It's no secret - I detest work that requires sitting down and I detest work that requires using my brain. These two traits were the cause of my dismal...
Children love to feel secure because it makes them feel happy. We're all happy when we feel safe and secure, and we all feel the opposite when thrust into a changing, unsure situation - though as adults we should be adjusted enough to deal with uncertainty better than our kids.
Our young people need to learn how to think about projects, how to work on those projects and overcome frustrations and set backs, and how to implement and communicate solutions.
I wish I had known that refusing to pay for childcare to get the break I so desperately needed as my husband worked seven days a week would eventually make me MISERABLE.
Many people keep asking me how I managed to get them to sleep through the night at such a young age, so I thought I should share some of my tried and tested tips. Here they are:
So, the unwritten rule as a kid is to rebel, rebel, rebel ... parent suggests an early night ... teen thinks let's stay up all night. Parent suggests teen gets some studying done ... teen thinks yeah right let's spend all night on my phone.
Weaning isn't anything to be frightened of. Neither is it a definitive, military operation, governed by strict rules and riddled with pitfalls and potentially calamitous consequences.
Can you believe that my daughter is going to be 1 this week? I can't, and I've been a bit slow in the buying of birthday gifts in comparison to when her big brother turned one. Denial? Probably. But it was in buying her special first birthday gift that got me to thinking...
When I deliver talks and workshops in schools, it surprises me how many parents and teachers ask me what my best parenting tip is. Over the years I have interviewed many leading figures from the world of education and psychology, but a few 'golden nuggets' have stayed with me.
Arrange for your partner, husband or a reliable friend to look after your child for just an hour approximately. Feed your child, change their nappy and head out of the door to the nearest coffee shop. Enjoy a hot drink of your choice in peace.
Why not try this. For the next week, don't write any Facebook status's that are negative towards your life, or your children. Only write something, when something good happens.
While it is natural for your darling or even yourself to be constantly obsessed with the baby, you want to spend some time together in a 'baby free' zone. When you do things you used to do together, just without talking about babies.
If you're a parent of enquiring minds you've had to face the terrorism question. If you're lucky it was only, What is a terrorist?. If you're less lucky you had to satisfy, What is ISIS? and if you're downright unlucky, your offspring demanded an explanation for, Why does someone kill for ISIS? Honestly, I'd rather have the S.E.X talk than this one.
Ignoring your kids is not technology specific. In fact sometimes I wonder if all the bad rap it gets means that parents actually engage with their kids far more than was common in previous generations. I'm pretty sure I used to get ignored frequently as a child, as did we all, because banging on about the ways parents were letting their children down just wasn't really 'a thing'.
Just as sweets are classified as a 'sometimes' food, brushing hair is a 'sometimes' activity. Obviously that doesn't mean letting the kids grow their own dreadlocks, but does it really matter if they leave the house with a bit of a birds-nesty look occasionally?
I don't believe money is the answer. In my experience, more people do volunteer if you make it easy for them. Chop up jobs into bite-size chunks and offer shorter rota slots. Let people see who else is helping and give them control over what they do.