Monogamy

Open Relationships for Monogamous People

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 28.08.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

There's a rumour going around, propagated by [some] polyamorists, that polyamory is a superior ideology to monogamy. Let's face it, 'limitless love' does sound wholly honorable and blissful, even if 'limitless sex' with multiple partners sounds ~ for most of our sex-negative society ~ quite the opposite.

No Better Than She Ought to Be: Why We Should Stop Throwing Stones at Sally Bercow

Christina Franks | Posted 07.04.2014 | UK Politics
Christina Franks

Why is marriage, and monogamy at that, still held up as the abiding principal we want upheld from our leaders (and their non-elected spouses?) Why are we so retrograde about our politicians? Why do we expect them to have conservative spouses, whichever political flag they might be flying?

Polyamory and Monogamy Mixing Under the Influence

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 04.03.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Monogamy, once the structure and safehold of my rule-based life now resembles the unhappy wasteland of Auschwitz. It is a place I once lived in, starved of freedom, healthy love and emotional growth. I clung to it as an better known devil and whilst I accept monogamy as a choice of my friends, I don't find it rational or sane

Lack of Maternal Love - a Driver for Polyamory?

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 25.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Though I continue to believe, seven years on, that multi-partner relationships are a healthier and happier choice for me, my family and my partners, I have no problem admitting that at least one catalyst for my inclination was a painful formative experience.

Why Jealousy Is a Wonderful Opportunity

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Is your relationship in danger of breaking up? Then your jealousy is shouting at you to 'wake the fuck up' and work on it. And if your relationship is fine (polyamorous or otherwise) it tells you that you have deeper rooted self-esteem issue.

My Problem With Monogamy - Comfort Instead of Happiness

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Monogamy is designed to keep couples together by creating barriers of exit; socially; financially and psychologically. One cannot look at the divorce statistics to ascertain how successful it is; this only proves how many couples remain married. Not how many couples remain happily married...

The Exposed Wound - How Polyamory Healed Our Codependent Relationship

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

As the seed of co-dependency is unhealed and 'impactful' childhood trauma, so in our fear ridden and controlling society the phenomenon of codependency is extremely common. Since codependency attracts codependency in every relationship.

Are You Ready to Open Your Relationship?

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 16.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

It's a fact. Whilst most humans might have an inclination to 'pair bond' many of us also have a roving eye. At a biological level our most successful survival tactic is not - as the church might tell you - remain faithful and worship a deity in the hope of salvation, it is to breed with many partners.

Jealousy in an Open Relationship - 'He Slept With Someone'

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 04.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Whilst I may be in an open relationship, I am not some enlightened being immune from jealousy. I am not above jealousy. Because I, like the rest of the planet, used jealousy to get what I wanted and needed as a child. Jealousy is a highly successful tactic the mind has for seeking security outside ourselves.

The Hell of Monogamy - A Polyamorist Perspective

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 25.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

In trying to fit their round polyamorous selves into a monogamous square hole, they will ultimately fail and repeat a pattern of guilt and self loathing which contributes further to lower their self esteem. Their obvious failures and misery are compounded by the disgust of their peers, parents and often even their friends.

Is Monogamy No Longer Possible?

Planet Ivy | Posted 13.07.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Planet Ivy

Infidelity in long-term, monogamous relationships is often inevitable. Don't get me wrong, for some people monogamy works, it's natural, it's fine. Good for them. But for an awful lot of people it's a Herculean task, a constant struggle with the self, a battle against all bodily instincts.

An Experiment In Monogamy

Nicola Six | Posted 18.03.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Nicola Six

"My place or yours?" He slurred. "You said you had a wine cellar" I replied, already hailing a cab. And thus I woke up in his well appointed South London bachelor pad, still wearing my dress but only one of my six-inch long diamond drop earrings.

Monogamy Is Dead

Louise van der Velde | Posted 04.03.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Louise van der Velde

The controversial truth is that the state of marriage - and, more importantly, the monogamy it entails - isn't really working for most people in today's society... the sad reality is that many people simply cannot live up to the expectations of life and sex with a single partner.

Fidelity Is a Fairytale

Helen Croydon | Posted 29.10.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Helen Croydon

Now, more than at any other time, we need to adopt a more flexible approach to coupledom. Yet as the world allows for increasingly autonomous lifestyles, we tighten the reins on our spouses.

I Can't Trust Serial Monogamists

Helen Croydon | Posted 11.07.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Helen Croydon

This week I was interviewing long-term happy bachelors for a women's magazine on the rise of singledom. When I say long-term, I mean willingly long-term. Not the spluttering, nervous, perspiring ones who hang around speed dating events desperate to find a girlfriend.