
I'm a big one for calling them out every time they trot out something as interesting, insightful and revolutionary, which is actually common sense, no sense or nonsense. Then this study comes along, and it's reaffirmed my faith in statistics everywhere. If mathematicians and scientists could design their own porn, it'd be a naked somebody rolling around on findings just like this.
Too often, eating disorders in men is taken less seriously and 'novel' given the ratio between men and women suffering meaning men are the minority. Men suffering who are clearly isolated and marginalised need not have their gender questioned or jokes made about their non-existent periods.