The new academic year will soon be upon us. Some parents will see their child head off for university. You may look at this as freedom-at-last: your child will be leaving home, allowing you to do what you have longed to do all these years. Some of you will fear the empty nest syndrome. And for others, possibly most, a mixture of both.
A recent convert to mindful living I've been slowly trying to change my life. So far I've made some significant steps to a better existence. My attitude to work is the biggest change. Instead of mindlessly driving myself into the ground trying to do a great job, I'm still doing my job well but with a few simple tweaks.
What do you mean I'm holding on? I'm trying to forget it but the wretched thing just won't go away! That's exactly the point. Your head wants to get rid of it but your mind is holding on - without you realising or knowing why. Eventually your holding on will form a habit and that is how you will tend to react to situations.
Do you ever find yourself rewinding the movie you're watching over and over again? Do you have to read the same paragraph multiple times? Most people are unmindful several times a day; simply being unaware of their surroundings or what's going on. Practicing mindfulness improves both your mental and physical health.
I'd been toying with the idea of meditation for years. As a health and beauty journalist, I knew all the benefits - from better concentration and sleep to stress reduction - but I just couldn't get my head round actually doing it. I'm a working mum so my spare time is limited. Yet though I could find time for exercise, I could never quite shape up to just sitting still and doing what seemed like nothing.
Both my therapist and intuitive reader told me that I need to "stay on course;" my reader was referring to my life's path, and my therapist was referring to my journey through the anxiety. If you think about it, the two aspects they were referring to completely depend on each other; they have a symbiotic relationship.
This symbol is the Japanese character "DÒ" (pronounced doe). "DÒ" refers to practice as a way of life. The closest (and rarely used) word in the English language for one who lives according to this principle is "practic." The definition of practic is "a person concerned with action or practice, as opposed to one concerned with theory."
As a coach and facilitator, I help individuals and organizations realize peak performance and wellbeing. This work centers on the application of an idea known as neuroplasticity. That is, how you respond to your circumstances not only shapes your experience in the present moment, it also builds pathways in the brain that facilitate that response in the future.
Christmas is the time of cheer and happiness. But how many of you are fretting about the getting together of relatives and in-laws, panicking about what to cook, wear, eat, do, buy, how to get on with the extended family, let alone your own - under the same roof, and for some, how to cope with loneliness at Christmas?