I'm lucky. I'm happily partnered up with someone who looks at me a bit oddly when I suggest that my disability might have put him off me. But it's true that lots of people feel uncomfortable even talking to disabled people, let alone thinking about dating them - let alone thinking about (whisper it!) sex with them.
A lot of men get confused between a dating app and a sex line, there are too many to mention who start off with polite conversation and when you exchanged numbers the first message on What's App is a selfie of them in the bathroom mirror with a pair of bulging Calvin Klein's, some even ditch the boxers and go straight for the kill - what are they thinking?
The most important thing I want to teach you is that you don't have to write long essays to get a reply. You'll be contacting lots of people every day, so sending long messages can really zap your energy and motivation. If they are popular they won't have time to read everything anyway, so short messages will get their attention.
It seems like online dating has its own set of rules, some of them more obscure than you might think. For example, apparently you are likely to get more hits if you wear red in your profile picture. Also, and this is not research, just anecdotal, you are less likely to get hits if your profile pic is a selfie (no friends).
Tinder is so 'hot right now' (unlike that phrase, unless you're Paris Hilton- the shame). Everyone is doing it and no one seems to be slowing down. The web is littered with people's opinions on the app, from where's best to do it, to how to get the best out of it. I can only hope this is just as useful.
Everywhere I turn there is a clock reminding me how late my date is. Late, late, late. I can't look at my wrist any more, above the bar is off limits, and outside, a clock tower looms in my eyeline. And just to serve as one more reminder, even the barman's wonky eyes are positioned at ten to two. I roll my own baby-blues and go back to studying my rapidly draining pint glass.
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